yucky_life Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 How do you read it when you are dating someone, and every time you tell them anything about yourself, they repeat the same thing, but refocus it on them? Example- Me: "I'm so tired, I didn't sleep well last night." HIM: "Me too, I was up all night, I was sick and couldn't get back to sleep, and today I have to do A, B, and C". OR Me: "I'm not feeling well today." HIM: "I've got the same thing, I was on the toilet all night, and I have to do A, B, and C, today." In fact, everything I say is met with a laundry list of everything he has to do. Sometimes it doesn't even matter what I'm talking about, he always responds with "I've got to do A, B, and C". The only thing that matters is him and what he's got to do, and how it makes him feel, and how he needs to eat, blah blah
J21 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Either he is selfish or doesn't care? If I was interested in someone that said what you said, I'd be like "I hope u feel better soon, try to have a great day in the meantime" etc.
FitChick Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Try the opposite -- say what a great day you had and how you have so much energy. If he still whines, dump his sorry arse. No one wants to be around someone who complains. 1
DArtagnan2 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I dated someone like that, and to me, she just didn't care about what was going on with me. Some times, people just try to keep a conversation going and are relating. Others, well you can tell when it's all about them and that they just don't care. You will know.
spiderowl Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 It means it will carry on this way. If you are unwell, he will always be worse off than you. If you are tired, he will be tireder. You can expect him to be incapable of looking after you if you get sick because he will automatically be sicker. Do you really want a partner like this?
todreaminblue Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) to me its commiserating, sometimes if I commiserate with someone i care about, its normally to brainstorm ideas on what to do to feel better but thats me, i dont commiserate for attention, i commiserate to have action involved and i dont mind if people tell me they feel the same or have similar things happening it gives me a point to help two people at once, myself and them, they help me i help them..... except when one of my teen girls gets her period early and then starts me into a cycle of cycling with them early, ill say thanks alot couldnt you have waited to have it now i have to buy double chocolate bars one for you one for me..then we eat chocolate and commiserate together, they seem to go by faster though so thats good i would not even begin to judge a person who says "me too" badly, its actually to me a good thing its a show of solidarity, not all fellowship is sweetness and light soemtimes its the hard yards and bad times that you have to show understanding of, often a way to fellowship a community of feelings and build banks of understanding.Even if that bank contains thoughts and feelings of having gastric upset.. commiseration can be a womans relief society, a group of women can get together share ideas and fun times as well, but a womans relief is finding others going through exactly the same thing and finding solidarity and resolve in each other and through each other to come up with ideas and solutions through good and bad times...... like raising teen girls much commiseration to be had.lol...ahem ...or when men walk in they walk in with a certain amount of trepidation due to the total solidarity of "me too" sisters united with resolve and complete understandign of one another, a force to be reckoned with and always respected, that makes me smile...lol.....cheers.....deb. Edited June 9, 2014 by todreaminblue
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