RlyConfused Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 So im going home from my gym and i see my ex sitting on the bench, flirting with a guy (obviously a date). Ofcourse im mad, cuz i still have some feelings for her. But the thing is, that bench is 40 SECONDS AWAY FROM MY HOME.3 mins away there is a huge park where she could sit with him, but she is sitting on some poverty bench near street just in front of my home.I was ignoring her for 3 months, but she sees me every few days at college, she was trying to get my atention all that time but this is fcked up, she knows im walking around that area, why the ***** this woman can't leave me alone so i can get over her. Also when she saw me i could see she was stressed to see me. p.s. she dumped me, never gave me a second chance, but she can't *****ing let go me. I was willing to message and say fk off in a polite way but now i don't think i should break the contact, whats your opinions on this behaviour of her?
Elle1975 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 So im going home from my gym and i see my ex sitting on the bench, flirting with a guy (obviously a date). Ofcourse im mad, cuz i still have some feelings for her. But the thing is, that bench is 40 SECONDS AWAY FROM MY HOME.3 mins away there is a huge park where she could sit with him, but she is sitting on some poverty bench near street just in front of my home.I was ignoring her for 3 months, but she sees me every few days at college, she was trying to get my atention all that time but this is fcked up, she knows im walking around that area, why the ***** this woman can't leave me alone so i can get over her. Also when she saw me i could see she was stressed to see me. p.s. she dumped me, never gave me a second chance, but she can't *****ing let go me. I was willing to message and say fk off in a polite way but now i don't think i should break the contact, whats your opinions on this behaviour of her? Ignore it. I know it affects you, but don't show it.
Keenly Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 p.s. she dumped me, never gave me a second chance, but she can't *****ing let go me. Only you are responsible for your feelings. Its not that she can't let you go, its that you can't let her go. If you HAD truly let her go, you'd see them on that bench and think "She is that dudes problem now." 2
RemainUnchanged Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 if what you say is true, then she is obviously trying to "get to" you. like another poster said, don't let it get to you, be completely indifferent. -whoever cares the least, wins 1
bubbaganoosh Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Put a "Wet Paint" sign on the bench and they'll move. If that doesn't work, pain the bench and no sign. Seriously. If you want to forget about her then you go to get rid of the feelings you have. She dumped you. How did that make you feel? Piss you off? If the the case then use that as a crutch and move on. Also if you contact her, then all your doing is reopening the old wounds. Not advisable.
Author RlyConfused Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Always when i start to feel fine and moved on i get an emotional bomb like this, now i can't even sleep, stupid brains.Tomorrow is my last exam where i will see her last time for the summer, i hope i won't see her in any way during summer. This heartbreak thing is a true poison for body and mind.
Griesfootball Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Think you need to clear your mind of her because you say you have feelings for her but then say you want to tell her off so it seems like you are confused. But if you think she is moved on then you should follow suit or you will only feel more hurt.
amaysngrace Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Be flattered that she goes out of her way to get your attention. She messed up and it's her loss and she knows it. That's why she's still hanging around. Stay NC.
Chi townD Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I agree, she's trying to get under your skin so she can get you to break NC. If you responded to her with a "F*ck off!" text, then guess what? She wins! Mission accomplished! You stay NC then you give her nothing! She doesn't know if you saw her. She doesn't know if you're mad. She doesn't know if your indifferent. Nothing! But, she does know that you have one more exam and then you're gone for the summer. So, this was kind of a last ditch effort to get under your skin and get you talking to her before you leave for the summer.
Author RlyConfused Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 LOL, she just unblocked my online status on fb after she saw that i saw her with other guy (yes i have her on fb, notifications blocked ofc)
David87 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 LOL, she just unblocked my online status on fb after she saw that i saw her with other guy (yes i have her on fb, notifications blocked ofc) Yeah, now it's the perfect time to take control and block her . 1
Trimmer Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Do nothing. Even telling her to f*** off will just confirm that she is having an effect on you. The best possible scenario, as others are telling you, is to portray complete indifference. This means no contact or signals of any kind. If you think she MIGHT be there, don't even turn your head when you pass by. Don't paint the bench, don't put a sign up. You must portray COMPLETE indifference. I'm not saying it will be easy, and I know you won't feel that way - yet - but you must portray that to her. LOL, she just unblocked my online status on fb after she saw that i saw her with other guy (yes i have her on fb, notifications blocked ofc) You should have her unfriended and completely blocked to the maximum degree possible on FB. I believe that completely blocking someone on facebook means that they can't even see you in a search on your name. Do this. NOW. Disappear.
emotionalMess Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I had 2 facebook accounts: #1 was a an alias and she was a facebook friend. She blocked this one. #2 was my main account and she was not a facebook friend. I would send messages to her from account #2 and she was very slow to respond. I blocked her on account #2 for 60 days telling her that I could not be friends. After that 60 days and I unblocked #2, I sent 3 messages, giving in to her offer to be friends. She ignored all 3 then blocked #2. I was severely distraught (but I should not have been). Now I had the urge to check from time to time to see if she unblocked me. If I check and I am still blocked, the wound re-opens. My solution? I deleted both facebook accounts and will never know if she ever did unblock me. If she ever does unblock she will probably think that I blocked her even though I did not -I just dont exist on Facebook.
