shaunydspare Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I've chased or well always thought about this girl whom I met through mutual friends 2 years ago. On any and all social media platforms we always seemed to stay in contact even after me deleting one and making a new one etc etc. so the other day she sent me a message seeing how I was and vice versa. shes been married and this past january she seperated from her husband and she also has two kids. now obviously its not gonna be smooth sailing. but, nonetheless this saturday albeit (impulsive on her part) we went on a date and it went really good. like we have literally have a boatload in common so i'm completely smitten and think and she also thinks it was the best date. now obviously she told me shes terrified by the thought of romance after going through what shes going through but she still wants to hang. how do i make her know im here for her and im not just gonna use her and leave her alone and eventually be the one to be her man? im obviously giving her space and being completely understanding of her wishes. help me out
FitChick Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Someone who's been married will want to play the field to see what they've been missing all these years. You can put up with that or not.
ThorntonMelon Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Under no circumstances do you try and convince her of any of your qualities. You probably can get laid now, but will be ditched later once you're attached and she needs to "find herself". If you want the long play, don't be very available right now. 2
Woop1337 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Separated as in divorced? I wouldn't even try to date her if she's not divorced. If she is, then date her. Just take it really slow.
deathandtaxes Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Stay away until the divorce is final for at least a year or two. She's not going to be anywhere near ready to date for a while. And the first few guys will most likely just be seeing what life is all about because she has been married. Do you really want to be the rebound?
Author shaunydspare Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Well she was honest about our connection and how it's not the right time: but I'm willing to wait around and be there for her in a friend way. Even if she wants to play the field. And yes she's getting a divorce she has 3 months til it's official
Assasda Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Try to have fun with her. Its been one outing and you know nothing about her, so take it easy. Dont know why you want to bust in like captain "Save a hoe". That never goes well. hahaha not saying she's a hoe, but keep your emotions in check. She'll find out what kinda guy you are in the long run
jbelle6 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Well, you can have sex now, or wait around and "be there for her" and be friendzoned. You won't be the boyfriend. 1
Author shaunydspare Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 All good points to consider, i'm open to anything and hope eventually it'll work in my favor.
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