Leegh Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 A new guy and I had been emailing, and he emailed me suggesting getting together sometime (but nothing at all specific), and I replied by email, saying that I was getting over a cold and could not go out this week, but that I could go out next week. I did indeed have a cold/virus type of thing, I did not lie about it. I said something at the end of the same email to him that it would be great if I hear from you, but if I don't hear from you, then all the best. This was about a month ago, and I have not heard anything from him. I think he's not interested now, but what do you folks think? Do you think my email made it clear that I did indeed want to go out (which I did)? What should I do, if anything? Thanks for any honest answers.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) He could have been considering several prospects and simply went in a different direction. You didn't do anything wrong; he just decided not to follow through. In the future, though, I would leave off the bit about "if you don't want to get together, I wish you all the best." Be more confident and simply say, "I'd really like to meet you..look forward to hearing from you!" P.S.: If you really want, you could send a quick message. Nothing to lose, I suppose. But don't have expectations attached to it Edited June 9, 2014 by ExpatInItaly 2
Fondue Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 A new guy and I had been emailing, and he emailed me suggesting getting together sometime (but nothing at all specific), and I replied by email, saying that I was getting over a cold and could not go out this week, but that I could go out next week. I did indeed have a cold/virus type of thing, I did not lie about it. I said something at the end of the same email to him that it would be great if I hear from you, but if I don't hear from you, then all the best. This was about a month ago, and I have not heard anything from him. I think he's not interested now, but what do you folks think? Do you think my email made it clear that I did indeed want to go out (which I did)? What should I do, if anything? Thanks for any honest answers. This probably sealed the deal for him. I would have interpreted it as, "well, I'm on the fence about you anyway." Meaning, lack of interest. So he probably next-ed you. 3
Assasda Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 After reading what you wrote, I thought you werent interested. He probably thinks the same. ALso, if you want to go out with him. Call him
jbelle6 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 This probably sealed the deal for him. I would have interpreted it as, "well, I'm on the fence about you anyway." Meaning, lack of interest. So he probably next-ed you. Yes, I would have assumed you weren't interested at all. Why not say, I'm ill but would love to get together, maybe sometime next week? Something like that.
Lipitor11 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 "I said something at the end of the same email to him that it would be great if I hear from you, but if I don't hear from you, then all the best." Well, this doesn't sound very positive, who knows...I don't think it matters a lot, I mean if he still wanted to get together, he would have contacted you anyway. Maybe you should contact him, see what he says.
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) I always try to make sure to leave an email open ended or a text or a voice emssage asking a specific question, if they dont answer they have no desire to converse for whatever reason, and i leave it at a simplistic how are you today are you smiling or a direct question along those lines or if i know them better and i know they are friendly a look forward to hearing from you ...requires one word only if you ask how are you today it warrants a reply from people who actually like you...i show i care enough to ask from my heart if they dont reply and i feel it out of character for them on previosu correspondence i do get confused too, worried, i get hurt in part, because ignorance is not something i particularly understand makes me feel slightly retarded, its like looking into someones eyes talking to them and they turn around and walk away leaving you standing there going what did I say could i have said it better did i offend should i apologize and its a no you shouldn't.....on and on and on the confusion and indecision grows in multiple of possibility..... and i am not retarded, hence confusion that snowballs with many possibilities all thought of at once, so i let it go eventually or go nuts..... and talk to someone who gives solace......... my higher power and i move on with my day......but what can you honestly do the answer is nothing personally, if they dont want to interact with you....... try is about the only option until it isnt suited for you to try anymore........protect a heart from damage find solace and understanding elsewhere within you and who you are as a person...dance it out...you are just a person who is not one privy to ignorance or reasons thereof becaue you arent that way inclined.....find a guy who enjoys speaking to you enough not to ignore you and dance listen to msuic you eb you , if they contact you later see how you feel then follow your heart....deb Edited June 10, 2014 by todreaminblue
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