StressFull Posted February 13, 2005 Posted February 13, 2005 ok so anyone who smokes and has tried to give up will know where im comin from on this one... when it comes to no contact with your ex, think of her/him as a cigarette and your tryin to quit. all th time you try to convince yourself "one drag is ok,whats the harm" (or one phoncall etc) but in actual fact if you have that drag, afterwards all the time youve gone without a drag is erased and your back at square one...really needing a cigarette. when you really really need one, jus work through it for that time.make some food or tidy your flat/room. eventually you will need a drag less and less. kinda simple but if you really apply the theory it helps
North Shore Posted February 13, 2005 Posted February 13, 2005 A great way to look at it! The best part - you'll fight the urge for a cigarette for alot longer than you'll fight the urge to talk to the ex. Trust me.
aarsky Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 i still dont know how it is so easy for someone to just give up the thought of an ex. you all make it sound so easy. I find it very difficult to do and Im always still thinking about her.
Author StressFull Posted February 14, 2005 Author Posted February 14, 2005 its not easy at all. im not finding it easy. in fact im sitting here right now battling with the thought of ringing her.but i know that i shouldnt. im not sayin tha it is easy, im jus saying that it is a good way to think about it. hey if giving up smoking was easy, no one would smoke would they. and no one on this forum finds giving up ex's easy and thats why we are all on here.
aarsky Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 You know I still have an engagement ring I gave to my ex when I asked her to amrry me a few years bakc. But after that things just went down hill, but I kept the ring all this time. I just dont know what to do with it. It wasnt expensive so to try and sell it is kind of silly. I am having a hard time with all of this.And like you I always want to pick up the phone and call her, but I am afraid of the rejected feeling.
North Shore Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 Originally posted by aarsky i still dont know how it is so easy for someone to just give up the thought of an ex. you all make it sound so easy. I find it very difficult to do and Im always still thinking about her. It's not ever easy. The only thing you can do is keep going on with your life and reconcile your feelings with the reality of the situation. That doesn't mean the same thing to everybody. There is no magic potion to make it all go away. That's why we have "virtual shoulders" to cry on here at the Shack. I wouldn't be where I am without the Shack.
DinNJ Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 I smoke more when I think about my ex. She'll be the death of me.
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