Pastel Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I'm on my phone so please excuse the possible typos. I'll keep it brief. I met a guy on a dating app and liked him a lot, but I knew he wasn't as into me as I was into him. He also just got out of a relationship. He was always hot and cold. He told me he hated games and he would never use women, but his actions spoke louder than his words. He even admitted to me that he and his ex ran into each other and then went back to his house to hang out, although he swears they didn't do anything and he would never get back together with her. He did say that it messed with his head. So I told him we needed to slow down. He became distant from me until one day he texted me in the morning to apologize for being kinda MIA. I got sick of the treatment he was giving me and deleted his number without responding to him. I reactivated my dating app to find that he'd been on there all along. So I'm very proud of myself for leaving. I never wanted to fall into that trap again. I'm also feeling really down in the dumps and I can't really understand why. I should feel relieved that I dodged a bullet, but I want to slap myself in the face when I get a text and my heart skips a beat hoping it's him! Because I know parting ways was for the best. How do I get myself out of this rut I'm in!?
Elle1975 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I'm on my phone so please excuse the possible typos. I'll keep it brief. I met a guy on a dating app and liked him a lot, but I knew he wasn't as into me as I was into him. He also just got out of a relationship. He was always hot and cold. He told me he hated games and he would never use women, but his actions spoke louder than his words. He even admitted to me that he and his ex ran into each other and then went back to his house to hang out, although he swears they didn't do anything and he would never get back together with her. He did say that it messed with his head. So I told him we needed to slow down. He became distant from me until one day he texted me in the morning to apologize for being kinda MIA. I got sick of the treatment he was giving me and deleted his number without responding to him. I reactivated my dating app to find that he'd been on there all along. So I'm very proud of myself for leaving. I never wanted to fall into that trap again. I'm also feeling really down in the dumps and I can't really understand why. I should feel relieved that I dodged a bullet, but I want to slap myself in the face when I get a text and my heart skips a beat hoping it's him! Because I know parting ways was for the best. How do I get myself out of this rut I'm in!? Good for you. With time you won't think about him anymore. I wrote a post about changing the ringtone of my phone as well as the sound notification of my text messages. It helped me tons, as he was pretty much the only one calling.. so my phone would ring and I'd think it was him. Changing the ringtone was a simple strategy but it worked great for me. Maybe that will help you too. Glad that you had the presence of mind to put a stop to his bs early enough!
Alexjones1 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I'm on my phone so please excuse the possible typos. I'll keep it brief. I met a guy on a dating app and liked him a lot, but I knew he wasn't as into me as I was into him. He also just got out of a relationship. He was always hot and cold. He told me he hated games and he would never use women, but his actions spoke louder than his words. He even admitted to me that he and his ex ran into each other and then went back to his house to hang out, although he swears they didn't do anything and he would never get back together with her. He did say that it messed with his head. So I told him we needed to slow down. He became distant from me until one day he texted me in the morning to apologize for being kinda MIA. I got sick of the treatment he was giving me and deleted his number without responding to him. I reactivated my dating app to find that he'd been on there all along. So I'm very proud of myself for leaving. I never wanted to fall into that trap again. I'm also feeling really down in the dumps and I can't really understand why. I should feel relieved that I dodged a bullet, but I want to slap myself in the face when I get a text and my heart skips a beat hoping it's him! Because I know parting ways was for the best. How do I get myself out of this rut I'm in!? Well here's the thing you don't get out of the wondering. You might hope in years to come he contacts you hoping your happy. Ever thing he knows that he has feelings for someone else at the same time and doesn't want to lead you on. Well unknown if he was a good man that most would be brutally honest. It's like the flu shot. Hurts like hell, but helps you heal!
Elle1975 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Well here's the thing you don't get out of the wondering. You might hope in years to come he contacts you hoping your happy. Ever thing he knows that he has feelings for someone else at the same time and doesn't want to lead you on. Well unknown if he was a good man that most would be brutally honest. It's like the flu shot. Hurts like hell, but helps you heal! I have to go off topic a bit here... flu shots don't hurt and they don't help your body heal. Weird analogy. She won't be thinking about this dude in 2 years from now. She'll be happily planning her vacation with the new beau :-)
smitten4ever Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Hot and cold men are very difficult to handle. I think it's best that you found out. Do you know if he was active on the site though? I'm on my phone so please excuse the possible typos. I'll keep it brief. I met a guy on a dating app and liked him a lot, but I knew he wasn't as into me as I was into him. He also just got out of a relationship. He was always hot and cold. He told me he hated games and he would never use women, but his actions spoke louder than his words. He even admitted to me that he and his ex ran into each other and then went back to his house to hang out, although he swears they didn't do anything and he would never get back together with her. He did say that it messed with his head. So I told him we needed to slow down. He became distant from me until one day he texted me in the morning to apologize for being kinda MIA. I got sick of the treatment he was giving me and deleted his number without responding to him. I reactivated my dating app to find that he'd been on there all along. So I'm very proud of myself for leaving. I never wanted to fall into that trap again. I'm also feeling really down in the dumps and I can't really understand why. I should feel relieved that I dodged a bullet, but I want to slap myself in the face when I get a text and my heart skips a beat hoping it's him! Because I know parting ways was for the best. How do I get myself out of this rut I'm in!?
Author Pastel Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Hot and cold men are very difficult to handle. I think it's best that you found out. Do you know if he was active on the site though? Thanks everyone! I really appreciate the words of encouragement and the great advice. I know because this particular app tracks when you've last been active. When I checked it had only been 7 hours since he'd gone on there.
jbelle6 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I'm on my phone so please excuse the possible typos. I'll keep it brief. I met a guy on a dating app and liked him a lot, but I knew he wasn't as into me as I was into him. He also just got out of a relationship. He was always hot and cold. He told me he hated games and he would never use women, but his actions spoke louder than his words. He even admitted to me that he and his ex ran into each other and then went back to his house to hang out, although he swears they didn't do anything and he would never get back together with her. He did say that it messed with his head. So I told him we needed to slow down. He became distant from me until one day he texted me in the morning to apologize for being kinda MIA. I got sick of the treatment he was giving me and deleted his number without responding to him. I reactivated my dating app to find that he'd been on there all along. So I'm very proud of myself for leaving. I never wanted to fall into that trap again. I'm also feeling really down in the dumps and I can't really understand why. I should feel relieved that I dodged a bullet, but I want to slap myself in the face when I get a text and my heart skips a beat hoping it's him! Because I know parting ways was for the best. How do I get myself out of this rut I'm in!? You will get over him. From now on, don't proceed with anyone that is not as into you as you are into them EVER. It doesn't end well. Been there, believe me! And you'll forget him soon enough.
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