aemm Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Hi, Back in January I started talking to this man that I ended up really starting to like. He liked me back. We are both in our late 20s but he was separated from his wife at the time. He was really bitter about his separation, but him and I still really hit it off. I told him that I did not want to have sex until being in a relationship because I had been used by men before...he said he was okay with this. He invited me over to his apartment and we just watched old TV shows. We only kissed that night... then he invited me over again and just tried to have sex with me. I told him it was only our second night hanging out and I wasn't ready...we weren't even technically dating. He said he didn't want to mess it up with me and that he would back off. He was busy for the next few weeks so we only talked online. He kept telling me how interested he was in me and couldn't wait to have more free time. He later asked me why I was scared to have sex too early...I told him about the emotional abuse I had suffered from a man who used me. He told me I wouldn't be ready for sex for a while... he ignored me for 24 hours and went to our mutual friend and told her how I wouldn't have sex with him so he needed to end it. He told her personal information and I think that a was a jerk move on his part. He ended things by telling me he wasn't ready for a relationship yet. He ignored me whenever I tried talking to him after, even though he insisted he wanted to be friends. Months later he told me that he ended it because he couldn't handle physical rejection because his ex-wife use to put him through that. I got mad after I found that out and that he told my friend my personal business. He stopped talking to me and said he needed space and time. He told me he doesn't trust me, but would like to think about being friends. I don't know if I should be his friend. I miss our talks, but I don't like how he treated me. He said I was a catch but he never actually dated me, but he expected sex. Should we try to be friends or should I stay away from him? Am I over-reacting?
Greeneyegemini Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Stay away from that guy, he's a douche. Going to your mutual friend about it makes him a megadouche. If a guy really likes you, he's going to be willing to wait until you're at least in a relationship with him. And also. If he was separated from his wife, perhaps the reason he ended things was because he wasn't looking for a relationship. Just rebound sex. 1
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