TaylorHampton Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 My ex boyfriend went back to his ex girlfriend after a few months of us being apart. They recently had a child together as well. We've been talking for the past few months, but I still haven't really told him how I feel. I still love him, and I still cry over him it's been almost a year since our breakup. I don't want to ruin his new family. We even had sex less than a month ago, and I'm not proud of it. Idk what to do. Should I tell him how I feel? Or should I just let go. I'm tired of being sad all of the time and waiting for his call... *I don't have any children with him, but she does.
ConfusedMarriedOW Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 My ex boyfriend went back to his ex girlfriend after a few months of us being apart. They recently had a child together as well. We've been talking for the past few months, but I still haven't really told him how I feel. I still love him, and I still cry over him it's been almost a year since our breakup. I don't want to ruin his new family. We even had sex less than a month ago, and I'm not proud of it. Idk what to do. Should I tell him how I feel? Or should I just let go. I'm tired of being sad all of the time and waiting for his call... *I don't have any children with him, but she does. How hard. I feel terribly for you. I assume he isn't being forthright about about seeing you with his ex and is still playing the role of a new father with her. Okay, so it is understandable that you are both attached to eachother in some way. It is how we humans function when sex, intimacy and vulnerability are introduced, we attached. But think of it. He has a child with her. He chose to go back to his ex. This is not going to end without a lot of pain for you. In fact it may be drawn out stabbing pain and then finally you still losing out. If he chooses you, his child loses a parent. You will forever have an angry child (and mother) on your hands. But the likelyhood is that he will just either keep going back and forth between both of you for the rest of your life together or he will even more likely, just choose her. My advice. Move on. Find someone more fitting for you. Someone single and preferably without a child. Tell him he need time to yourself and go no contact for a long long time (I mean years) This will be very hard for you. You will suffer. But you really need to break the chains. Hang with friends, go to a bar if you must, be a crying, screaming sobbing fool, do whatever you must, but this situation is very likely dead end. Good luck. Heal your heart 1
Author TaylorHampton Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 I really do need to break all contact with him because talking with him just brings up so many emotions. I feel like I would be being selfish if I told him my feelings right now. I don't want to breakup a family, and I definitely don't the karma that'll come with it. It puzzles me why he wouldn't be focused on his new child, but chasing me and I believe other women. I spend more time exercising now just to get my mind off of the situation, but it's rough. I'll take your NC advice... Thanks!
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