emotionalMess Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) We were best friends for 6 months and only together for 4 months in an (emotional) relationship - never physical because it was mostly over electronic media. She was pinning over someone who did not want to be with her and I was like a fallback rebound from that. She broke it off about 6 months ago and finally the fog is clear for me. She had another (LDR) in her back pocket and was in place right after me which lasted about 2 months. I think the rebound dumped her, not sure. 6 months ago she blocked me from social media due to the new bf, but kept contact open via phone and sometimes txt insisting on remaining friends. I was devastated and refused and asked for time to heal and went NC but she broke it a few times and I did a couple of times too. 2.5 months after the break, she wanted to meet up but not to say goodbye and not to take me back. Then promised to txt me and I assumed that night. I waited like a fool all night and she did not text. I again reacted next day and asked her to never contact me again, she still wanted to be friends, I said no! I did not tell her why I was mad, I assumed she knew but not sure now. 3 months into the break, I wrote here a letter on FB to her from an unblocked account about how due to trust, we could never be close friends again but maybe in future we could become casual friends. I said I would contact her in a month if I decide to but she could decide at anytime. She did not respond until I suggested how uncool it was. She finally responded. Of course she decided on the spot, did a 180 and did not want to remain friends and she decided to be "alone" a week ago, meaning she was not with bf anymore. We had one last nice chat on another FB account where I said she should take time for herself and it was a good idea. I kind of left it open ended (not her) suggesting that after her alone time, I would help her with some stuff if she wanted. She said thanks for understanding and I said she could block this Facebook account if she wanted and I would understand. I wish she would have then. A week later, I snooped her FB and could saw at least one new male facebook friend since she wanted to be "alone". My ego could not take it. I then sent 3 read (but unanswered) messages over 3 days saying that I too decided not to be friends and a final goodbye but with positive thoughts in the messages. She never responded to these messages. Fast forward 55 days, (about 5 weeks ago) I saw her on the street on a Saturday, chit chatted for a very short time. The following week I txtd with "it was nice to see you" and called. My number was blocked and do not know if she blocked the txt or not. So from an the unblocked account I wrote 2 apologetic messages saying that I wanted to forgive, I'm not mad anymore and I learned that trust in friends can be rebuilt (meaning we could be close friends again) and if she wanted to be friends, I would. I also said that she did not have to respond and I would understand - due to her alone time. She did not respond. I sent one more message after that suggesting that we could do what she asked for after the break and skype like we used to. She did not respond and blocked that account. Back to square one. I was hurting from no response. I could not believe it because I would never do that to anyone unless I despised them. I felt so bad. I just had to send one last message (from an unblocked account) telling her I have been lonely for a long time and how hurt I was that even after she had no bf that she did not want me back to chat on FB and that she had a bunch of strangers on there that came after us and our deep friendship and with her always pushing to be friends. Her so called former best friend (me) was an outsider. I laid a big guilt trip on her (which I have never done previously) and I so regret ever sending that last message. I saw here on the street about 3 weeks ago and just said hi / bye but did not mention blocking me. I was blind, the whole staying friends thing was either her relieving guilt, letting me down easy or keeping me as a fallback. I am assuming she wanted me out of her life a long time ago but she just did not have the courage to tell me. I was confused about her wanting to be friends and her trying to contact me. It's clear now. Anyway my big delima is this. I so regret the last message. Part of my healing is to forgive. I don't want her to remember me by that last guilt trip message. I have the urge to send one final message telling here that I was sorry for invading her space, I did not mean the things I said in the last message and there are no hard feelings. I wanted to let her know that I believe in her and she will do great things. I want to let her know that this is how I want her to remember me by, as my last message and not the other bitter one. The problem is I deleted my FB account after she blocked me and I would have to create a new one just to send this message. I feel like any further contact from me puts me in the stalker category so I thought I would reach out to you guys for help before I make a mistake. It is difficult to move on knowing that I left this bad last impression sounding like some bitter person. I still miss her a lot but that is something i must deal with, not her. She is perfectly fine ending things. I just wish she could have just laid the hammer down instead of being nice about it. Can anyone understand my situation and advise? Edited June 8, 2014 by emotionalMess
