cmack90 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Okay so I asked out a girl that I work with on Wednesday for this weekend. We went out last night and had a drink. Our conversation went pretty well. However the date only lasted about an hour. We are both 22 and she moved here from another state because she was married (however recently filed for divorce). That doesn't really bother me. Anyways, when we left we just walked to her car and she said thanks for tonight, see you tomorrow (at work). We didn't even hug or anything. I told her to text me when she got home and she did, then thanked me again for the night. I replied: Sure! Would you want to do it again? You can be honest with me;). Lol. She replied: That would be nice, if you wanted to. I proceeded to ask her if she would like to grill out at my parents on Sunday as they will be out of town (I'm staying with them this summer). She replied Sounds fun! Just let me know if there is anything you need me to bring? Fast forward to today: She asked me while I was leaving work if I would like to join a group tonight from work for drinks. These are my questions: 1. Is it strange that last night was so short? And that we didn't even hug? 2. Should I proceed with having her over? My main concern is making her feel uncomfortable with just the two of us being alone like that on only a second date. Also, the house is very messy.
Mrin Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Some thoughts: 1. Yes it is odd that it only lasted one hour but then again you work together. 2. Yes you probably shouldn't have asked her over to your parents (the two of you alone) but she seems game for it and trusts you. So good so far 3. You have to go through with it. You asked, she accepted. Spend half a day over there cleaning up before she comes by. 4. Go out with her and her friends. You asked her into an awk situation and she was game for it. Now you should do the same. Sounds like you guys are off to a fun start. Keep us posted. 1
Mrin Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 No they are not Brilliant reasoning there. Can't argue with that! Care to elaborate?
Rar0 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Brilliant reasoning there. Can't argue with that! Care to elaborate? They aren't into it
Author cmack90 Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 I can't go out tonight because I have to work in the morning until 3. Which leaves me almost no time to clean. I had to turn her away for tonight but she confirmed we were still on for tomorrow. Will this be a huge mistake if it goes badly? I don't even know how to back out at this point.
Mrin Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Canceling would be really bad. She'd take it as rejection. If you must, take her out to a nice meal and a stroll in the park and just say the place was really messy and you wanted to make a good impression. She'll appreciate the effort. But next time don't invite her to do stuff and then change your mind. Makes you look weak and indecisive.
jbelle6 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Be careful and guard your heart, the date isn't the issue, the fact that she isn't technically single yet is.
Coil Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I'd say clean the house good before the weekend. Hopefully you went out with the group for drinks. I don't think there is anything wrong with a short first date like that and she appears interested enough to invite you with a group and accept your invite. IMHO nothing wrong with taking things slow and getting to know eachother...
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