Smarty Pants Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 So I've been on these forums for the past couple months. I have seen a lot of the same trends in my breakup in others. Long story short: Was with a girl on/off for 3 years. After that dated officially for 2 years. We are both mid twenties. We "went on a break" at the end of November. Continued to hang out for the next two months until early February when she broke it off. Turns out she had started seeing another guy who she had been friends with throughout our relationship without my knowledge (not that I would have cared). She is now living with my best friend which has made thingsdifficult. We are in a small group of friends, although when she is around I have chosen to not go to certain events. She has owed me money for tickets she "bought" from me. Finally 3 months later she is going to pay me back after I asked, politely of course. I asked her if we could finally be cival towards each other. She said "I would but you haven't moved on yet" LOL In no way do I ever want to date this girl again. But seeing as we will have to be around her at times, I made the effort to make things normal. One of our friends is getting married in a few months and we will both be there. We will both have a plus 1, not sure how that will work out. My question is, how can I make things not so awkward between us. I think just having a simple conversation would be fine but I'm dealing with an immature narcissist who doesn't see there is a problem. Very frustrated with this whole situation and I'd love anyone's input.
Zahara Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 My question is, how can I make things not so awkward between us. I think just having a simple conversation would be fine but I'm dealing with an immature narcissist who doesn't see there is a problem. The only one making it awkward is you. There was no need to request being civil towards each other. Just act civil if you want to. There is no need to have simple conversation with someone that cheated on you. Act normal when around her or if you have to address her when in a social setting, then do it. You are the one struggling with your own perceived discomforts between the two of you. And the more you keep bringing it up, the more you will seem like the one that is still affected.
lauri Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 lol I love how she said you're not over her and its your fault that you two cannot be civil. This girl did things behind your back and cheated on you and she's finding a way to make you out to be the one at fault. Anyways, as it was said above, do only what you want to do. Personally, I wouldn't even give her the time of day or even talk to her if I was you, but that is just me.
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