endlessabyss Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 It's not something that affects my daily life anymore, but the feelings are definitely still there. I haven't spoke to her in over six months (and it was very brief when we did speak), and I haven't physically seen her in 2 years. I keep having these intense dreams about her, and in makes me yearn for her so much. I actually drove by her several days ago (no stalker), and seeing her car evoked all these feelings and memories. There is a part of me that still finds it bizarre that I spend so many years of my life with her, and we are nobody to each other now, on our completely different paths in life. I don't know if these feelings that have resided with me to this time will ever dissipate.
sumathi Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Break free of such thoughts as it could affect you emotionally. When she has forgotten you, why do you find it difficult to forget her? When there is a break up you should make efforts to completely wipe the person from your life. 1
Author endlessabyss Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Break free of such thoughts as it could affect you emotionally. When she has forgotten you, why do you find it difficult to forget her? When there is a break up you should make efforts to completely wipe the person from your life. I guess when you spend over six years with someone the thoughts don't disappear that easily. The dreams are really what I struggle with. They are so vivid at times, and when I wake up they stay on mind through a good portion of the day. It makes me dig back into the past, and think of all the pleasant experiences. Definitely wish I could go back.
ahthepain Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I feel for you. Although I only broke up with my ex 10 weeks ago I have intense dreams every night. I hope that in 2 years I barely think about her and if I do I am indifferent to her.
Author endlessabyss Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 I feel for you. Although I only broke up with my ex 10 weeks ago I have intense dreams every night. I hope that in 2 years I barely think about her and if I do I am indifferent to her. In two years you should be good. I haven't been in any relationship since my ex, so maybe that is why I still think of her, because I haven't found someone that I fancy more than her.
ahthepain Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Tbh even though I know it can't be true in my eyes my ex is still the hottest girl in the world. I hope soon that I start seeing other women as better looking as they must be.
Author endlessabyss Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Tbh even though I know it can't be true in my eyes my ex is still the hottest girl in the world. I hope soon that I start seeing other women as better looking as they must be. I hear you, man. Keep your head up though. You'll definitely run by someone better than your ex in the future. You're still very early in the whole process of the breakup.
ahthepain Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Cheers buddy. How intense are the feelings you are currently feeling for her? I mean is it anything like just after you broke up? What does you want most from her?
Author endlessabyss Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Cheers buddy. How intense are the feelings you are currently feeling for her? I mean is it anything like just after you broke up? What does you want most from her? The feelings are no where near where they were at the beginning of the break-up. I'll be ok most the time, but as of late, as stated in my previous post, I have these vivid dreams, and wake up with some pretty intense emotions. From there I'll ruminate on the dream, and think of the past which make me feel kind of lonely/upset. If anything I want from her is that connection we used to have, and the comfort. It's long gone, and I know there is someone waiting for me in the future, but until that time comes, I don't think my ex will ever leave my mind, completely.
Alexjones1 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Those who say IMO you should just forget is all wrong. You should grow! If you have not learned anything from the relationship to make yourself better than that's why your feeling this way. I just had an ex contact me after two years. She creeped my fb and had to call. She has been with someone else for the same amount of time. She just wanted to call because I looked so happy and that she still loves me. I wished her the best and her to me also. Really loving someone is wanting them to be happy with or without you. When you get to this point you become an attractive person and you never know what might happen.
Author endlessabyss Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Those who say IMO you should just forget is all wrong. You should grow! If you have not learned anything from the relationship to make yourself better than that's why your feeling this way. I just had an ex contact me after two years. She creeped my fb and had to call. She has been with someone else for the same amount of time. She just wanted to call because I looked so happy and that she still loves me. I wished her the best and her to me also. Really loving someone is wanting them to be happy with or without you. When you get to this point you become an attractive person and you never know what might happen. Our break-up probably went the worse as it possibly could have. I handled everything in the worst possible way. I have definitely learned a lot since then. No follow up with girls. Total indifference. Never get attached. Am I happy 24/7? I wouldn't say so. I'm not even sure that is humanly possible. If my ex saw my FB, she'd probably see the same person, and get the same idea I'm still the same lol. Same pictures, same amount of "friends", nothing flashy. She may have stalked my facebook, and came to the conclusion that I'm still the same friendless guy I was when she left me, and that her new, social, superstar boyfriends was definitely the right choice. Makes no difference to me. I still have feelings for her, and I am as happy as I can be at this particular moment in my life. I wish her the best.
Alexjones1 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 You are the prize. Dust off the trophy shelf and wax it up! Here's a good question ok bud. Think of the one thing you've always wanted to do sexually with your girlfriend and she said no. If you were an alpha male she would do it. Because she would know you would just leave and find one who would. Turn the tables around of your view. Look at you through her eyes from the moment you met until your breakup. I swear you will see your mistakes. The first moment you think of start there. Write it down and tomorrow do something about whatever it was. Call a free self help line or google that ****. Whatever it is you do it's a start. And that my friend is where you must start.
Author endlessabyss Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 You are the prize. Dust off the trophy shelf and wax it up! Here's a good question ok bud. Think of the one thing you've always wanted to do sexually with your girlfriend and she said no. If you were an alpha male she would do it. Because she would know you would just leave and find one who would. Turn the tables around of your view. Look at you through her eyes from the moment you met until your breakup. I swear you will see your mistakes. The first moment you think of start there. Write it down and tomorrow do something about whatever it was. Call a free self help line or google that ****. Whatever it is you do it's a start. And that my friend is where you must start. Thanks for the feedback, broseph. The main problem I had to overcome was my attitude, which I am consciously working on, and will be a working on into the deep future. Also, had to leave the cynicism behind. I have pretty much identified all the problems that I had. I now try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and understand that most people will reject me, for whatever reason. For all the people that hate me, I love the same as if they loved me. I had a lot of health issues that I was experiencing at the time of our break-up, which factored into her leaving me as well. I graduated college, am at a job that I like; I still have other areas of my life that need to be improved, but Rome wasn't built in a day.
Alexjones1 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 The idea of Rome WAS built in a day! Attitude is a choice!
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