Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Beginning of March I went on a coffee date with someone. We had a good time, he has great conversation, we made each other laugh, it was a good first meet, even though I felt little physical attraction toward him. He contacted me several times after that first date, kept talking about wanting to meet me again, what a beautiful amazing woman I was and he really wanted to get to know me. Looks like I made a good impression on him. On my end though, I was not always nice, my interest in him was mild, I often left his texts unanswered, he would get back to me and say things like: what do I need to do to see you again, haven't I shown you how much I am interested in you! So I said ok, lets go on a second date. We set a date and a place. On the day of that second date we were hit with a snowstorm. He text me: looks like we will have to reschedule! and nothing else. I started dating last boyfriend Three weeks later I get a text from this dude asking to reschedule our 2nd date. I went: what? I have not heard from you in 3 weeks so life went on and I met someone else! He still asked to meet for a drink. I said I took my exclusivity contract very seriously so if I find myself single again I will ring him. After that he text me about once a month asking if I was available for a drink. So this guy pursued me even when I showed no interest in meeting him again, and even after ignoring his texts a few times he wasn't letting it bother him and kept on trying. Is this what you call a man being into you?
Potz4prez Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 That's what you call desperate. He probably wants ANYONE, not you.
deathandtaxes Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 He was interested at first. You blew him off. What else do you expect now?
Author Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 He was interested at first. You blew him off. What else do you expect now? You did not read the whole thing did you. I blew him off several times and he is STILL contacting me to meet again.
Bigcitydreamer Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I'd take it to mean that he must see something very special in you! Even if you aren't that physically attracted you could accept another date if he offers again to see how it goes. 1
Potz4prez Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 He's not going to get any prettier. Even if he saw something special in her, any self respecting man would have moved on by now.
MidwestUSA Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Are you going to let him know that you're finally accepting his invite, but that it's within two days of breaking up with someone else? You move on quickly, I'll give you that.
beach Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 It may help you to be on your own for a Long while and learn to be happy and content that way. Like energy attracts. This guy seems desperate and after all your other R just ended. Why the need to have someone? Especially a guy that wasn't good enough a few short months ago...? Be on your own - independent - and satisfied WITH YOURSELF - without focusing on any man.
Author Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 It may help you to be on your own for a Long while and learn to be happy and content that way. Like energy attracts. This guy seems desperate and after all your other R just ended. Why the need to have someone? Especially a guy that wasn't good enough a few short months ago...? Be on your own - independent - and satisfied WITH YOURSELF - without focusing on any man. I was single for 10 years without any dating, I got enough alone time to last me a life time.
Omei Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Are you going to let him know that you're finally accepting his invite, but that it's within two days of breaking up with someone else? You move on quickly, I'll give you that. Her last relationship was a 3 month bust. I dont think I'd be attached and could prob move on, gotta at least be a year to get my water works. I think OP is very much the same.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I suppose you could say he's into you, but why bother? Your interest level was low, so what's changed now?
Author Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 I suppose you could say he's into you, but why bother? Your interest level was low, so what's changed now? He is a good prospect on paper. He's stable, a professional, funny, smart, etc. Is always letting attraction decide such a good thing? Maybe I can come to see past the couple of things that bothered me during our first meeting.
Potz4prez Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Cause you'll probably decide it's not working a month in. Attraction is important.
Potz4prez Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Stupid editing rule. He is a good prospect on paper. He's stable, a professional, funny, smart, etc. Is always letting attraction decide such a good thing? Maybe I can come to see past the couple of things that bothered me during our first meeting. If someone is "stable, a professional, funny, smart, etc.", but I'm not attracted to them... I call them my friend.
Imajerk17 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Beginning of March I went on a coffee date with someone. We had a good time, he has great conversation, we made each other laugh, it was a good first meet, even though I felt little physical attraction toward him. He contacted me several times after that first date, kept talking about wanting to meet me again, what a beautiful amazing woman I was and he really wanted to get to know me. Looks like I made a good impression on him. On my end though, I was not always nice, my interest in him was mild, I often left his texts unanswered, he would get back to me and say things like: what do I need to do to see you again, haven't I shown you how much I am interested in you! So I said ok, lets go on a second date. We set a date and a place. On the day of that second date we were hit with a snowstorm. He text me: looks like we will have to reschedule! and nothing else. I started dating last boyfriend Three weeks later I get a text from this dude asking to reschedule our 2nd date. I went: what? I have not heard from you in 3 weeks so life went on and I met someone else! He still asked to meet for a drink. I said I took my exclusivity contract very seriously so if I find myself single again I will ring him. After that he text me about once a month asking if I was available for a drink. So this guy pursued me even when I showed no interest in meeting him again, and even after ignoring his texts a few times he wasn't letting it bother him and kept on trying. Is this what you call a man being into you? THIS is why some women struggle in dating. You don't seem to take enough responsibility for how you treat other people/communicating in a straightforward manner/picking the right guys. Hey before anyone accuses me of coming down hard on women, I am just as hard on the guys here. Gaeta, I don't know what made you pick your last boyfriend, but from the sounds of it on here, your last relationship was a train wreck. It sounds that your people-picker is messed up. I hardly know how you could go any worse giving this guy more of a chance. 2
Author Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 What bothered you during your first meeting? Ok, I will sound superficial I warn you. We met in the parking lot at 7 pm in front of the coffee shop. It was dark, in the winter. First thing he told me after saying hello was that this other man in the parking lot had called him up cause he needed help with something. My date instead of asking the guy how he could help him just walked in the other direction ignoring the man. I said maybe he just needed a boost or he needed someone to call a towing. My date said he did not care, he's not dying in a parking lot tonight. That killed his masculinity right in front of my eyes. Then we went in, took our coat off, and everything went downhill from there. I found him small, small hands, small frame, narrow shoulders, etc etc etc. Gave me a general feeling that this was a not a man that would keep me safe. 2
Author Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Gaeta, I don't know what made you pick your last boyfriend, but from the sounds of it on here, your last relationship was a train wreck. It sounds that your people-picker is messed up. I hardly know how you could go any worse giving this guy more of a chance. I know so I am wondering myself too if I should not put down my men-picker and go with someone I would normally not go with.
MidwestUSA Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Oh, I remember that one. Don't lead him on. Make sure this isn't just a knee jerk response to your break up. Take a week off. 1
Under The Radar Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Maybe he has a large penis ...... he could use it to fend off would be attackers ...... no? 2
Author Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Maybe he has a large penis ...... he could use it to fend off would be attackers ...... no? hahaha thanks for the laugh!
MidwestUSA Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Maybe he has a large penis ...... he could use it to fend off would be attackers ...... no? If he can tow a car with it, I'd be interested! 1
beach Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 He wasn't good enough then - what makes him good enough now?
Under The Radar Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 If he can tow a car with it, I'd be interested! Sure, why not? Maybe he has the AAA King Cobra Package. Unfortunately, I don't qualify for that plan - LOL.
Author Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 He wasn't good enough then - what makes him good enough now? I don't like using the words 'not good enough' other than the lack of physical attraction he is a very respectable man.
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