PJKino Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I've felt this nervousness and intimidation around really hot guys, but it never lasts. After a couple weeks, the sheen wears off and I feel more on equal terms. Yet you claim looks aren that important to you all the time lol
M30USA Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 THEY refuse to do anything except meet for coffee!!!! I'm the smart one that knows fun interaction is how you get to know people best. It's the ignorant stupid women that I have to deal with that refuse to take part in that. They force it to be a mundane job interview type setting. I would love to take a woman to a pet store, a museum, go to the park, go to a car show,… Anything except sitting at a table face-to-face interviewing each other… But it's the women that want to do that… And it's annoying as hell and has pretty much made me lose interest in dating and putting up with the whole idiotic situation altogether. Looks like you didn't get the job, hehe. You should tell these women, "I'll respectfully decline this interview and I will take my skill set elsewhere." 1
janedoe67 Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I will be the first to admit that we women are....frustratingly inconsistent creatures at times. And honestly....some women make me almost embarrassed to BE a woman, until I realize THEY are the ones who need to be embarrassed. However, a GOOD woman who is worth your time will at least be kind if you are authentic, respectful, gracious, optimistic, and have appropriate boundaries. Will they always go out with you? No because we all have our own attractors. That's life. If you display the above qualities and a woman acts like a bitch, then she wasn't good enough for you. Plain and simple. 5
NYWoman Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Small wonder that he keeps striking out. It is all the women's fault. After all he is the expert and knows what women should want.
Under The Radar Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Turk, the next time you are in Pittsburgh, can you take me to the pet store? Seriously ...... I LOVE animals . 1
Charlie Harper Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Super hot people, have problems too !!! In women, they will be asked out not very often, and if they are intelligent and successful, they will be despised by women…for no reason. Some of them will be lonely and will go out with all around douchebgs, because only players a D bags have the cojones to ask them out… In men the problem is that they will be hit by women all the time, and it takes a lot od character and integrity not to make your life a carrousel of women/relationships, also if you have a jealous GF…ops..recipe for disaster. Good looking people, also get things for free and tons of favours without asking, I know it because my older son is off the scale handsome and he always gets stuff, advice, invitations, presents… you name it..
Anela Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I will be the first to admit that we women are....frustratingly inconsistent creatures at times. And honestly....some women make me almost embarrassed to BE a woman, until I realize THEY are the ones who need to be embarrassed. However, a GOOD woman who is worth your time will at least be kind if you are authentic, respectful, gracious, optimistic, and have appropriate boundaries. Will they always go out with you? No because we all have our own attractors. That's life. If you display the above qualities and a woman acts like a bitch, then she wasn't good enough for you. Plain and simple. I agree with all of this, but since all women in my area have already been described as "f**king c*nts", then I'm in no mood to prove otherwise. 1
Under The Radar Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 From now on I deem Ohio a generalization free zone ...... carry on.
nofeelings22 Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Knowing what women want and refusing to give it to them are two different things genius. Any idiot can swoon a woman and alter his behavior and words to make himself appealing to her if she chooses so. I refuse to be anything but myself. But it's the women that want to be catered too and shown affection emotion, and flirtation from day one. As I said before… That's why players are so successful… It's not any big mystery on how to get a woman to like you… It's getting her to like the real you… That's where the hard part comes in. I could go out and be safe just like most other guys… Telling a woman what she wants to hear so I can get laid, and live a fake relationship just so she likes me… but I refuse to do that. And of course I'm the one that's chastised in our society for being real and not bending to the bullsh*t courting rules that all of you talk about. I think I found the problem, Turk! Mostly, you have a lot of it right. Here is where the problem lies. Human beings... girls and guys both, like to get to know someone slowly. They like to have some mysteries. Some unanswered curiosities. They don't want to get too deep or too serious too fast. It scares them off. So... by being the real you in the first couple of dates, it is too much. We all have to put on fake faces. Think of your work/professional face vs sitting on the couch at home. This is exactly the same. You want to keep it light and fun and reveal the real you slowly, over weeks. The mystery is half of what will keep them coming back for more. Jusy like you don't get hired at a job interview by leading with the real you, you won't win over women with the real you so early on. We all have to put a little show on at first. All of us. The women are putting a show on for you too. In reality, the are makeupless, farting, bathroom stinking, burpung machines like everyone else. lolol But they hide all of that to give you a good first impression. As you get to know them, the real personn will slowly come out. All you need to do is the same. Take it slowly. 1
nofeelings22 Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 And if they will only have coffee, outsmart them! Get coffe in a scenic, walkable area and get it to go! 2
Under The Radar Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Wait a minute ...... girls fart and burp? *UTR taking copious amounts of notes* LOL 4
alwayshere Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Wait a minute ...... girls fart and burp? *UTR taking copious amounts of notes* LOL No...we have the vapors, become discomforted, and glisten instead of sweat. Geeeeeeeez 3
Anela Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 From now on I deem Ohio a generalization free zone ...... carry on. The other evening, in the bookstore, I found myself being more concerned with a man's feelings, than I was with my own discomfort - most women are too polite for their own good. I know that I can be.