Ordinaryday Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 We were best friends for 6 months and only together for 4 months in an (emotional) relationship - never physical because it was mostly over electronic media. She was pinning over someone who did not want to be with her and I was like a fallback rebound from that. She broke it off about 6 months ago and finally the fog is clear for me. She had another (LDR) in her back pocket and was in place right after me which lasted about 2 months. I think the rebound dumped her, not sure. 6 months ago she blocked me from social media due to the new bf, but kept contact open via phone and sometimes txt insisting on remaining friends. I was devastated and refused and asked for time to heal and went NC but she broke it a few times and I did a couple of times too. 2.5 months after the break, she wanted to meet up but not to say goodbye and not to take me back. Then promised to txt me and I assumed that night. I waited like a fool all night and she did not text. I again reacted next day and asked her to never contact me again, she still wanted to be friends, I said no! I did not tell her why I was mad, I assumed she knew but not sure now. 3 months into the break, I wrote here a letter on FB to her from an unblocked account about how due to trust, we could never be close friends again but maybe in future we could become casual friends. I said I would contact her in a month if I decide to but she could decide at anytime. She did not respond until I suggested how uncool it was. She finally responded. Of course she decided on the spot, did a 180 and did not want to remain friends and she decided to be "alone" a week ago, meaning she was not with bf anymore. We had one last nice chat on another FB account where I said she should take time for herself and it was a good idea. I kind of left it open ended (not her) suggesting that after her alone time, I would help her with some stuff if she wanted. She said thanks for understanding and I said she could block this Facebook account if she wanted and I would understand. I wish she would have then. A week later, I snooped her FB and could saw at least one new male facebook friend since she wanted to be "alone". My ego could not take it. I then sent 3 read (but unanswered) messages over 3 days saying that I too decided not to be friends and a final goodbye but with positive thoughts in the messages. She never responded to these messages. Fast forward 55 days, (about 5 weeks ago) I saw her on the street on a Saturday, chit chatted for a very short time. The following week I txtd with "it was nice to see you" and called. My number was blocked and do not know if she blocked the txt or not. So from an the unblocked account I wrote 2 apologetic messages saying that I wanted to forgive, Im not mad anymore and if she wanted to be friends, I would. I also said that she did not have to respond and I would understand - due to her alone time. She did not respond. I sent one more message after that suggesting that we could do what she asked for after the break and skype like we used to. She did not respond and blocked that account. Back to square one. I was hurting from no response. I could not believe it because I would never do that to anyone unless I despised them. I felt so bad. I just had to send one last message (from an unblocked account) telling her I have been lonely for a long time and how hurt I was that even after she had no bf that she did not want me back to chat on FB and that she had a bunch of strangers on there that came after us and our deep friendship and with her always pushing to be friends. Her so called former best friend (me) was an outsider. I laid a big guilt trip on her (which I have never done previously) and I so regret ever sending that last message. I saw here on the street about 3 weeks ago and just said hi / bye but did not mention blocking me. I was blind, the whole staying friends thing was either her relieving guilt, letting me down easy or keeping me as a fallback. I am assuming she wanted me out of her life a long time ago but she just did not have the courage to tell me. I was confused about her wanting to be friends and her trying to contact me. It's clear now. Anyway my big delima is this. I so regret the last message. Part of my healing is to forgive. I don't want her to remember me by that last guilt trip message. I have the urge to send one final message telling here that I was sorry for invading her space, I did not mean the things I said in the last message and there are no hard feelings. I wanted to let her know that I believe in her and she will do great things. I want to let her know that this is how I want her to remember me by, as my last message and not the other bitter one. The problem is I deleted my FB account after she blocked me and I would have to create a new one just to send this message. I feel like any further contact from me puts me in the stalker category so I thought I would reach out to you guys for help before I make a mistake. It is difficult to move on knowing that I left this bad last impression sounding like some bitter person. I still miss her a lot but that is something i must deal with, not her. She is perfectly fine ending things. I just wish she could have just laid the hammer down instead of being nice about it. Can anyone understand my situation and advise? don't contact her. I am sure she realises that anything nasty you said to her was just heat of the moment stuff, and most people would not permanently hold that against someone. but to contact her risks setting you back and annoying her and effectively killing ANY chance, however small, of her contacting you in the future. don't do it.
