Omei Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Can someone bring highlight to the part where he say's his GF and this male were grind dancing? it's been mentioned various times and I seriously can't find it in the OP's posts. I do not find a group dance weird....that is how it was explained so far.
giblesp Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Another girlfriend gos to a nightclub thread... Women(and men) go to nightclubs because they like to drink alcohol and interact with the opposite sex. Thats why they go without their BFs. As there a drunk young men there, it usually ends up with GF coming home and saying 'Oh he kissed me, and I didn't do anything!' If your GF is a nightclubber this is what is going to happen. You can either be ok with it, or leave. I'd really recommend the latter. 1
GoreSP Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Can someone bring highlight to the part where he say's his GF and this male were grind dancing? it's been mentioned various times and I seriously can't find it in the OP's posts. I do not find a group dance weird....that is how it was explained so far. OP didn't say anything about grinding. 1
GoreSP Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Yeah, OP should be thankful that his GF backed off after only getting drunk at the club, dancing with another guy for hours, and kissing him. It is not unreasonable to assume that a drunk girl at a club dancing with you for hours is single. Not like she brought her boyfriend with her. Or, maybe she could choose to do other things with her girlfriends, like not get drunk and dance at the club with other guys all night. I stand by what I said earlier. I would not date any girl that is out at the club dancing with other guys. That is how this whole situation came about to begin with. This is a bad example because she already cheated when she spent her night at the club dancing with and eventually kissing another guy. For someone who wasn't even there you seem to know a lot about what actually went on there...
Conners Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 OP. I was in a relationship once, I was 19 and the guy was 27 :| and I still loved going out clubbing or to bars every weekend. I even let guys chat to me and dance with me. Obviously I wasn't very into the relationship, I will admit that. I didn't love the guy at all and it was a crappy thing for me to do even though I never cheated on him. The relationship I am in now is completely different. I will go out on occasion if my friends end up going out after a dinner or for a birthday but I don't even look at other guys and if any guy tries to talk to me I just usually say a hi and walk off etc. I have no desire to go out clubbing either because I love my boyfriend and would much rather stay in with him. The fact that she was engaging in conversation and dancing with guys could suggest that she's not really into the relationship. 1
Kitchen Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I'd dump her, you should too. For there to have been a kiss - the dancing most probably (99.99%) was grinding. Even without a kiss, I'd dump a girl for grinding with another man. Sorry, but I personally don't want my girlfriend to go out at night and rub up against another man's penis. Just a personal preference, I'm anal like that.
veggirl Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 OP didn't say anything about grinding. you're right, perhaps they were square-dancing. wtf kind of dancing do you think people do at clubs? she wasn't keeping the gay guy at arms length like an 8th grader at a school dance. 1
GoreSP Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 you're right, perhaps they were square-dancing. wtf kind of dancing do you think people do at clubs? she wasn't keeping the gay guy at arms length like an 8th grader at a school dance. No. But it's possible to dance in a group in clubs without grinding. So please keep your sarcasm to yourself. No one on this thread was at this club and no one knows exactly what happened. I've been to clubs where men were all over women who clearly wanted nothing to do with them. So yeah I think there is a really good chance this was just some ass hole who couldn't take a hint and went for the kiss anyway. 1
Under The Radar Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 No. But it's possible to dance in a group in clubs without grinding. So please keep your sarcasm to yourself. No one on this thread was at this club and no one knows exactly what happened. I've been to clubs where men were all over women who clearly wanted nothing to do with them. So yeah I think there is a really good chance this was just some ass hole who couldn't take a hint and went for the kiss anyway. So now we're arguing small percentage possibilities? Ok, sure it's possible there was no grinding. Likely there was grinding? Um, yeah ...... big time ...... especially with alcohol involved ...... she wasn't hung over and vomiting the next day from drinking beer flavored Kool Aid. Possibility of NO GRINDING WHATSOEVER = 1% Likelihood of SOME GRINDING THROUGHOUT THE EVENING = 99%
GoreSP Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 So now we're arguing small percentage possibilities? Ok, sure it's possible there was no grinding. Likely there was grinding? Um, yeah ...... big time ...... especially with alcohol involved ...... she wasn't hung over and vomiting the next day from drinking beer flavored Kool Aid. Possibility of NO GRINDING WHATSOEVER = 1% Likelihood of SOME GRINDING THROUGHOUT THE EVENING = 99% No - my point is no one on this thread was there and we don't know exactly what happened. Yet everyone here seems to easily jump on the 'oh it's all the girl's fault'. Also, the percentage of men who will not take a hint when the girl is clearly not interested in a club is waaaaaaaaaay higher than 1%...
Under The Radar Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 No, the point is *SHE* put herself in that position. If one is in a *long term committed relationship* ...... a club environment ...... mixed with alcohol ...... is a breeding ground for scenarios like this to unfold. We'll just have to agree to disagree ...... a common mantra on LS. 1
GoreSP Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 No, the point is *SHE* put herself in that position. If one is in a *long term committed relationship* ...... a club environment ...... mixed with alcohol ...... is a breeding ground for scenarios like this to unfold. We'll just have to agree to disagree ...... a common mantra on LS. So basically you're saying that women in relationships can't go out with their friends? You're right, we are going to have to disagree
xxoo Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Going out with friends is fine. Hanging out with groups of men in clubs when out with friends is single behavior. 2
TigerLilly78 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I don't know to me clubs or bars are pick up spots and sleazy ones at that even single I have no desire to hang out at these places. If I had a partner who did I might be uncomfortable with it. At the end of the day its all about being compatible maybe you two are just at different stages in life?
