johnsonracer Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 tried remaning friends with my ex but it ust aint working. she just isnt putting in the effort should i say this and go nc or dont say it and just go nc?? im done playing your games, and gettin disrespected by you and me lettin you walk all over me with all your mistakes and how you would talk about other guys in front of me.. for over a year i put up with it but no more.you arent putting in the effort to remain friends congrats on losing the best thing that happened to you
bubbaganoosh Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 tried remaning friends with my ex but it ust aint working. she just isnt putting in the effort should i say this and go nc or dont say it and just go nc?? im done playing your games, and gettin disrespected by you and me lettin you walk all over me with all your mistakes and how you would talk about other guys in front of me.. for over a year i put up with it but no more.you arent putting in the effort to remain friends congrats on losing the best thing that happened to you I wouldn't. Just go the easy way and go no contact at all with her. Less words, Less hassle and you made your point. By sending her a nasty text is childish and not worth it. 1
Zahara Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 tried remaning friends with my ex but it ust aint working. she just isnt putting in the effort should i say this and go nc or dont say it and just go nc?? im done playing your games, and gettin disrespected by you and me lettin you walk all over me with all your mistakes and how you would talk about other guys in front of me.. for over a year i put up with it but no more.you arent putting in the effort to remain friends congrats on losing the best thing that happened to you This is immature. You chose to be "friends" for all the wrong reasons and when those expectations cannot be fulfilled, you want to throw a tantrum. There are friends that you don't hear from for a long while, when they reach out do you go off on them? Nope. There are friends you can talk to about your daily life and when you hear them talk about some cute guy, do you get upset? Nope. You "friendship" with her is a facade, it is for you to keep your foot in the door because you don't want to let go. You cannot be friends when you are emotional. Be honest with yourself, accept that you cannot be "friends'' in the real sense with her and let her go. Going off on her will just make you look bitter and still emotional. 1
deathandtaxes Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 A simple 'I don't think we can be friends' message is all you need. You leave out that other crap because you want to be a good person.
Scorpio Chick Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 tried remaning friends with my ex but it ust aint working. she just isnt putting in the effort should i say this and go nc or dont say it and just go nc?? im done playing your games, and gettin disrespected by you and me lettin you walk all over me with all your mistakes and how you would talk about other guys in front of me.. for over a year i put up with it but no more.you arent putting in the effort to remain friends congrats on losing the best thing that happened to you JUST GO NO CONTACT. If she's not putting in the effort for anything for you, why would you put in ANY effort for her? Don't know your entire situation, but it doesn't matter that I do, because I know enough about it and that is, a love relationship ended, y'all agreed to be friends, only one of you (you) is actually trying to be a friend, and you're upset or dissatisfied with that. You owe her nothing at this point. You DO owe it to yourself though to get some peace. When words stop working on a person, stop using words. Try silence. Try sudden, uninterrupted, loud silence. It speaks SO much louder than words. She may not know what hit her, and that is precisely one reaction that MIGHT turn her thinking around. No guarantees, but what have words done for you in your situation?
sly_fly1 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 do not say that, bad idea, all you have to do is say " lol by the way, i think that yo ca" then just stop in mid sentence, then you delete and block her. kick back , relax, play some video games to keep your mind busy when your alone, its the oldest trick in the book, give it 2 or three weeks. and her curiousity will be rising. let her do the contact. what you need to do is move on emotionally, this means stop caring, you know she loves yous already. you know how you 2 were together. if she is being confident, its only because your kissing her heels. pull away and when she tries to remain your friend when SHE starts to miss you. just say NAH 1
deathandtaxes Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 do not say that, bad idea, all you have to do is say " lol by the way, i think that yo ca" then just stop in mid sentence, then you delete and block her. kick back , relax, play some video games to keep your mind busy when your alone, its the oldest trick in the book, give it 2 or three weeks. and her curiousity will be rising. let her do the contact. what you need to do is move on emotionally, this means stop caring, you know she loves yous already. you know how you 2 were together. if she is being confident, its only because your kissing her heels. pull away and when she tries to remain your friend when SHE starts to miss you. just say NAH Stopping in mid-sentence lmao!!! I need to try to that sometime. Good advice, now it's just up to OP to take the advice, or not. 1
Author johnsonracer Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 ill go nc...its tough because i just wanna tell her how i feel but i guess its better not to
Marco Valerio Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I Like this quote “Friendship may, and often does, grow into love, but love never subsides into friendship.” 1
mutant Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 In this situation there is nothing you can say or do that can beat the power of silence. 1
Elle1975 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 tried remaning friends with my ex but it ust aint working. she just isnt putting in the effort should i say this and go nc or dont say it and just go nc?? im done playing your games, and gettin disrespected by you and me lettin you walk all over me with all your mistakes and how you would talk about other guys in front of me.. for over a year i put up with it but no more.you arent putting in the effort to remain friends congrats on losing the best thing that happened to you You're not the best thing that happened to her. I know it hurts, but it makes you appear bitter and childish. The passive aggressive is a big no-no as well. If you truly want to act like a man, just walk away NC. 1
TylerDurdenn Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 ill go nc...its tough because i just wanna tell her how i feel but i guess its better not to She doesn't care Johnson. F?£k her. Enjoy life. 100 1
Author johnsonracer Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 girlfriend dumped me....i begged, pleaded for her back,when she rejected,i yelled, called her names,told her i hate her. then would keep texting her. things calmed down but then i started my, "do you see us getting back together in the future?" she told me im annoying and blow up her phone DONT BE LIKE ME just go nc i ruined any chance
JoeFallkon Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Maybe if she sees you really went away, and you keep NC ,she ll start wondering what happened to you, and she might text you .erase her no.
