LeahPat Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 So about 3 months ago I went out with a friend - someone who I was hanging about with quite regularly. We were doing keep fit classes together and having lunches / drinks. I ended up going out with her and a group of her mates who I'd never met before for one of their birthday drinks. Anyway it was a fab day, I got on with everyone, she told me on the night that everyone thought i was really nice bla bla bla ... so no friction or anything. I ended up chatting to one of the single guy friends there and we hit it off and ended up together that night. I went back to his but he was a gentleman and there was no sex - but I left his house at night and we didn't exchange numbers or anything. In the back of my head I thought I'll def see him again when I'm out with my friend. Anyway, the next day she was working overseas for work and was away for a few weeks so didn't hear from her - totally fine, she's not in the country. But was looking forward to her coming back 1. because I wanted to see her, 2. because I was excited about seeing the guy again. When she came back she's been ignoring my messages and not had any contact with her. My co-worker who is friends with her too said she is apparently really down & depressed (apparently she suffers from this and eating disorders) and is just keeping herself to herself just now. The thing is i see posts from her on Facebook out having days out with other friends, or her responding to other friends photo updates or whatever, and she went for a drive / lunch with my work colleague and they had fun. So i'm totally confused. Why would she ignore my messages / phone calls, justify it that she's depressed but be out having fun with other people. I would have though she'd be wanting to chat to me to find out what happened with her friend - when any of my friends hook up I 'm excited to find out, not in a nosey way. In addition to her acting weird like this, it also means i'm not going to see this guy again as I stupidly didn't get his number, not that that's the reason I want to catch up with her. Not had friendships ever like this in the past. Honest input would be fab - I'm confused and a bit hurt!
whichwayisup Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Just ask her what is up and why she is ignoring you. Be up front and honest. Guessing why she is acting this way will drive you nuts.
Author LeahPat Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Yeah I would rather ask her in person - if she is really down then maybe saying that in message would come across harsh to her. Plus sometimes if someone is off with you they won't always tell you the real reason why ...
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