Quiet Storm Posted June 11, 2014 Share Posted June 11, 2014 I am more concerned that he felt a need to tell this to you. Either he feels very guilty about this and wants to get it off his chest, or he is trying to give you a hint that he is much more sexually crazy than you think he is. I just wonder what he hoped to gain by sharing this with you. Maybe he wanted to be honest with his GF. Is wanting to be honest with your significant other so rare that there needs to be some hidden motivation? When my husband and I were dating, we shared everything. Not because we had an agenda or hoped to gain something, but because we wanted to truly know each other. Couples are supposed to be close. Sharing your experiences, thoughts, fears, regrets can do two things. 1) it fosters a bond and builds intimacy or 2) you find out they are not compatible with you. He may have known she might have an issue with it, so decided to let her decide if it is a problem for her. This is the way it should be, IMO. If you have something in your past that your partner might have an issue with, tell them and let them decide if they can handle it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 11, 2014 Share Posted June 11, 2014 I understand your surprise and disdain at his story but that was 9 years ago, while he was in high school. I would not see this as a reflection of the man he is today. In the grand picture of things it's nothing. Judge him as per who he is today and on how he treats you. You are also both inexperienced. As you age you will realize you don't need to know every little details of your boyfriend's past. I never ask my boyfriends how many partners they had or what is the wildest sexual thing they did, I don't give a rat @ss about it, what's important is now, in this moment, what kind of partner are you to me. Link to post Share on other sites
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