SpotyLove Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I went on two dates with a woman recently. I'd like to get to know her better, but don't want to waste time on her if she is not interested. My gut instinct is she is probably trying to figure herself out still, as many 27 year olds do. The first date I went on with her, she felt a need to tell me it was her first OLD. Things seemed to go well and meeting for a drink turned into a four hour date. The date ended by us agreeing it was fun, a quick hug, and loose plans for another date. A week later we had a second date. The second date was at a bar, we had a couple drinks and some food. I tried to casually touch her throughout the date in a flirtatious way, nothing sexual. She didn't back away but didn't reciprocate. I just had a difficult time reading her throughout the date. At the end of the date, she drove me to a subway station. During the departure, she initially said she had fun and gave me a hug. Still in a frustratingly confused mood, I decided to go back in for a kiss which resulted in a quick peck. I'm really confused as to whether she is just experimenting with online dating, not very interested in me, prefers to take things slowly, or maybe a combination. Any ideas?
J21 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I'm not quite sure what "I'd like to get to know her better means". Are u looking for a serious relationship? Or something casual? Ask her out again but talk to her about what she is looking for vs what you are looking for face to face.
Author SpotyLove Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 I'm not quite sure what "I'd like to get to know her better means". Are u looking for a serious relationship? Or something casual? Ask her out again but talk to her about what she is looking for vs what you are looking for face to face. I am looking for a long term relationship. I feel very awkward about broaching the subject of what the other person is looking for after only 2 dates, would this be too soon to touch the subject? Logically, it makes sense to do so, but I don't know how to approach it without looking desperate.
J21 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) I am looking for a long term relationship. I feel very awkward about broaching the subject of what the other person is looking for after only 2 dates, would this be too soon to touch the subject? Logically, it makes sense to do so, but I don't know how to approach it without looking desperate. Talking about what u are looking for does not make you look desperate, it makes u look like u know what u want. Either she's looking for the same, or she's not. Only way to find out is talking to her about it. Better to know for sure than make assumptions. Regarding the timing if asking too soon, I'd rather find out sooner rather than later. It would suck to invest like 8 dates to get the "friends" speech. Gluck! Edited June 9, 2014 by J21
Author SpotyLove Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 So you met twice but don't talk? Hint...we like a man with confidence. Take charge! Not sure why you said this. I was referring to the specific topic of what she is looking for. In the past, I usually tried to just let things run their normal course.
Dallers Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 So you met twice but don't talk? Hint...we like a man with confidence. Take charge! Welcome to 2014. Where a women expects you to do everything because you are a man and it is your fault if there is no conversation. If you don't talk you are also less of a man
FitChick Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Welcome to 2014. Where a women expects you to do everything because you are a man and it is your fault if there is no conversation. If you don't talk you are also less of a man This isn't about you.
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