dhase Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 hi everyone..dhase here.. has anyone had an experience of losing some of your best buddies in life? in my story, 8-10 years ago i used to hang out with good friends, its like the highlight of my life every time i'm with them. i used to believe we were inseparable.. until such time they planned to get married. had kids and family.. so what we used to do before as best buddies is gone now. we see each other like every 4-5 months. every time i ask them to go out, they always turn me down.. has anyone had the same situation as mine? how did you take this scenario?
Omei Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 True friends will make time for you within their changing lives. 1
Author dhase Posted June 13, 2014 Author Posted June 13, 2014 very well said..short but precise.. thanks! with nothing to do much, i found this site to keep me busy and not think about my buddies for a while.
dertrer Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 True friends will make time for you within their changing lives. very well opinion
sportygirl89 Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 My so called "best friend" walked out on me when my ex left me while I was sick. This was after I was there for her for HPV. I've apologized every way I can. Nothing at all. After all our ups and downs. I'm partially glad nothing but drama happened when she was there. I'm done with one sided friend ships. I'm done with people altogether. So not only when I dealt with my ex walking out when I was sick. My so called "best friend" left me too. 1
UVict Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 It's a tough situation buddy. Mines not as long as yours, but it still sucks. I'm still dealing with it. My best mate decided to leave everything and live overseas to be with his long distance girlfriend, I've barely heard from him in the past year. Even though he is back to visit for a few weeks, he's made no effort, his girlfriend is his priority by a long shot, us mates get to see him when she goes back overseas... I'm not taking it well as everything is still so cryptic and unknown. I hate it, and boarderline past the point of bothering. I hate that its come to that, but after being ignored and shut down for so long it just gets to a point, and I know that its not going to get better for a few years due to his plans to bend over and live overseas with his girlfriend. The only solution I can offer is, enjoy other friends you might have. I have some friends I go to uni with, they aren't as close as my "best mate" 2 years vs 10, but they are still great people and some of them I've having some deep and heavey conversations about my ex at the time, due to my best friend being on the other side of the world. My plan for the next couple of years is to put a lot more into my uni friends as I know they are going to be there and can be good friends if I put the effort in (which I wasn't really at the time as I thought my best friend wouldn't be away/so distant for so long) 1
todreaminblue Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 People come into your path for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do with that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a dificulty… To provide you with guidance and support… To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually… They may seem like they are a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die… Sometimes they walk away… Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand…. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled… Their work is done. The prayer you sent up has now been answered and now it is time to move on. Some people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season. LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons. Things you must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being a part of my life… Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime ~ unknown author this is what you need to do, what we all need to do ...is thank people that coem into ourlives whether they stay or go to truly make your life worthwhile, you need to be able to be grateful fro what ever time you get with someone..i am grateful to have talked to the lady at the deli counter today.....probably wotn ever see her again but we shared a joke about ham and cake.... even if the person who walks in to our lives is to hurt us, it teaches us something...it helps us grow fro when we need to walk into someone else's life....and we are all related we all interconnect, even if it isnt physically..there's a time and a place and it isnt of our doing that it happens..... ........deb 4
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