Kar_M Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I wanted some advice. About 2 weeks ago I met this guy at a friends barbecue through a friend and ended up going back to his place - after a lot of persuasion from him, although he did stress that he was a gentleman. We had been drinking most of the day and I was pretty drunk, but we didn't have sex - although he probably could have persuaded me as I was pretty wasted and was getting into things, but he was actually as he said, a total gentleman. Anyway, the next day I felt horrible (as in hungover, wanted to shower, brush my teeth) and just wanted to be at home and said quite quickly that I was going to call a cab. He was a little bit affectionate but I think could tell I just wanted to go. We didn't swap phone numbers and now have no way of getting in touch with each other unless we randomly bump into each other as we are both in the same town. I just wanted to know general opinions, do people generally think he was just trying to get laid after a night of drinking or do you think there could be a possibility that he did actually like me and could have wanted something more. I'm thinking if I wasn't so aloof he might have asked to see me again....
PegNosePete Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I don't think you've given enough information for anyone to be able to tell what he was thinking. Why don't you ask him... oh wait... 2
Author Kar_M Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Pegnosepete - What more info are you after - that is if you are trying to be helpful ....
mangetout Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Really hard to say because it could have been the alcohol doing its work. A shame you didn't swap numbers because you would have been able to text him and find out
Author Kar_M Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Yeah thats what I was also considering. I know it's a long shot asking strangers what a guy was thinking who they've never met. Just drives you crazy a bit sitting trying to work out all the possible options on your own.
Lansing Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Maybe he was a "gentleman" while you were drunk but he was hoping for some sex in the morning? Anyway, if he is interested in you he could probably track you down through friends of friends no? Are you facebook friends with some of the people that were at the party? I would just forget it and think of it as an experience and not think a relationship will develop out of it. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Maybe he was a "gentleman" while you were drunk but he was hoping for some sex in the morning? Anyway, if he is interested in you he could probably track you down through friends of friends no? Are you facebook friends with some of the people that were at the party? I would just forget it and think of it as an experience and not think a relationship will develop out of it. This. I wouldn't hold my breath. 1
Author Kar_M Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Maybe he was a "gentleman" while you were drunk but he was hoping for some sex in the morning? Anyway, if he is interested in you he could probably track you down through friends of friends no? Are you facebook friends with some of the people that were at the party? I would just forget it and think of it as an experience and not think a relationship will develop out of it. Yep I am FB friends with maybe 2 people, but I don't think he really uses fb. ExpatinItaly - can you clarify? Are you agreeing with this statement. I wish I could forget about it - hard to do as I did really like him
Author Kar_M Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Thanks, looking at the facts in black in white i'd definitely agree with the general consensus - its just that I have been in the situation before when I've went home with guys (I don't sleep around but have a a few one night stands in my past) and I know straight away when a guy just wants sex and can generally take it for that and just leave it be. This just felt totally different, like I said he probably could have gotten sex .... he just didn't push for it in any way and was really tender (wishy washy I know). But thats what's making me so confused about it all and unable to forget. I hate all this guessing game nonsense!
Atticus9292012 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 If he wanted to see you again, he'd get in touch, end of story. If he knows people who know you, he'd get your number. Personal story: I made out with a guy on new years I met through my friend's boyfriend. I fell asleep because I was drunk and didn't get his number nor gave him mine. Guess what? He never got in touch with me. He could have easily gotten my number, but didn't. I don't have any hard feelings. I just figured he wasn't interested in pursuing it further. Things happen. Alcohol is funny that way.
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