Broken Hearted Me Posted February 13, 2005 Posted February 13, 2005 Hi guys, I am new to this board and been reading alot of posts around... just thought i could make one and maybe could help me get my head straight up or just simply give some relief to my broken heart from understanding things that i find so hard to understand. Its been 2 months since my break up happened, yet im still under the thought of the following questions running through my head... 1. How do you know if you are "in love" and just "love" someone? They say that loving someone is different from inlove with someone... 2. If "falling out of love for no reason" is possible? My ex left me with this reason of break up. He just fell out of love! And cant give any reason as to why. 3. Why the ex wants me to hate him for what he have done? When i cant.. I am not sure if someone will have interest to respond to this but hoping to get some responses anyway... thanks! BHM
Nine Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 Hi BHM, I'm sorry to hear about your break up and the pain you are feeling. I'm not an expert, but here are my thoughts on your questions... 1. How do you know if you are "in love" and just "love" someone? They say that loving someone is different from inlove with someone... I think that being "in love" has to do with attraction. People can be attracted to other people for alot of reasons. I think "loving" someone means that you are interested in what is best for them. You want them to be able to reach their potential in this life. 2. If "falling out of love for no reason" is possible? My ex left me with this reason of break up. He just fell out of love! And cant give any reason as to why. He may not be aware of what his reason is and that is why he can't tell you. Or maybe he does not want to admit the reason. I think there probably is a reason. 3. Why the ex wants me to hate him for what he have done? When i cant.. What has he done? Whatever it is, I agree that hate isn't a good choice. He probably wants you to hate him so he doesn't have to feel so bad about whatever he has done. It is not your job to alleviate his remorse. I hope you feel better soon. Nine
NTB Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 i don't think i can really offer much here it has only been a month since my break up and i still can't get it together. i have gone through break ups before but never anything like this. i think about her all the time i can't seem to get through this. i don't really know if you can fall out of love but i think maybe your love can become less intense with the person your with i mean you still love them but not as much as you did before. so maybe that is what happened to him, he still cares about you just not as intensely as before......then again i could just me talking out of my rectum....or maybe he just needs time to realize what he really needs and wants..
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