tigerdog Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) So I've been going out with this guy and noticed a really odd pattern the last week. I noticed it during the second to last date and then checked it this last date. I view visitors with invisibility so I'm sure he has no idea I've seen it. He puts all the nice compliments I give him on his OLD profile. For instance I complimented how well he makes muffins (he put that on his OLD profile), a comment about how lovely and angelic his hair is (he puts a comment on how his hair looks like a halo of curls), we had a discussion about our personality types and relating them to chairs (he put the analogy on chairs and his personality on it) and during our last date we had a discussion about what we think people's first impressions of us are and lo and behold he puts my reply (friendly yet reserved; mysterious but not aloof). He's also put an inside joke that me and him had once. During our last discussion I told him his best friend didn't seem like a very good friend from what he told me (he was venting to me about him), and he removed a description about how inseparable him and his best friend are. It's honestly turning me off and making me wonder if I'm some weird ego boost. Do people do this and why? Me and him really hit it off BUT to me this seems like a red flag? Is it or something lots of people do and I'm not aware of it? Edited June 8, 2014 by tigerdog
candie13 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 listen to your intuition, such a weirdo to use your compliments to attract other women. He is using this to get to more ladies, you realize that, don't you? focus on another bloke and let this one loose. you already know, so why waste your time until you get that confirmation and actually be even more disappointed? cheers 4
Author tigerdog Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 I'm definitely letting him go. This whole thing turns me off. I just wasn't sure if this was normal or something people sometimes do? I've updated my OLD profile when dating people but NEVER even though to include compliments and things people say about me on it, not even long-term exes. It's just never crossed my mind. Has anyone encountered this with OLD?
Keke1 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 This is funny. Probably records the conversation for accuracy.
writergal Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Red flag? I'd say that guy's wearing a red three-piece suit with cufflinks made of crazy! That guy is one sandwich short of a picnic to use the compliments you give him the same way authors use quotes from other authors on their book's back cover to promote themselves. He's using your words to promote himself. Weirdo alert! Sirens blaring. Keep Calm and Next the Weirdo. 4
TigerLilly78 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) At best he sees you as nothing more then a friend.. at worse he's playing around and playing the field hoping to eventually score with you while still keeping his options open. Ide flat out ask him if it were me and make my move based off of what he says. If he only sees you as a friend then there's nothing wrong with that but the fact he met you on a dating site? means the original intention was dating when that changes in his eyes you have a right to know. Far as the comments it doesn't make him really look "crazy" to me he's just using things people tell him about himself to advertise eh its different to do on a dating site but maybe he cant come up with anything on his own def lacks imagination but wouldn't really creep me out people do it all the time in todays social media.. Edited June 8, 2014 by TigerLilly78 1
Targetlock Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 sounds like a whole bag of crazy or using you as dating practice or something? how strange indeed. wouldn't even be using my OLD profile if i was dating someone, i thought that was the idea of it in the first place? 2
Mrin Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Now wait. I think we should look at this another way. You see... Um..... He could be.... I mean.... Oh screw it. The dude is a freaking weirdo. Run like hell!
Lipitor11 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 That just seems kind of odd...I mean, does he want to get more dates or something?
MidwestUSA Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Well, I probably couldn't resist feeding him some really weird stuff, or some nice back-handed compliments, and see if they end up on his profile. I guess I'd see how far I could take it, and wear my crazy cuff links proudly. Seriously, F with the guy. Just for grins. 3
FitChick Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 What does he say about you? If it's complimentary put it on your profile and then dump him.
MidwestUSA Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 What does he say about you? If it's complimentary put it on your profile and then dump him. I think it should be something to do with muffins. Definitely.
Author tigerdog Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Yes, clearly he is still dating around since we aren't exclusive... but we met on an OLD dating site and are dating so I'm not a friend telling him this. Our last date was super romantic, spanned a half-day and he seemed to not want to leave. I was shocked to see he logged in the next day and updated his profile with things we had discussed. You guys are right, he must be some odd weirdo and it's clear he's just not interested... and updating it with compliments I gave him just seems tacky as hell.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I think you should ask him then dump him... id be really intrigued to know why he done that x
kane30us Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I read this Post and had to comment on it. A girl I dated last summer did the same thing. Its tasteless and tacky. And Truth is also kind of hurtful. It shows the person is selfish to take something private and personal and use it to attract someone else. You are better off without someone like that.
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