hejrjeu Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) So, I met this guy on an online dating site. He's nice and fun and very handsome, not exactly my type but we have a lot of common interests. We went for coffee, talked for hours, no awkward silences. Before saying goodbye, he suggested a date a week later, I said yes. He never mentioned the planned date again, but continued to talk with me on Skype as usual. I suggested something else a few days later, he said yes but there was complications (from both sides) and he ended up bailing. I'm leaving town over the summer and he asked me when I'd be in town and stuff like that, and sends me selfies. Not bare chested selfies or pics, just normal pics of himself. He takes a long time to respond to my messages, but sometimes messages me randomly asking how I am or just a "good morning" or stuff like that. Sometimes he doesn't really try to carry on the conversation (which is mostly by text messages) and sometimes we talk for a long time about random stuff. He once called me at 2am and asked me if he could sleep at my place. I declined, and he apologised a couple days later for calling me in the middle of the night. I guess it was a booty call, but nothing in conversations, behaviour or anything has ever hinted towards sex except for that phone call. What is it with this guy? I know it's online dating and he could be talking to a dozen of other girls; I am interested in him yes, but I don't really care. His behavior just bugs me. What does he want? He hasn't ditched me totally which I guess he would've done if he would've decided he doesn't like me. He's very social and has a lot of friends (a lot of female friends as well), very extroverted and doesn't seem shy at all. He could be a player but as I said nothing has hinted towards sex except for that booty call (?) and he isn't "smooth" as players usually are. I just don't get it! Explain anyone? Edited June 10, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
ExpatInItaly Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 He's trying to be a player but he's got no game. Next! 2
Baller25 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 He's trying to be a player but he's got no game. Next! This. Also, if he called you up for a booty call this early then that shows what he thinks of you (unless it's something that you are giving off).
Author hejrjeu Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 This. Also, if he called you up for a booty call this early then that shows what he thinks of you (unless it's something that you are giving off). I hope it's not something I'm giving off haha. Thanks for the advice, I'll be careful.
Author hejrjeu Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 Okay so I visited the town he lives in, for other reasons, but told him about it. I didn't think he'd ask me out but he did. We hung out for the whole next day, he was a bit late because his roommate "had told him some serious stuff", if the details were true it really was serious stuff and it was only like 15 mins late anyway. We walked around town a bit, then went for dinner and he payed, pulled out my chair and stuff like that. After dinner we went to his place but didn't do much, just talked a bit and watched some stuff on youtube. After that we went to a bar and played 8-ball. After that I went home, we hugged and he said he had a great time and asked to meet me again. He knows we can't see each other until fall when I move back to his town. When I got home he texted me saying I'm cute. Perhaps I should mention I'm 20 and he's 23. I'm starting to like this guy but he still weirds me out a bit and I'm afraid he'll be using me. Advice please?
robbysurfs Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 You seem mature enough to be straight up...Just ask and put your mind at rest because there is not one person that can assimilate a outcome because it has not happened. Woman up, and ask him whats up BOOOOM! pull the trigger girl. Then you will know, and if it is not along the lines of what you want there is another guy that will be willing to take you out I am sure of it.
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