Madtraveler Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) Any suggestions for ways to motivate yourself. I've had trouble simply getting out of bed unless absolutely necessary as of late. Useful coping skills that have worked for you in the past? How do you forgive yourself when you know you were half the problem? Edited June 9, 2014 by Madtraveler 1
McGrupp Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Whats "half the problem" mean? Also, it's okay to feel like that, like you got punched in the gut. What's your timeline, how long ago was the breakup? Seems pretty nice outside across the US, would be hard for me to stay inside all day.
elseaacych Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Sounds like you may be depressed. It's normal. You should probably find yourself a therapist to talk to, and maybe they can get you on an anti depressant or anti anxiety meds for awhile to take the edge off. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I dont think this is just heartbreak I think u have a touch of depression going on x
learning_slowly Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Any suggestions for ways to motivate yourself. Ask yourself if you don't get out of bed, how will your life get better? You need to do things to change things. Look at what you do now. Go for a walk or run first thing and think what you can do to improve your situation. You have to be responsible for yourself, as there will not always be a somebody to direct you. You need to figure out what you want and try to attain it. This may mean working the lowliest job to build up training and experience in what you want to do. It will be tough, but surely its better than laying in bed feeling miserable? 1
todreaminblue Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 forgive others then you forgive yourself.as far as motivation goes find just one thign that makes you happy and focus on that fro a little while then start to make a chain of little things that increase that happiness until you swing your legs out of bed and open the curtain. Listen to your fave music on awakening sigh and realize today is another day and you are getting up now to face it head on good or bad and sleep well knowing that you made it at the end, repeat lather rinse...with lemon flavoured body wash every morning to invoke a fresh feeling....i have one that smells like lemon cheesecake...and i treat myself...orange juice makes me happy as does cola i try to drink juice.cola makes me run out of energy fairly quickly juice sustains me in the morning if i cant eat so therefore being uplifted by orange juice lol makes it easy for me to see the sunny side of a blue day.simple things for simple minds, little things for great minds and happy hearts followed by prayer and faith that you have that will sustain you with a glass of juice attached i have fallen in love with a barley drink called ecco,i cleaned out my grocery store of ecco now, i am praying they get more it rocks it is coffee for kids no caffeine obviously and it suits me i have no allergic reaction so i am happy about that. 1
VanessaVanessa Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 forgive others then you forgive yourself.as far as motivation goes find just one thign that makes you happy and focus on that fro a little while then start to make a chain of little things that increase that happiness until you swing your legs out of bed and open the curtain. Listen to your fave music on awakening sigh and realize today is another day and you are getting up now to face it head on good or bad and sleep well knowing that you made it at the end, repeat lather rinse... I would say to follow this piece of advice^. It will have to be the little things that get you out of bed for now. Hang onto any small positive event in the day and put your energy into that. Eventually you should add more things to your days and distract yourself. I know it is real tough right now... Goodluck 1
whatsherface Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) Not many things made me feel better but I found that going for walks during the day or at dusk kind of helped. Maybe it's the fresh air? To be honest, I still having trouble getting out of bed as well, but just know that time will make things a little easier and less painful. I agree with the suggestion about going to see a therapist, I'm seeing one right now. It's reassuring to know that you have at least one person to talk to. I'm pretty sure my friends are tired of hearing me talk about this. Humans are resilient creatures, know that you'll be okay. Edited June 9, 2014 by whatsherface 2
todreaminblue Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I dont think this is just heartbreak I think u have a touch of depression going on x Depression is a bone of contention with me, something i do not look forward to feeling, how can you, it takes all my positive words of affirmation and dumps them where i cant find them anymore.So i have to go searching for new words, brighter days and record why that day was just a little brighter than before. Depression is a meanie, can cause aggressive feelings towards others who with all good intentions try to help, because you feel they just dont understand why its so hard to face a simple day Depression , my suggestion is dont take it lightly, go to someone and talk it through a caring professional you trust in the medical side of the equation, don't listen to anyone who says snap out of it, it isn't their fault they just don't understand. get it early, clip its wings, while it is just a touch and not a handshake be well and be safe....deborah
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