saz123 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Hi everyone, I just need advice. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and we're basically soul mates. We get on well and never get bored of one another, kind of thing. But one thing I've noticed is that whenever he has work the next day at 6AM he will say to me "I can only stay and see you until 11PM as I have work early the next morning" ... And I would say to him that it's fine you go at 11. But when he sees his friends it's a different story. He has work at 6AM but will stay out with his friends until 2AM. I've tried to speak to him but he told me to 'stop complaining'. Why am I different? If anyone needs extra info from me just ask - but please help!
juicygirl Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) His right, stop complaining. He probably sees you a lot more than his friends and everyday. Edited June 8, 2014 by juicygirl Spelling 1
D.Mc. Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Hi Saz123, Do you "get on well" enough so that if you did the same thing he wouldn't "complain" about it? If that's the case, then I would guess it's not an indicator of future inequality/disrespect as the relationship moves along. If not the case, then he is giving you "B" list status. The only way it won't become an issue is if it is only related to the going out w/friends- but then these respect issues have a way of popping up more & more frequently as the rship develops: 1st it's choosing to prioritize going out w/his friends, then it'll be something else that he's going to put ahead of you & more & more often. If it bothered you enough to say something about it to him & his response was to criticize you... well, a year is enough time to see where you're headed with him in reference to where you want to be on his priority list.
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