acidrein_08 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 My first post was a little over a week ago on the breakup forum. My girlfriend left me after 2 and a half years, we lived together and she packed up and left last Saturday. She contacted me a couple of times one was the sunday right after she just asked if I was awake and the next time was on Wednesday. She told me she loved me and could marry me but she didn't think things could be fixed. We talked just a little bit through texts. I hadn't heard anything since that day until this morning she texted me and all she asked was if I had any of her mail. I'm really hurt that after going over 4 days without talking at all (the longest we'd ever gone) that was all she had to say. How can it be so easy for her to move on? What can I do? Just need some advice been really lonely especially on the weekends at home by myself.
VanessaVanessa Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) I don't think it is easy for her to move on. She is trying to make it seem that way (maybe for a reason). I am guessing that her asking about mail is her way of breaking the no contact of the last four days without making it seem as though it is breaking no contact. To you it is as though she is unaffected, but she may just be having a guard up. Just a thought It all depends on the reason for her leaving and whether there were any signs of this before she left. Edited June 9, 2014 by VanessaVanessa
Author acidrein_08 Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Thanks for a quick reply, but do I ask her how she's been doing or if she's happy or something? I really want to know if she is missing me or if she is moving on. Or just leave it at ill hold onto her mail until she comes and gets it...?
bluenote Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 If you want to know if she cares or whatever, you perhaps go NC also, If she cares she will contact you and want to know whats up. play her game. If you constantly try to contact her she will be flattered and keep up her game, that way you will be very frustrated you won't get anything. I can asure you ladies are better at this NC thing than men in general, they have this gift of patience and very focused as well, (I am generalizing). Give it time and see, Why did she leave?
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