matt29 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Hi guys, My girlfriend and I broke up just over a week ago, I know it's only been a week but I'm really struggling to accept that it's over. The reasons I'm finding it tough is because we both felt like we still wanted to be together and because there was still a spark between the two of us (only together for 9 months) but because of ongoing family issues she felt she couldn't commit to me 100% and it was unfair on me to be giving 100% to the relationship while she couldn't. Which is fair and I respect her for that, but also finding it tough to accept because she said to me 'you'll move on quickly and forget about me, if I want to reconsile in a month or two you will have already moved on' it's made me think she'll try to come back and it was really unfair for her to say that. We didn't have a really long relationship and I certainly didn't want it to end, but I feel like if I wanted to start dating again soon it would be the wrong thing to do due to the fact I've got this idea in my head she might try to come back. I need advice, should I go on my merry way and close the door to her? I think I know the obvious answer but it's still playing on my mind. Advice would be appreciated! Thanks
The Like Fairy Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Go on your merry way. You might have some fun and meet someone who can commit 100%. 2
OwMyEyeball Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Go on your way. It might not be very merry at first, but you'll recover. Latching onto the possibility of reconciliation will only debilitate you and cause needless sorrow. Ignore her words. They are meaningless in the sense that their true intent are unknown. And don't try to find out, either. There's no closure this early on. Just more questions and doubts. Easier said than done, I know. I just had a highly involved 8 month relationship end with the "you'll be better off without me" spiel as well. Very confusing and very painful. No contact does help a lot. And when others say never break it, they are speaking from a powerful collective experience. You'll be fine. You might not feel it right now, but you will. Best wishes. 2
Alexjones1 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I can bet 100% you don't feel or act like the guy you were 10 minutes before you ever met her. Remember that guy. Go find him. Love yourself again. Let her go. Be happy all the time. Don't post any social media about sadness or that bull****. If you do this you will see yourself as the prize. She and many other women will want you then. Be an alpha and not a beta. Got me? 4
Hello201 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 its true be the person you once were , and dont hang about waiting yes it hurts , you want her back only natural , will that happen who knows but you must try and move forwards for yourself , its the only way i feel your pain im there as well be strong 2
lolablue17 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 because there was still a spark between the two of us (only together for 9 months) but because of ongoing family issues she felt she couldn't commit to me 100% and it was unfair on me to be giving 100% to the relationship while she couldn't. I've learned many lessons in my life. One of them is: when a girl breaks up with you, what's important is the break up. However, the reasons she gives you can be true or lies, its 50\50, and you never know. (more like 10% that she is giving you the whole truth) So, I advise you to take as a business assumption that she just sold you BS about her reasons. Move on! Good luck! 3
Author matt29 Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 I can bet 100% you don't feel or act like the guy you were 10 minutes before you ever met her. Remember that guy. Go find him. Love yourself again. Let her go. Be happy all the time. Don't post any social media about sadness or that bull****. If you do this you will see yourself as the prize. She and many other women will want you then. Be an alpha and not a beta. Got me? You are spot on. When we met my confidence and happiness was higher than it had ever been (12 months after my fiancé left me for someone else) now i need to regain it all again..
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