abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 So, I went on a second date with a guy. It's the first second date I've been on in 4 months, so I was pretty excited. The guy is amazing. I almost feel like he's too good for me. Anyway, at the end of the night, he hugged me and didn't go in for a kiss. Should I be worried? I thought he should have kissed me the first night but didn't. I'm starting to wonder if he is even into me.
Assasda Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 If you really want the kiss that bad, go for it. or ask for it. I'm sure youre not a little girl. Also work on your self esteem
Author abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 I lingered in his doorway for a few seconds waiting to see if I could make a move, but it seemed awkward. He was holding his dog back and told me to be careful so I didn't let the dog out. I lost my courage then because he seemed more interested in the dog not getting loose than kssing me. On a side note... he'll be out of town for a week. How often (if at all) should I text him during these 5 days? I used to be one of those girls who felt that nonstop communication via text was necessary, but now I just want to concentrate on the actual dates and not the texts between. However, I'm afraid not texting him all day sends the message I'm not interested.
Author abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Also work on your self esteem I'm trying. I've had a string of bad luck. 1
jbelle6 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 If you really want the kiss that bad, go for it. or ask for it. I'm sure youre not a little girl. Also work on your self esteem Ask for a kiss? Lame. Never known a man who didn't take a kiss when he wanted one, wouldn't date the guy who wouldn't anyways. And it's not about being a little girl, it's about not wanting to be with one. Some of us want men. 3
Author abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Ask for a kiss? Lame. Never known a man who didn't take a kiss when he wanted one, wouldn't date the guy who wouldn't anyways. And it's not about being a little girl, it's about not wanting to be with one. Some of us want men. I think it's kind of endearing if he's shy. I basically just want to know he WANTS to kiss me and how can I know that but through a kiss? 1
writergal Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 So he was inside his house, holding his dog back from getting out while you lingered on his front porch? Hmm. Well if he'd wanted to kiss you he probably would have. Who knows. Every guy is different. Did you leave it that he'll contact you when he gets back into town? Don't text or email him while he's away. Let him chase you instead. Guys like to chase. If you have to turn your phone off for 5 days then do it. Not texting him first, sends him the message that you have your own life and don't need to be in contact with him 24/7. He hasn't even kissed you yet, so I think texting him a lot over the next 5 days may come across clingy. Just let him text you first and take it from there. Hey may not even call or text you. If that's the case then you know he wasn't that interested. It's only been 2 dates. Relax. Let things happen. Be casual. Laid back. Distract yourself if you have to, but let him make the next move.
phineas Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 If he spends his time with you, he likes you. Seriously, men (most men) have better things to do than go on dates with women they aren't interested in. 3
angel.eyes Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Did he ask you on a third date? Frankly, that matters more than whether he kissed you. Send him a thank you text that you really enjoyed getting to know him better on your last date, then let it go.
Author abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 When I was driving away from his house, I got a text saying to save a movie for him until he gets back so we can watch it together. It was a movie he told me to watch earlier in the date. So we kind of have a third date planned.
marcjb Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Don't text or email him while he's away. Let him chase you instead. Guys like to chase. If you have to turn your phone off for 5 days then do it. Not texting him first, sends him the message that you have your own life and don't need to be in contact with him 24/7. He hasn't even kissed you yet, so I think texting him a lot over the next 5 days may come across clingy. Just let him text you first and take it from there. Hey may not even call or text you. If that's the case then you know he wasn't that interested. It's only been 2 dates. Relax. Let things happen. Be casual. Laid back. Distract yourself if you have to, but let him make the next move.I call this game playing, and as a guy, I don't like it or find it attractive. 3
Author abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 I call this game playing, and as a guy, I don't like it or find it attractive. How much texting do you like? I sound dumb asking this.
