veronica21 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I went through a bad break up with my bf of a year a couple of weeks ago and I'm really having a hard time I moved in with him last Christmas, moved 1200 miles to be with him and he was very controlling. He wouldn't let me have any friends, so all the people I met were his friends and they are all I know. I'm staying with one of his friends (and his room mate) and its very awkward because now they are being very controlling. I lost my job because my bf was also in the management at the same company and got me fired, so I'm kinda in a bind now I sleep on the couch and his friend came in the living room a few nights ago and I woke up with him with his hand up my t shirt ( that's what I sleep in) and he forced himself on me. Last night his room mate tried the same thing and I locked myself in the bathroom and ended up falling asleep on the floor. They left for work this morning and were gone when I woke up. I called my now ex bf and told him what kind of friends he has and he said he already talked with them this morning and they were all laughing about it He also told me he put his friends up to it and now I am the joke of his circle of friends cause now they all know. I feel so worthless now, and I just wanted to get my feelings out somewhere. I just want to cry and scream Why are guys so cruel at times.
TylerDurdenn Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Call the police, they tried to rape you. Then move home. 1
KaliLove Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Call the police, they tried to rape you. Then move home. They DID rape her. Veronica, why didn't you call the police? You cannot stay there anymore. Where's your family? Can you go to them? You need to get out of there immediately. Better to be in a homeless shelter than that place. 1
Author veronica21 Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 I don't have any family, other than my sister but we don't get along. I am scared to go to a shelter, so I'm probably going to sleep in my car. The guy that forced himself on me said its his word against mine, and that it was my fault because I am "easy" and I wanted it. If I didn't want to do it I should not have given in. He is much bigger than me, I'm only 5'1" and 105lbs and he is over 6' and weighs two times more than me. I tried to fight him off but couldn't, so yes I guess I "gave in" and screwed him. He said if it wasn't good for me I wouldn't have kissed him while we had sex. I don't remember doing that, but I just gave up and did what he wanted. Now the room mate thinks I'm his next toy. I was able to get away from him but not until after he pulled all my clothes off. He was drunk, and says it didn't happen. I think they did something to my car cause now it wont start
April Moon Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Veronica, I am so sorry that this is happening to you. This is disgusting. Please do not stand for it! Please call the police. Then try and get in contact with some friends. I urge you to get out of this environment immediately.
CarrieT Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Please, please, please call the police. He said/she said can be worked out by the authorities and they can at least get you some help in the meantime.
amaysngrace Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) Call your sister. Even if you don't get along I highly doubt that she would not try to help you if she could. Also there are places for rape victims. They offer counseling and temporary housing. The one in my area is very nice and looks just like a regular pretty house. Have the police bring you there if your car won't work but get out of there today. https://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-hotline Edited June 10, 2014 by amaysngrace
Author veronica21 Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 I feel like I'm in a really bad dream. I'm so stupid and I cant believe I allowed myself to be put in this situation I'm so embarrassed and I couldn't tell anyone face to face about whats happened. I'm going to walk to town and see if I can find a place to stay. I'm out in the country and theres not many people out here. I'll just have to try to get my car later.
amaysngrace Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I feel like I'm in a really bad dream. I'm so stupid and I cant believe I allowed myself to be put in this situation I'm so embarrassed and I couldn't tell anyone face to face about whats happened. I'm going to walk to town and see if I can find a place to stay. I'm out in the country and theres not many people out here. I'll just have to try to get my car later. Yeah that's exactly how it feels...like a bad dream You shouldn't feel stupid. You didn't ask for this to happen. Is there a hospital nearby? Walk there and talk to a nurse. Please?
gj13 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Oh my, Im so sorry you're going through all this and I realize you must be TERRIFIED. But please, PLEASE get out of there. Go to the police, NO ONE has the right to force himself into you. NO ONE. Please move out even if you have to leave your car, clothes and yes do call your sister. She is your family and i'm sure if you let her know what has happened she can provide you with a place ot stay until you find a job and home of your own.
Poppyolive Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 My heart. This is horrible. Reach out tell the police, you'll be taken care of. Wander in to the police station, you will be amazed at how quickly they can take care or you and guide you on the right path. . Please know this is all them. Not you. Where are you? Hugs
Elle1975 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I will be honest. I am always hesitant to answer posts like yours on the internet, as I always wonder if it's legit or not. The problem with cases like this is that you convince yourself that it's your fault. At the very least he took advantage of your bad situation, and that alone is bad enough. I wouldn't call the police. I would go to the police in person. The "if you don't report it, he'll do it again" is true. They get away with it once and then the violence just escalates. Or he marries some girl and gets to pretend he's such a great guy. Either way, I'd report his @ss. The police isn't a bunch of doughnut munchers, they actually are trained for that kind of situation. When they turn the heat on that guy, and believe me, they will, he'll give in. He's an opportunist, not a criminal with a long history of lying. He'll talk. 1
irresolute Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 uhmm this story is unbelievable. you have internet, girl. why, instead of posting here, tell your sister or any friend you might have what happened? I'm sorry, I'm not buying this story. 1
CaliBabe Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 They are laughing at you? You want the last laugh? CALL THE POLICE NOW! Charge them with rape. You will never be able to live with yourself if you let someone do this to you. Take charge of your life right now. Call the police!
irresolute Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 People, it's a troll. Look at her picture, it seems a joke. She's been raped, yet she has time to post here, upload a picture, create this account etc instead of going to the police? C'mon! 1
KaliLove Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I will be honest. I am always hesitant to answer posts like yours on the internet, as I always wonder if it's legit or not. The problem with cases like this is that you convince yourself that it's your fault. At the very least he took advantage of your bad situation, and that alone is bad enough. I wouldn't call the police. I would go to the police in person. The "if you don't report it, he'll do it again" is true. They get away with it once and then the violence just escalates. Or he marries some girl and gets to pretend he's such a great guy. Either way, I'd report his @ss. The police isn't a bunch of doughnut munchers, they actually are trained for that kind of situation. When they turn the heat on that guy, and believe me, they will, he'll give in. He's an opportunist, not a criminal with a long history of lying. He'll talk. I agree, but even if it's not real, maybe there's someone else who's reading this who's in a similar situation and could benefit from the advice everyone is giving. 1
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