tomatome Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Newcomer to the community, which seems like a mix of good people and interesting thoughts. I have been 'dating' someone for about ten months now. When I say dating, it is usually dinner or a movie but very little else. We get along well, sometimes flirt, and usually see each other once a week or so. I have made a number of moves to show interest and perhaps spark intimacy and forward progress, but to no avail. She continually says she is not sure, not ready or tells me to go slow. All I receive is a bit of handholding now and then, and some flirty texts/emails. For reference she is in her 30s and doesn't seem like the shy type. Anyway, I have accepted that even though I fancy her, she is just not that interested, and is likely hanging out with me either because she likes the attention or the support. Thus recently I suddenly stopped contacting her. It has been several weeks and I haven't heard from her either. My intuition is just to let it go as is, but part of me thinks its a little weird just to walk away without saying anything--especially after all this time. I just want to say I appreciated the time we spent together, but hey, I'm going my way. And no, I am wary enough of her now to where I probably wouldn't consider continuing if she offered. Life is short. Thoughts?
smuggy95 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 yup. say anything and it will sound like a plea, like a 'here is your last chance please say you like me after all' and mostly likely she will just read it and roll her eyes and wonder why you couldn't just read between her lines and see she surely was not interested.
Elle1975 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 To contact her with your "I'm going my way" is not going to do you any good, as she's already gone. you're much better off with silence and not picking up her calls. I understand not having sex unless a commitment happens, or a certain amount of time has passed, but 10 months? And usually those things are put on the table first hand "I only have sex in a committed relationship".
Author tomatome Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Thanks for support in my moment of weakness. Confirms my intuition, nc. Best wishes to all of you.
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