Author RlyConfused Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 So saw her at college today for the last time this summer, she was with her pissed off face as always (when im near) and i was just having fun with guys. I have no urge to contact her as i know it will only give me few sleepless nights and a boost to her ego.The only thing i hope is that i get completely over her by summer because i will still see her 3 years in college.
Elle1975 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 So saw her at college today for the last time this summer, she was with her pissed off face as always (when im near) and i was just having fun with guys. I have no urge to contact her as i know it will only give me few sleepless nights and a boost to her ego.The only thing i hope is that i get completely over her by summer because i will still see her 3 years in college. Unless you look like a mountain troll, it's college, you'll find another girl. I know, you want "that one", but guess what, she's not the one. Block her from your fb.. it's a conscious choice to keep her on it, and it's bad for you. I love the "paint the bench advice", and I'd love to see her @ss covered in yellow paint (don't do it though, joking!)
Author RlyConfused Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Unless you look like a mountain troll, it's college, you'll find another girl. I know, you want "that one", but guess what, she's not the one. Block her from your fb.. it's a conscious choice to keep her on it, and it's bad for you. I love the "paint the bench advice", and I'd love to see her @ss covered in yellow paint (don't do it though, joking!) yes i rejected few girls after breakup, because i didn't want other girls, blocking her would be nice but kinda akward since i will see her so much in partys, group projects and stuff like that, also we have some same friends
Chi townD Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 yes i rejected few girls after breakup, because i didn't want other girls, blocking her would be nice but kinda akward since i will see her so much in partys, group projects and stuff like that, also we have some same friends Dude, it sounds like you're putting more of an effort into seeing her than you do with not seeing her! If you know she's going to be at a party, then DON'T GO! It's college! There will be more parties! You don't think she won't "up her game"? Hell, she sat on a bench outside your place with another dude! The next thing she'll do is make out with a dude infront of you at one of these parties.
lauri Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Dude, it sounds like you're putting more of an effort into seeing her than you do with not seeing her! If you know she's going to be at a party, then DON'T GO! It's college! There will be more parties! You don't think she won't "up her game"? Hell, she sat on a bench outside your place with another dude! The next thing she'll do is make out with a dude infront of you at one of these parties. I agree with this. She is only going to up her game very soon and do something to REALLY piss you off and get your attention. It's killing this girl that you are ignoring her. But guess what, the minute she finds out you care, a "huge" weight will come off her shoulders and she won't even think about you anymore. The best thing to do is just avoid her. She is going really far out of her way to get your attention (kind of like my ex) - after I finally cracked and listened to her bs (which gave her that "closure" talk she wanted). She hasn't contacted me since and I couldn't careless. I can almost promise you the same thing will happen to you if you don't completely cut her out. No offense man but your ex sounds childish if that is what she is doing. Let her play her games, she'll just look like a loser in the end. If anything, that merits her being blocked by you. Take away her opportunities to play these games by disappearing and letting her live with her decision of letting you go.
Author RlyConfused Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Yes, she is childish, always try to make me jelous. Pisses me off that i didn't even cheat on her or lie or anything, it was hers decision to leave me, but she still wants some kind of revenge on me, to prove something. I think it has to do with the fact that after breakup i became popular in college, new friends, also i joined a gym (made good gains, 15 pounds of muscle in few months), i got rid of my acne, i look better then ever, i think this is what is making her mad the most.
kane30us Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 The best way to get back at an ex who is disrespecting you is to show them you're over them and live a great and happy life. It sounds to me she's taking pleasure in trying to make you miserable. That's a narcissus and childish behavior. How old is she? Anyway, next time you see her just smile and say something nice. I bet that eats her up. And you'll notice a change in you also. You'll really be over her. Try it! Negative thoughts eat you up. Try being cheerful. It helps!
Author RlyConfused Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) The best way to get back at an ex who is disrespecting you is to show them you're over them and live a great and happy life. It sounds to me she's taking pleasure in trying to make you miserable. That's a narcissus and childish behavior. How old is she? Anyway, next time you see her just smile and say something nice. I bet that eats her up. And you'll notice a change in you also. You'll really be over her. Try it! Negative thoughts eat you up. Try being cheerful. It helps! We are both 19 lol, she is very insecure, always call herself a looser, idiot, fat. She hates people but acts like a hyper active child in social circle, smiling to everyone, jumping around.Very emotionaly unstable 1 minute she is happy and would do everything for me the other minute she is depressed or mad, kinda crazy if you think about it, but i think there is a lot of woman like her. Edited June 10, 2014 by RlyConfused
Author RlyConfused Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 I blocked her on fb, funny how things like fb takes a big part in relationships with people. Anyway thanks for all the comments and help guys.
Chi townD Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 We are both 19 lol, she is very insecure, always call herself a looser, idiot, fat. She hates people but acts like a hyper active child in social circle, smiling to everyone, jumping around.Very emotionaly unstable 1 minute she is happy and would do everything for me the other minute she is depressed or mad, kinda crazy if you think about it, but i think there is a lot of woman like her. That, to me, sounds like she's bi-polar.
Author RlyConfused Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 That, to me, sounds like she's bi-polar. She hates her mother because she thinks her mother doesn't love her (hates her since she was 7 years old, i dunno why but smth happened to her at that age). She really does have some psychological problems.
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