crispywat Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Well its all over my relationship, i have had a few struggles for the last month and knew things were not great, i went out with my partner last night all went well, had a lovely night but then this morning she came over unannounced to tell me that she isnt happy. There are a few issues , she has a male friend and i didnt like how they spoke and how often.....she showed him effection but with me it stopped after our first month. We have a holiday booked so not sure what will occur with that now. Apparently last weekend she had read my texts on phone, some where to my mates expressing frustration at the relationship, nothing bad but some about the holdiay I am heart broken
ExpatInItaly Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Well its all over my relationship, i have had a few struggles for the last month and knew things were not great, i went out with my partner last night all went well, had a lovely night but then this morning she came over unannounced to tell me that she isnt happy. There are a few issues , she has a male friend and i didnt like how they spoke and how often.....she showed him effection but with me it stopped after our first month. We have a holiday booked so not sure what will occur with that now. Apparently last weekend she had read my texts on phone, some where to my mates expressing frustration at the relationship, nothing bad but some about the holdiay I am heart broken I'm sorry you're here, OP. The end of a relationship can be devastating but also an opportunity to find better for yourself. You mentioned there'd been issue for the last month. What was going on?
David87 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Sorry for your pain friend, but i think she likes her male friend and it's possible she cheated on you with him.....Start NC.
Author crispywat Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 I'm sorry you're here, OP. The end of a relationship can be devastating but also an opportunity to find better for yourself. You mentioned there'd been issue for the last month. What was going on? The issues started when we went out and she stopped taling to me one night, and spent the night texting this bloke, thats when i thought it was weird....a few days later i checked her phone and saw all the messages and there was some i dont class as friends messages more flirty.....like hey why you up late not that im complaining etc...but much for me and i was worried each time she went out she was seeing him and if she left my house earlier then i would know it was to text him. She did say nothing was going on but my behaviour went from normal to coming across needy and jelous...but also she stopped showing any effection to me ....i got even more worried cause of this.....things carried on but we was both treading on egg shells and arguments started to come out.....i mentioned that bloke again and she said she would prefer i left as she wouldnt ever leave a friend for me...not that i was asking her too. These things really but she stopped texing anything nice and one worders came out , and now its all over
soccerrprp Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Well, you knew things were not going well. What did you and your gf do to try to change that? Yeah, if not over, the relationship has been seriously compromised. Sharing texts with your friends and others instead of expressing those things with your gf is always a mistake unless you've exhausted all avenues. YOU TWO NEED TO TALK if there is any chance, but if she's talking to this other guy, the damage has been done. Women, generally, don't stray unless they are being emotionally (mostly) neglected. This talking to this "bloke" is not a sudden thing, rather, after some time being unfulfilled and unhappy. What has been happening?
Author crispywat Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 we chatted and agreed to start a fresh, but i went out the room and she had checked my phone , i was away last week and we even went out last night, she just said today she isnt happy and didnt like what she had read on my phone....she doesnt want to talk and doesnt actaully give a toss! She is only thinking of her and did the entire relationship....once i was with her i said something and infront of her mum she said "i dont care whta you think ever" Its hard but her minds made up
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