Author emotionalMess Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 We were best friends for 6 months and only together for 4 months in an (emotional) relationship - never physical because it was mostly over electronic media. She was pinning over someone who did not want to be with her and I was like a fallback rebound from that. She broke it off about 6 months ago and finally the fog is clear for me. She had another (LDR) in her back pocket and was in place right after me which lasted about 2 months. I think the rebound dumped her, not sure. 6 months ago she blocked me from social media due to the new bf, but kept contact open via phone and sometimes txt insisting on remaining friends. I was devastated and refused and asked for time to heal and went NC but she broke it a few times and I did a couple of times too. 2.5 months after the break, she wanted to meet up but not to say goodbye and not to take me back. Then promised to txt me and I assumed that night. I waited like a fool all night and she did not text. I again reacted next day and asked her to never contact me again, she still wanted to be friends, I said no! I did not tell her why I was mad, I assumed she knew but not sure now. 3 months into the break, I wrote here a letter on FB to her from an unblocked account about how due to trust, we could never be close friends again but maybe in future we could become casual friends. I said I would contact her in a month if I decide to but she could decide at anytime. She did not respond until I suggested how uncool it was. She finally responded. Of course she decided on the spot, did a 180 and did not want to remain friends and she decided to be "alone" a week ago, meaning she was not with bf anymore. We had one last nice chat on another FB account where I said she should take time for herself and it was a good idea. I kind of left it open ended (not her) suggesting that after her alone time, I would help her with some stuff if she wanted. She said thanks for understanding and I said she could block this Facebook account if she wanted and I would understand. I wish she would have then. A week later, I snooped her FB and could saw at least one new male facebook friend since she wanted to be "alone". My ego could not take it. I then sent 3 read (but unanswered) messages over 3 days saying that I too decided not to be friends and a final goodbye but with positive thoughts in the messages. She never responded to these messages. Fast forward 55 days, (about 5 weeks ago) I saw her on the street on a Saturday, chit chatted for a very short time. The following week I txtd with "it was nice to see you" and called. My number was blocked and do not know if she blocked the txt or not. So from an the unblocked account I wrote 2 apologetic messages saying that I wanted to forgive, I'm not mad anymore and I learned that trust in friends can be rebuilt (meaning we could be close friends again) and if she wanted to be friends, I would. I also said that she did not have to respond and I would understand - due to her alone time. She did not respond. I sent one more message after that suggesting that we could do what she asked for after the break and skype like we used to. She did not respond and blocked that account. Back to square one. I was hurting from no response. I could not believe it because I would never do that to anyone unless I despised them. I felt so bad. I just had to send one last message (from an unblocked account) telling her I have been lonely for a long time and how hurt I was that even after she had no bf that she did not want me back to chat on FB and that she had a bunch of strangers on there that came after us and our deep friendship and with her always pushing to be friends. Her so called former best friend (me) was an outsider. I laid a big guilt trip on her (which I have never done previously) and I so regret ever sending that last message. I saw here on the street about 3 weeks ago and just said hi / bye but did not mention blocking me. I was blind, the whole staying friends thing was either her relieving guilt, letting me down easy or keeping me as a fallback. I am assuming she wanted me out of her life a long time ago but she just did not have the courage to tell me. I was confused about her wanting to be friends and her trying to contact me. It's clear now. Anyway my big delima is this. I so regret the last message. Part of my healing is to forgive. I don't want her to remember me by that last guilt trip message. I have the urge to send one final message telling here that I was sorry for invading her space, I did not mean the things I said in the last message and there are no hard feelings. I wanted to let her know that I believe in her and she will do great things. I want to let her know that this is how I want her to remember me by, as my last message and not the other bitter one. The problem is I deleted my FB account after she blocked me and I would have to create a new one just to send this message. I feel like any further contact from me puts me in the stalker category so I thought I would reach out to you guys for help before I make a mistake. It is difficult to move on knowing that I left this bad last impression sounding like some bitter person. I still miss her a lot but that is something i must deal with, not her. She is perfectly fine ending things. I just wish she could have just laid the hammer down instead of being nice about it. Can anyone understand my situation and advise? Am I setting myself up for more misery? Should I just accept my mistake and move on?