nightbird101 Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 I know how you feel. My break up happened 3 months ago. I did the opposite what everyone said I should do. I begged, pleaded even got angry (though I never called her names or yelled at her). She found out I was cyberstalking her and she blocked me from everything just over a week ago. I love her terribly. I'm having such a damn hard time accepting what has happened. That being said most of my days are quite happy and jolly with out her. Its only when I have a slow day (not much to do) is when I start having flash backs. My suggestion is to go NC like me...and try and stay clear of movies about couples falling in love and stuff, trust me they hit you hard.
Author johnsonracer Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 I know how you feel. My break up happened 3 months ago. I did the opposite what everyone said I should do. I begged, pleaded even got angry (though I never called her names or yelled at her). She found out I was cyberstalking her and she blocked me from everything just over a week ago. I love her terribly. I'm having such a damn hard time accepting what has happened. That being said most of my days are quite happy and jolly with out her. Its only when I have a slow day (not much to do) is when I start having flash backs. My suggestion is to go NC like me...and try and stay clear of movies about couples falling in love and stuff, trust me they hit you hard. i regret everything i said and did....everything...and i have to live with that
mangetout Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 girlfriend dumped me....i begged, pleaded for her back,when she rejected,i yelled, called her names,told her i hate her. then would keep texting her. things calmed down but then i started my, "do you see us getting back together in the future?" she told me im annoying and blow up her phone DONT BE LIKE ME just go nc i ruined any chance I agree with you there but sometimes emotions get in the way.And not everyone's case is the same. I was just like you. He broke up with me last November and I begged and pleaded for weeks on end. He then changed his mind and asked me back out in Feb. We broke up, again I begged etc then got angry. Then begged again. He then asked me back out in March and we broke up two weeks later. I got really angry and then begged. He then asked me back out two weeks ago. The longest time we have gone NC is 11 days.
Elle1975 Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 girlfriend dumped me....i begged, pleaded for her back,when she rejected,i yelled, called her names,told her i hate her. then would keep texting her. things calmed down but then i started my, "do you see us getting back together in the future?" she told me im annoying and blow up her phone DONT BE LIKE ME just go nc i ruined any chance Well, what do they say? Acceptance is the first step to recovery? anyway... Now you know. That's what matters. Most people have to learn the hard way for something to finally sink in. I wouldn't beat myself up for it. It's today from now on that matters. You will have a much healthier love life now that you (hopefully) have learned from your mistakes. And don't think you ruined any chances btw. While it can happen, the majority of the break ups do not lead to a reconciliation. It's damaged goods anyways. So.. I rather have a brand new toy (!!!!), than an old flip phone.
Author johnsonracer Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 Well, what do they say? Acceptance is the first step to recovery? anyway... Now you know. That's what matters. Most people have to learn the hard way for something to finally sink in. I wouldn't beat myself up for it. It's today from now on that matters. You will have a much healthier love life now that you (hopefully) have learned from your mistakes. And don't think you ruined any chances btw. While it can happen, the majority of the break ups do not lead to a reconciliation. It's damaged goods anyways. So.. I rather have a brand new toy (!!!!), than an old flip phone. true but five years form now maybe we could have been friends not anymore
alexwood Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 true but five years form now maybe we could have been friends not anymore time heals allwounds
Author johnsonracer Posted June 12, 2014 Author Posted June 12, 2014 time heals allwounds i hope it does
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