Wisecrack Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 We're platonic. I've been wingman'ing her as she has I for a respective people we've been interested in. Long story short, at a party she got really drunk and ended up all over me despite my best efforts to get her with the guy she was interested in. Fast forward a few days and that night I had said I'd take her out to a Ball - it was because I felt sorry that her Prom night had been one to forget. So it was bought up again in conversation between us but has turned into a big fight. She's blown up the topic talking elaborately how she wants to be single going to it, turned other guys down and even if her dream guy asked her, she would turn him down too hence why she does not want to be tied to me. I don't hold back things like this so I let her know I only said I would because I felt sorry for her and wanted to treat her to a great time - after all she is my best chick friend. Even if her being all over me was like her marking her territory during that party that night and stopped me from mingling with any other woman. So now we are both butting heads about why she had to tell me her reasons to wanting to go it alone single while I tell her I don't really care nor need to know and that we were pass this stage of reasoning, excuses what not. The conversation ended with her basically accusing me of professing to the world how she was my partner to the Ball - this I did not do and only explained to a friend my reasons why after she had confided in that friend in the first place. We're close - the type where she tells her mum about me. She's stopped replying even though she was the one first to message me before this blow up. If you are finding this thread confusing, that is how I am feeling right now. I don't understand how such a platonic relationship has turned so complicated. Obviously I am not interested in her yet it is as if she is treating me like a guy that is pursuing her.
preraph Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 She's definitely all over the map, isn't she? I'm a little confused about which came first, her drunk at the party or the ball. If she was all over you at the party and then turned you down for the ball, she's being a jerk. When she was all over you at the party, did you try to peel her off you? If so, that probably made her mad, that being rejection. But it's what you should have done, so...Then asking her to the ball after that, she was already on the defensive and wanted to make it look like she doesn't want you because of the rejection. Either way, you and her need to have a talk about whether either of you has extra feelings for the other and then if either of you definitely are not interested in something more, you must sit down and make rules for all this wingman business. I like the wingman thing, but I guess if either party has other feelings or is so drunk or confused they don't KNOW how they feel, you'd have to stop that.
jbelle6 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 We're platonic. I've been wingman'ing her as she has I for a respective people we've been interested in. Long story short, at a party she got really drunk and ended up all over me despite my best efforts to get her with the guy she was interested in. Fast forward a few days and that night I had said I'd take her out to a Ball - it was because I felt sorry that her Prom night had been one to forget. So it was bought up again in conversation between us but has turned into a big fight. She's blown up the topic talking elaborately how she wants to be single going to it, turned other guys down and even if her dream guy asked her, she would turn him down too hence why she does not want to be tied to me. I don't hold back things like this so I let her know I only said I would because I felt sorry for her and wanted to treat her to a great time - after all she is my best chick friend. Even if her being all over me was like her marking her territory during that party that night and stopped me from mingling with any other woman. So now we are both butting heads about why she had to tell me her reasons to wanting to go it alone single while I tell her I don't really care nor need to know and that we were pass this stage of reasoning, excuses what not. The conversation ended with her basically accusing me of professing to the world how she was my partner to the Ball - this I did not do and only explained to a friend my reasons why after she had confided in that friend in the first place. We're close - the type where she tells her mum about me. She's stopped replying even though she was the one first to message me before this blow up. If you are finding this thread confusing, that is how I am feeling right now. I don't understand how such a platonic relationship has turned so complicated. Obviously I am not interested in her yet it is as if she is treating me like a guy that is pursuing her. Boys and girls are never really "just friends" silly. I keep trying to tell people this, one or the other always pulls something like this eventually. Maybe she has had these feelings for a while and just happened to act on them in her drunken state? She does sound all over the map.
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