Under The Radar Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 So basically you're saying that women in relationships can't go out with their friends? You're right, we are going to have to disagree Reading comprehension skills are good to have ...... you might want to brush up on yours ...... rather than seeing what you want to see ...... to support your argument .
Under The Radar Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 going out with friends is fine. Hanging out with groups of men in clubs when out with friends is single behavior. ^^^^^this^^^^^
Wisecrack Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Dear Op, drop her. This happened to me a while back. I was seeing a girl and she got separated while we were on a night out. Next thing I see is this guy leaning in a kissing her. There's a few trying to justify her actions but don't let that change you. I never listened to the majority and I regret I left my dignity in her hands by forgiving her. Soon enough a week later she broke up with me when I got back in touch to try sort things out. Furthermore you have to think she was with her girl friends and why didn't any of them help her out with the guys? I know many watch out for their friends when they are out to make sure they do not go overboard. Once you are in a relationship there is a trust that is built. The moment that trust is broken, it is VERY hard and very rare to come back from it. These days I don't take crap from any girls I am dating. I have learnt that and you need to man up and walk away proudly.
GoreSP Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Reading comprehension skills are good to have ...... you might want to brush up on yours ...... rather than seeing what you want to see ...... to support your argument . insults and attacks on reading comprehension skills are good to use...when you run out of arguments.
Omei Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) Guys OP mentioned nothing about grinding that's why I brought it up just another one of the many assumptions to make the story worse. I go to the bar often and no I do not see people grinding left and right on the dance floor VERY RARELY to be honest you know what I do see? Girls dancing with girl friends while the men drink in the booths talking about how hot they are. Not to say I dont see men dancing I do they're usually fist pumping and yelling woooo or everyone dancing next to each other whilst yelling over loud music. I guess you guys must be going to sex clubs? Because the bars im at people are not doing the sexual h,oe down. Also people do not go to bars just to flirt or cheat and what not in my 5 year relationship I went to the bar with my gal pals and he with his guys successfully and never did I feel he was out cheating he wasn't or I, we had trust. If we got hit on we told the story even with fascination to each other knowing it ended with rejection for them. based on her behavior in the past and how you know her as a person you just have to decide to believe her or dont believe her she gave you the story, coming up with multiple scenarios does NOTHING. Edited June 9, 2014 by Omei
Under The Radar Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 insults and attacks on reading comprehension skills are good to use...when you run out of arguments. Another valuable skill to have in life is in "taking the high road" ...... have a nice day .
Friskyone4u Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Agree with Under The Radar. Nothing wrong with going out with friends for a drink once in a while. If you NEED to regularly put yourself into an environment where you will be surrounded by men with one thing on their mind fueled by alcohol there is something wrong with the relationship. Eventually you will find out about a lot more than kissing and the your girlfriend will blame it on the alcohol. She doesn't need to grind to wind up interacting at a table all night with guys after her or her friends . All it takes is one. And to the poster who talked about trust. The overwhelming number of people who wind up cheating never intended to do it . It "just happened" is a common excuse. And all they betrayed partners probably trusted them.. 1
Do_The_Herp Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 That makes sense. I do that too, with a guy friend though. Sometimes I approach a girl for some small talk if she's cute or looks open to some conversation. No dancing so far. My friend attends a dancing class this summer, in the hope to improve his "score". No, that doesn't make sense to me. There are plenty of venues where there's music and what you're looking for.. Why choose a shallow place like a club where most people are only looking to dance, drink, and hook up over loud club/live music that you often can't even hear yourself speak over? 1
Author Eclypse Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Sorry haven't replied for a few days, had a lot happen. Thanks for the replies. A lot of conflicting views. She said she wasn't grinding. He just joined their group but hung out with her mainly. I can see why. She's stunningly beautiful and 23, so still in the partying phase. I'm also 23, but I don't like going clubbing that much. She saw how upset I was and promised to not hang out with other guys. I've decided to believe her. She's very affectionate and I can tell she loves me a lot. I notice some posters have dug up the previous stuff I posted. She hasn't taken drugs since that last time. I'm not prepared to dump her unless something serious happens. This has been the best relationship of my life so far. 3
Omei Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Sorry haven't replied for a few days, had a lot happen. Thanks for the replies. A lot of conflicting views. She said she wasn't grinding. He just joined their group but hung out with her mainly. I can see why. She's stunningly beautiful and 23, so still in the partying phase. I'm also 23, but I don't like going clubbing that much. She saw how upset I was and promised to not hang out with other guys. I've decided to believe her. She's very affectionate and I can tell she loves me a lot. I notice some posters have dug up the previous stuff I posted. She hasn't taken drugs since that last time. I'm not prepared to dump her unless something serious happens. This has been the best relationship of my life so far. Im glad you have come to a choice and have decided to make that choice without the whirlwind of made up scenarios here of what "could of" happened and went off your experiences with her personally. Good luck 3
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