clia Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 And make your dates fun and interesting. Never take girls to dinner or a movie. You can't get to know each other at a movie and dinner as a first date is like you're at a damn job interview. Go do something fun instead. Then eat if you're both hungry. And...a little trick of mine to make eating less like an interview: Sit on the same side of the table.Nobody feels like they are under interrogation when you both sit on the same side. I have to ask...how do women react to this? I would think a guy was a huge weirdo if he sat on the same side of the table as me on a first or second date. 2
Under The Radar Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 The other evening, in the bookstore, I found myself being more concerned with a man's feelings, than I was with my own discomfort - most women are too polite for their own good. I know that I can be. I never want you to be a doormat Anela ...... ...... but I sure do love your politeness . 3
nofeelings22 Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 (edited) I have to ask...how do women react to this? I would think a guy was a huge weirdo if he sat on the same side of the table as me on a first or second date. They love it, or I wouldn't do it. It creates a very quick "we're on the same side" feeling. It instantly removes that interview feeling you can have with even your own wife on the far side of the boardroom er... restaurant table. I learned this one from my ex wife actually. She did it to me on one of our first dates. And you know what? It worked. At that very moment, i knew she was weird enough for me. ha ha ha Most girls think I'm a huge weirdo and that's exactly why they stay. Honestly, a lot of what you can and can't do comes from how people perceive you, in general. Different people can get away with different things. It depends on how people perceive you. Im lucky not to be perceived as agressive, a perv or anything like that. So... i can jump right over and women like it, actually. I am not an average, ordinary type person. I do a lot of weird stuff throughout all aspects of my life. So... I keep my women on their toes. lol In fact, the only 2 positive things my ex wife said were that I was ridiculously smart and there was never a boring moment with me. Or are those negative? ha ha That would be super weird on a first date definitely. But no sit down dinners on a first date for me anyway. Going out to do something fun or to have a few dinks is more my style, so I already have a rapport and probably physical history before we sit down at a restaurant. Edited June 11, 2014 by nofeelings22
William Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Sorry got sidetracked.... it appears a chat-style threadjack ensued that had nothing to do with the effects of good looking people as posed in the starting post so I cleaned that up, moderated one member for repetitive off-topic posts and suggest to members if they have off-topic one-liners to sling, do it in our Off-Topic thread in the Water Cooler area, or start your own thread on the topic and open it to comments. Here, we'll discuss the effects of good looking people. Thanks!
writergal Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 (edited) I think good looking people set a standard that's unrealistic for average looking people. Look at all the magazines with Photoshopped images of celebrities and models that don't reflect reality. Consumers end up comparing themselves to images that aren't even real as a standard they should set themselves too. Edited June 11, 2014 by writergal 2
MrTurk2 Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I think good looking people set a standard that's unrealistic for average looking people. Look at all the magazines with Photoshopped images of celebrities and models that don't reflect reality. Consumers end up comparing themselves to images that aren't even real as a standard they should set themselves too. And majority of women here in the U.S. spend most of their lives chasing that image. Spending billions of dollars on perfecting themselves with makeup, shoes, pushup bras, surgery, and 100 other ways to cheat the system, in hopes they are accepted by society 1
Weezy1973 Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I think good looking people set a standard that's unrealistic for average looking people. Look at all the magazines with Photoshopped images of celebrities and models that don't reflect reality. Consumers end up comparing themselves to images that aren't even real as a standard they should set themselves too. If consumers stopped buying things with good looking people attached more frequently than things with average (or below average) people attached, then this wouldn't be an issue. Except they don't - most people are attracted to attractive people and therefore consume things that have attractive people associated with them. 3
D.Mc. Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Hi Eternal, Yes, I'm intimidated by very handsome men. I can't approach or flirt w/them in any way. Would I work harder for someone good looking? No, I would want to avoid them b/c I wouldn't be able to concentrate on my task. I would be fantasizing about them the whole workday. Good thing there's nobody I find handsome at work or school... (btw, in case anyone's wondering what my idea of handsome is: NOT Brad Pitt type or any of the screen idols of today). When I was younger I found the older actor from the Sons of Anarchy show attractive, without the scruffy beard look...now I can't remember his name: was the star of Hellboy.
Content Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I get weirded out by people who idolize good looking people or let it control their emotions,they look good admire it for a second and move on my god
iris219 Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Honestly, I don't remember the last time I've seen a really, really attractive person. How often do most people see model hot people?
ThaWholigan Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Honestly, I don't remember the last time I've seen a really, really attractive person. How often do most people see model hot people? Usually a couple times in a week. It's not super regular, but when out and about often in London - particularly central - you will see some stunning looking people. Of both genders!
SolG Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 My daughter (in her early twenties) is absolutely stunning. I find it fascinating to watch when we're out and about together to see how people react. Always get great service--people tripping over themselves to serve her--freebies thrown in, spontaneous discounts, etc... And the thing is she doesn't even seem to notice. She doesn't know any different. On the other end of the scale I had a girl work for me for a while who was uber attractive. She was also really lovely. Some of the other women in the workplace were horrible; I've never seen anything like it. Smear campaigns, catty comments, exclusion... you name it. Classic schoolyard bullying behaviour, just because they were threatened by her appearance. She told me that this wasn't unusual and that she'd experienced it before. So, there are definite pros and cons to being beautiful. 3
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