Author emotionalMess Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) How many Facebook accounts do you have? I had 2 but I have none now. All deleted. I was too tempted to check in on her so I just got rid of them. After she blocked, I decided to delete my account because I was too tempted to check if I was unblocked. I deleted my account not knowing if she ever unblocked it. Edited June 8, 2014 by emotionalMess
Author emotionalMess Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 I had 2 but I have none now. All deleted. I was too tempted to check in on her so I just got rid of them. After she blocked, I decided to delete my account because I was too tempted to check if I was unblocked. I deleted my account not knowing if she ever unblocked it. I didn't plan to fall in love, it just happened. Good thing I posted here before sending the message because I am backtracking now. I think it is more important for me to forgive myself for my own mistake and just move on. But it sucks that my last impression communicated to her was that I was pinning the whole time and that I was needy and bitter.
todreaminblue Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) nice girls end things nicely they do not intend or want to be the cause of another having depression or pain, friendship is an offer given to ease the blow of rejection and when i do it it is heart felt and i am loyal to my word.I allow guys to stay my friends or fade out.I wish them nothing but the best.I am nothing special I am a good friend and if they want my friendship i am one who would offer it. I much prefer to be dumped I might hurt for a while badly actually, but i prefer to hurt myself than hurt another, i am classed when ill as a danger to myself and not to others normally i fall ill when i am hurt so , its a cycle.Dont blame someone for not wanting to hurt you , its not a fall back, it is them softening your fall. I do not fall back on male friends , i get squashed softening falls. Edited June 8, 2014 by todreaminblue
Author emotionalMess Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 So far it is a no go meaning am not going to break contact. Can others please chime in?
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 So far it is a no go meaning am not going to break contact. Can others please chime in? Why do you need others to chime in? The answers wont be different. You want SOMEONE to say break it so you feel justified doing it. Trust me, you wont get many. You might get the "break it if you want, but be ready for the consequences" type deal. You shouldnt do it. It wont benefit anyone. Move forward.
Always Pondering Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 No. I've been in the spot of my messages having been read but ignored and also had the temptation to send one "last one" for a good impression and all that what not. Her opinion on you should not matter and if anything, contacting her after all that blocking and nonsense could make things even worse.
Author emotionalMess Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 She is that type of girl who would do her best to soften the fall. Of course that's why it is hard letting go (he being such a good person). I'm not just saying that because she is on the pedestal, its just the truth. What I sent in my last message was what I was feeling at the time and that was also the truth, whether I regret it or not. I hate the fact that she knows now that I seem to be not over her indicating low self-esteem on my part. I just wish I could send this last message and let her know that I am not bitter because she really did not do anything horrible to me, it was really the opposite of horrible. She just wanted to move on. I am like you, just lay the hammer down on me hard, dont stretch it out, string me along. I put the question out there at least 3 times since the break "just tell me that you want me gone, out of your life forever and I will be" all she had to do was say yes. But each time, she refused to answer the question. I know I am not supposed to keep analyzing the past but I am still a bit confused about her wanting to be alone and to find herself. I know that meant not starting up with me again, that is a no-brainer. But does this mean she needs to recover from the rebound, chase the rebound, seek other people right away or truly just wants to not deal with relationships for a while? The only reason I wonder is because many have opinions in this area where it is situational. She ended things with me after I sort of rejected her, I started pinning after I realized what I lost. If I had played it a certain way, I would still be in. Today I dont think I can ever trust her again and I am just dealing with all that goes with being rejected by someone you fell in love with but did not realize how in love you were before the rejection.
Author emotionalMess Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Why do you need others to chime in? The answers wont be different. You want SOMEONE to say break it so you feel justified doing it. Trust me, you wont get many. You might get the "break it if you want, but be ready for the consequences" type deal. You shouldnt do it. It wont benefit anyone. Move forward. Thanks. I respect and I will rely on your advice here. You know how it is when you have those moments of weakness. I tend to be impulsive and do things without thinking it through (going with my heart). Now I say, you know what, maybe me making a fool of myself gave her an ego boost knowing that I was still pinning. If that is true, I can actually feel good about it because I just want her to be happy and I want to have no regrets. Wow, thanks for stopping me.
redbaron005 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Go or no go? No go. Write the message on paper, then mail it to yourself. Don't open for two weeks. See how you feel.
Author emotionalMess Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 I'm so glad I did not have immediate access to Facebook last night. It's turning out to be such a good idea that I deleted my FB account. I will write a letter today to myself. The excitement of me accepting myself, loving myself and improving is building like a tornado. It an awesome feeling. I have gained a lot of knowledge thru this.
