Author Mommame2 Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 I understand. Our son doesn't really know about this stuff but I recognize that tension is probably absorbed by him too. I think my posting here helps me recognize how rough the situation really is. Is it normal for a husband to legally seperate from his wife to get her to file bankruptcy to avoid repaying debts ... Instead of working harder. I don't think so and it is showing me who I am married to.
Raena Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Nevermind... my question was asked and answered already. If this is debt you incurred in your name because you were married to him and he couldn't help out then he's just as responsible for it as you are. Why would you consider letting him off the hook if he's part of the reason you have so much debt?
Author Mommame2 Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) His argument is if we both file we will have to live at government standards as both of our incomes will be factored into the repayment. Also, if he doesn't file he can continue holding credit and loans for "the family" in the future. If he doesn't file his income would not be counted and we could potentially (in his mind) continue our lives for the most part... As we know it. I think what I'm most concerned about is HOW can I stay married to a man who does this to his wife? The other factor here is I am a public figure. If I file bankruptcy I risk it appearing in headlines. But he obviously doesn't care all that much about that. Edited June 8, 2014 by Mommame2
Raena Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 It sounds like you really need to consult a financial advisor for the money issue. As for you husband... I've read you past posts and I'm confused. Are you allowing other people to post under your name? Some of your posts say you are divorced, others say married, some looking for advice on dating issues. I'm just not sure what the entire issue is here or which ones are about you or someone else. I'd be very concerned with a man who wants to divorce you to settle financial woes that he helped incur. He's leaving it all on your plate and that's not the way it should be. He was part of the reason why you managed to get so much debt so he needs to be part of the solution. Perhaps you can come to some sort of agreement in a divorce plan? Seriously, it sounds like your relationship with him is very draining, toxic and completely unhealthy for you. He manipulates and controls you in every way he can. Get rid of the leech!
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