confused83 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Just need any advice whatsoever as im in bits. Dont need to go into details about what happened with the ex im 31 she was 26 and i have pretty strong feelings she was using me and seeing someone else as we only went out for 8 months and had sex nearly daily then it suddenly dropped to once a month if lucky, along with everything else. My question is this... How do you get over someone you love and a kid you love? thats right, i also took on a 2 year old lad in this relationship as the father was never around, i never expected to connect so well with him but he became my little lad (as stupid as that sounds to you guys) he looked up to me, copied everything i did, even the mum got jelous because he used to come hug me and things over her (even though i told her he did it obviously because i wasnt around all the time). We where becoming a family and was inseperable then it just changed and we had a month of hell until she finally dumped me. I just dont know what to do, i no i dont want her back because of how she treat me so poorly and was stubborn and whenever i asked for anything my way she'd end it. ive had relationships before and they obviously ended, im a decent looking lad and really honest & loyal im confident i can get someone else that isnt the issue but the problem is because im not the kids dad im just expected to disapear altogether. i got dumped, ive been dumped before and been the person doing the ending it but this feels different. knowing i wont see her again is hard enough but also knowing ive lost a family i cant handle. i really dont no what to anymore. everyone will say forget it he isnt yours etc but ive always been a family type man and always wanted my own family and feel i nearly had it as we spoke about our own kids too and it just ended so suddenly. ive blocked her on everything but dont no how to move on, tried going out with friends and i end up just going home to think, tried drinking but makes me down and upset. all my firends have kids so when i go to theres i end up just feeling awful again
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Is this really about her or about the fact that you feel you should be settled and have kids of your own now... more maybe the "family" unit than her? x
Author confused83 Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Is this really about her or about the fact that you feel you should be settled and have kids of your own now... more maybe the "family" unit than her? x to be honest, im not sure. at the moment i love her but also have so many issues with the realtionship that i wanted to solve but she never wanted to change, kept telling me to change whenever i asked her too she dumped me.
HappyLove Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Confused, you deserve a healthy non dysfunctional relationship! Give yourself time to heal. Of course you're not going to feel better overnight but eventually you will. In the meantime work on yourself and figure out why you stayed in such a bad relationship so you don't repeat the same mistakes. Hopefully in the future, in a healthy relationship you can have your own children and family.
phineas Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I'm concerned with the fact you were with her kid so much and how young he was. You didn't loose anything. You dodged a bullet. 1
giblesp Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I'm concerned with the fact you were with her kid so much and how young he was. You didn't loose anything. You dodged a bullet. Take this advice, its correct. 1
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