Elle1975 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 We were best friends for 6 months and only together for 4 months in an (emotional) relationship - never physical because it was mostly over electronic media. She was pinning over someone who did not want to be with her and I was like a fallback rebound from that. She broke it off about 6 months ago and finally the fog is clear for me. She had another (LDR) in her back pocket and was in place right after me which lasted about 2 months. I think the rebound dumped her, not sure. 6 months ago she blocked me from social media due to the new bf, but kept contact open via phone and sometimes txt insisting on remaining friends. I was devastated and refused and asked for time to heal and went NC but she broke it a few times and I did a couple of times too. 2.5 months after the break, she wanted to meet up but not to say goodbye and not to take me back. Then promised to txt me and I assumed that night. I waited like a fool all night and she did not text. I again reacted next day and asked her to never contact me again, she still wanted to be friends, I said no! I did not tell her why I was mad, I assumed she knew but not sure now. 3 months into the break, I wrote here a letter on FB to her from an unblocked account about how due to trust, we could never be close friends again but maybe in future we could become casual friends. I said I would contact her in a month if I decide to but she could decide at anytime. She did not respond until I suggested how uncool it was. She finally responded. Of course she decided on the spot, did a 180 and did not want to remain friends and she decided to be "alone" a week ago, meaning she was not with bf anymore. We had one last nice chat on another FB account where I said she should take time for herself and it was a good idea. I kind of left it open ended (not her) suggesting that after her alone time, I would help her with some stuff if she wanted. She said thanks for understanding and I said she could block this Facebook account if she wanted and I would understand. I wish she would have then. A week later, I snooped her FB and could saw at least one new male facebook friend since she wanted to be "alone". My ego could not take it. I then sent 3 read (but unanswered) messages over 3 days saying that I too decided not to be friends and a final goodbye but with positive thoughts in the messages. She never responded to these messages. Fast forward 55 days, (about 5 weeks ago) I saw her on the street on a Saturday, chit chatted for a very short time. The following week I txtd with "it was nice to see you" and called. My number was blocked and do not know if she blocked the txt or not. So from an the unblocked account I wrote 2 apologetic messages saying that I wanted to forgive, I'm not mad anymore and I learned that trust in friends can be rebuilt (meaning we could be close friends again) and if she wanted to be friends, I would. I also said that she did not have to respond and I would understand - due to her alone time. She did not respond. I sent one more message after that suggesting that we could do what she asked for after the break and skype like we used to. She did not respond and blocked that account. Back to square one. I was hurting from no response. I could not believe it because I would never do that to anyone unless I despised them. I felt so bad. I just had to send one last message (from an unblocked account) telling her I have been lonely for a long time and how hurt I was that even after she had no bf that she did not want me back to chat on FB and that she had a bunch of strangers on there that came after us and our deep friendship and with her always pushing to be friends. Her so called former best friend (me) was an outsider. I laid a big guilt trip on her (which I have never done previously) and I so regret ever sending that last message. I saw here on the street about 3 weeks ago and just said hi / bye but did not mention blocking me. I was blind, the whole staying friends thing was either her relieving guilt, letting me down easy or keeping me as a fallback. I am assuming she wanted me out of her life a long time ago but she just did not have the courage to tell me. I was confused about her wanting to be friends and her trying to contact me. It's clear now. Anyway my big delima is this. I so regret the last message. Part of my healing is to forgive. I don't want her to remember me by that last guilt trip message. I have the urge to send one final message telling here that I was sorry for invading her space, I did not mean the things I said in the last message and there are no hard feelings. I wanted to let her know that I believe in her and she will do great things. I want to let her know that this is how I want her to remember me by, as my last message and not the other bitter one. The problem is I deleted my FB account after she blocked me and I would have to create a new one just to send this message. I feel like any further contact from me puts me in the stalker category so I thought I would reach out to you guys for help before I make a mistake. It is difficult to move on knowing that I left this bad last impression sounding like some bitter person. I still miss her a lot but that is something i must deal with, not her. She is perfectly fine ending things. I just wish she could have just laid the hammer down instead of being nice about it. Can anyone understand my situation and advise? Eh.. no.. The story is already full of unnecessary drama.. leave it at that, don't add to it.