marcjb Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 How much texting do you like? I sound dumb asking this. No specific amount, just be natural. Don't overthink things. If you want to text them, then text them. If they don't respond, then leave things until they get back to you. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Normally, if a woman wanted to kiss, she would make a subtle gesture, such stepping in a little closer to the man, while she looks him in the eyes and at his lips, then wetting her lips a little. This obviously is done during a special moment when both of you are looking at each other. A woman has to give the "green light" for a kiss, not just stand there and smile, dreaming of a kiss. For a man it's nerve wracking trying to figure out if he should go in for a kiss or not, especially when a woman doesn't even give off a signal. I lingered in his doorway for a few seconds waiting to see if I could make a move, but it seemed awkward. He was holding his dog back and told me to be careful so I didn't let the dog out. I lost my courage then because he seemed more interested in the dog not getting loose than kssing me. You lingering was a good start, but you lost out to a dog. Sorry, but it's funny. Don't think too much of it because of the circumstance. Have a third date with him and give off a signal for a kiss. Also, you don't have to wait until the end of the date to get a kiss, but it's nice when it is at the end, which can leave you both wanting more. On a side note... he'll be out of town for a week. How often (if at all) should I text him during these 5 days? I used to be one of those girls who felt that nonstop communication via text was necessary, but now I just want to concentrate on the actual dates and not the texts between. However, I'm afraid not texting him all day sends the message I'm not interested. If you can, avoid texting. Just have a phone conversation with him. It's more personal than just a text. I would wait at least a day or two, and then call him. Don't be afraid to leave a voicemail, just keep it brief. A normal, well adjusted man will have his heart palpitate in excitement when he notices the woman he's gone on a couple dates with is showing a little initiative. Did you leave it that he'll contact you when he gets back into town? Don't text or email him while he's away. Let him chase you instead. Guys like to chase. If you have to turn your phone off for 5 days then do it. Not texting him first, sends him the message that you have your own life and don't need to be in contact with him 24/7. He hasn't even kissed you yet, so I think texting him a lot over the next 5 days may come across clingy. Just let him text you first and take it from there. Hey may not even call or text you. If that's the case then you know he wasn't that interested. Nope, I disagree with you on this. Why? Because as a man, I like it if the woman shows a little initiative, especially after a couple of dates. After date number two, the woman needs to reciprocate, or risk coming off as uninterested and stuck-up. Also, to iterate this once again, when a woman reaches out to a man, it does not come off as clingy or needy. It comes off as sexy. Well to a normal, well adjusted man, looking for a relationship. To a man looking to get laid and have flings, yes it's clingy. 4
somedude81 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 So, I went on a second date with a guy. It's the first second date I've been on in 4 months, so I was pretty excited. The guy is amazing. I almost feel like he's too good for me. Anyway, at the end of the night, he hugged me and didn't go in for a kiss. Should I be worried? I thought he should have kissed me the first night but didn't. I'm starting to wonder if he is even into me. It's amazing how some girl's minds work. You're basically saying that everything he did on the first two dates is now completely irrelevant because he didn't kiss you at the end of date two. Does that also mean that if a guy treats you like trash throughout the date, the date, and then kissed you at the end, it means he likes you? 1
Author abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 It's amazing how some girl's minds work. You're basically saying that everything he did on the first two dates is now completely irrelevant because he didn't kiss you at the end of date two. Does that also mean that if a guy treats you like trash throughout the date, the date, and then kissed you at the end, it means he likes you? Good point.
Author abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Normally, if a woman wanted to kiss, she would make a subtle gesture, such stepping in a little closer to the man, while she looks him in the eyes and at his lips, then wetting her lips a little. This obviously is done during a special moment when both of you are looking at each other. A woman has to give the "green light" for a kiss, not just stand there and smile, dreaming of a kiss. For a man it's nerve wracking trying to figure out if he should go in for a kiss or not, especially when a woman doesn't even give off a signal. You lingering was a good start, but you lost out to a dog. Sorry, but it's funny. Don't think too much of it because of the circumstance. Have a third date with him and give off a signal for a kiss. Also, you don't have to wait until the end of the date to get a kiss, but it's nice when it is at the end, which can leave you both wanting more. If you can, avoid texting. Just have a phone conversation with him. It's more personal than just a text. I would wait at least a day or two, and then call him. Don't be afraid to leave a voicemail, just keep it brief. A normal, well adjusted man will have his heart palpitate in excitement when he notices the woman he's gone on a couple dates with is showing a little initiative. Nope, I disagree with you on this. Why? Because as a man, I like it if the woman shows a little initiative, especially after a couple of dates. After date number two, the woman needs to reciprocate, or risk coming off as uninterested and stuck-up. Also, to iterate this once again, when a woman reaches out to a man, it does not come off as clingy or needy. It comes off as sexy. Well to a normal, well adjusted man, looking for a relationship. To a man looking to get laid and have flings, yes it's clingy. I would feel so cheesy licking my lips or giving him a come hither stare. I'm a pretty awkward person. I guess I should blame myself for the lack of a first kiss as much as him. Hmm
readynow Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Maybe he was being a gentleman... Wait, why were you on his front porch after the 2nd date? Definitely do not text him or call him. Reply to his texts the normal way. Don't chase him. Don't lick your lips hungrily begging him to kiss you. Why isn't he licking his own lips wanting you to kiss him? If he wanted to kiss you, he'd have locked the dog inside and done it. He had time to hug you, why not kiss? Maybe be he likes you just as a friend... Maybe he's waiting for the 3rd date. Let's see what happens when he returns - don't text him! 1
regine_phalange Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Awww, this kind of problems are so cute. My guess is that he is either shy or unsure whether you like him. If you don't want to kiss him first (why?) then when you embrace and right before you seperate, stroke his lower arm and find his hand. Hold it for a second or two. Look at him and tell him that you had a good time. Or give him a kiss on the cheek, but very close to the lips. 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I would have bent over and let the dog lay a big sloppy one on me, then laid it right back on the guy! But that's what years of insolence has done to me. OP, I have a feeling the third date is going to be your charm. I really do. 2
Frank2thepoint Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 If you don't want to kiss him first (why?) then when you embrace and right before you seperate, stroke his lower arm and find his hand. Hold it for a second or two. Look at him and tell him that you had a good time. Or give him a kiss on the cheek, but very close to the lips. This is also a very good example of giving a green light to the guy. Also, I really like how my dear kissable Scorpio mentions that there is nothing wrong with a woman kissing a guy a first. If you sense the romantic tension, being a little bold is very exciting. 1
Author abby_tx Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 I would have bent over and let the dog lay a big sloppy one on me, then laid it right back on the guy! But that's what years of insolence has done to me. OP, I have a feeling the third date is going to be your charm. I really do. Eek! I hope so! I'm so excited to see him.
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