BC1980 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 You can't control the impression you leave on her. You just can't. You are attempting to control what you cannot by breaking NC. Actually, it will make you look worse.
Author emotionalMess Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 I know its time to move on but a question that all Dumpee's have is mine. "How much has she missed me not being in her life?" The standard answers are, "it depends" and "she misses you but not enough to take you back." When I think about this question my best answer is "it depends" how much she really ever cared and how strong of a bond was shared. I look back and I feel that she never really cared as much as I thought she did. She was able to switch us off like a light-bulb. So more than likely she does not miss me at all. So that makes it easier. Another thing, many say ignore txt and phone calls etc from you ex. In my case, her ignoring my messages was like the worst feeeling in the world. It made me feel so low that I would never want anyone to feel like this. I told her in my last message how I felt where I would never, ever do that to anyone and she was not the person I thought she was. So I would not inflict the same pain on her especially since I called that out. Instead, I would keep my response short and indifferent.
BC1980 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I know its time to move on but a question that all Dumpee's have is mine. "How much has she missed me not being in her life?" The standard answers are, "it depends" and "she misses you but not enough to take you back." When I think about this question my best answer is "it depends" how much she really ever cared and how strong of a bond was shared. I look back and I feel that she never really cared as much as I thought she did. She was able to switch us off like a light-bulb. So more than likely she does not miss me at all. So that makes it easier. Another thing, many say ignore txt and phone calls etc from you ex. In my case, her ignoring my messages was like the worst feeeling in the world. It made me feel so low that I would never want anyone to feel like this. I told her in my last message how I felt where I would never, ever do that to anyone and she was not the person I thought she was. So I would not inflict the same pain on her especially since I called that out. Instead, I would keep my response short and indifferent. First, we have no idea how she feels. It's a complete waste of time to wonder how someone else feels because there is no possible way to know for certain. Second, you not answering texts or calls has more to do with you being able to move on than hurting her feelings. I also highly doubt she will initiate any contact with you after what has transpired. She made it quite clear she didn't want to discuss anything more with you.
Elle1975 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I know its time to move on but a question that all Dumpee's have is mine. "How much has she missed me not being in her life?" The standard answers are, "it depends" and "she misses you but not enough to take you back." When I think about this question my best answer is "it depends" how much she really ever cared and how strong of a bond was shared. I look back and I feel that she never really cared as much as I thought she did. She was able to switch us off like a light-bulb. So more than likely she does not miss me at all. So that makes it easier. Another thing, many say ignore txt and phone calls etc from you ex. In my case, her ignoring my messages was like the worst feeeling in the world. It made me feel so low that I would never want anyone to feel like this. I told her in my last message how I felt where I would never, ever do that to anyone and she was not the person I thought she was. So I would not inflict the same pain on her especially since I called that out. Instead, I would keep my response short and indifferent. Let it go.. stop lashing out at her with your comments on who she is or isn't.. to be honest, she doesn't care. This person you were with, in a "emotional relationship" (what does that mean anyway, in a video game or something?), is gone. Stop replaying every detail of what she's done wrong to you, who she was with then, who she is with now, how you'd answer if she contacted you, etc.. Yes, we all wonder about the what if.. what if she contacted me.. what if I saw her in the street, etc.. It's not real life. In real life, you need to get your life back on track, plan a future, and how to get there. Moving on doesn't happen without effort. It's not going to just land on your lap one day. We all spend time thinking about the what if, however, try and define when you do it. Allow yourself say 20 min at night, and that's it.
Author emotionalMess Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 The problem is that there is no doubt in my mind that she will contact me once she gets her head straight. Also, we live in the same neighborhood so we will bump in sometimes. Not responding is not my style. I'd rather just have an indifferent response.
Author emotionalMess Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 When you truly love someone, is it true you will always love them? Any Dumpee's' out there who have moved on long ago but love the dumper in a way where you only wish for their happiness and nothing else?
David87 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 When you truly love someone, is it true you will always love them? Any Dumpee's' out there who have moved on long ago but love the dumper in a way where you only wish for their happiness and nothing else? In my case thats true, it sucks but that's the truth. 1
Author emotionalMess Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 I'm confused. If you moved on and you truly only want her to be happy and nothing else then it should not suck. What part sucks?
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