thompson Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 My exgf and I broke it off about 2 months ago. We both within a month after breaking up were on dating sites. We both happen to be on the same one. The other day I noticed she had unblocked me on FB. That same night I saw that she had disabled her dating profile on the site we both use. I'm thinking maybe she saw me and wants to talk. So I waited and waited and nothing from her. So I hit her up on fb chat and said hello. It shows she seen it but doesn't respond. So I sent her another message and said, " thought I would say hi :)" and again nothing. Flustered by it, I sent one last one "I thought since you unblocked me from fb you wanted to speak with me, sorry I bothered you" and still nothing. I am so frustrated with this. Why would she unblock me? I mean she has a number of her girlfriends on my fb and if she wanted to know what I was up to I am sure one of her friends would show her my status updates. Later today I noticed she has her dating profile back up now. I am so confused. Anyone out there share some insight as to why this whole thing transpired? Its got me filled with questions and no answers.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 This is why you go NC, including social media. Now your mind is spinning 1,000 miles and hour. Just think if you would have never known about any of this... 3
Author thompson Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 This is why you go NC, including social media. Now your mind is spinning 1,000 miles and hour. Just think if you would have never known about any of this... I was using the NC rule. I swear by it. I figured she was finally responding to me using NC.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Remember, it's not a rule. It's a healing technique for you!! Time to implement it again, with no interest in opening any communication for at least 6 months, but probably longer. Like never...
seekingluv Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 unfortunately, it doesn't seem to mean as much as you would probably like it to. i understand your feelings of frustration. i'm sure she does have some kind of feelings for you and she may like the attention she's still getting from you but that may be enough for her right now. hard to say why she blocked then unblocked you. i'm not all that FB savvy so..idk but i don't know any details of your break up or why you broke up or as the case may be, why she broke up with you. like i said, she may have been open for whatever reason to hearing from you and just seeing if you would write her once she unblocked you. it may make her feel a little better or possibly just give her ego a lift. we can all be so fragile at times, especially shortly after a break up. maybe when she saw you on the dating website, (if she did), she was surprised to see you were already out there trying to meet someone new. maybe she'd see if you really weren't interested in her anymore by unblocking the FB. i guess she got her answer and was perhaps basically ready to move on again while still being somewhat open to hearing from you. this may be a better gauge for her to know if you got involved with someone else yet. if you're still talking to her in this way on FB, she can figure you're not too involved yet with anyone else. again, might just make her feel better even if not enough for her to actually want to be with you again at this point. i guess most of us want what we think we can't easily have when it comes to relationships anyway. probably best for you to try to move on and/or at least slowly away from her and if you're still interested in her if and when she wants to come back to you, you can see from there. probably don't make it too, too easy for her. my thoughts for now. best of luck.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 ^^^Nice interpretation. But in all honesty, you should not be giving a flying f*ck about any of this!!! It doesn't concern you any longer and your best bet is to avoid it all costs!!!
lolablue17 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 FB is a tricky tool that intruding your soul, and sabotage your recovering. I am a freelancer. You know, on FB I always sees "friends" Who always post statuses about how successful they are, and they always have a good time, going to vacations, Happy marriage... It's like in Las Vegas you hear everyone earning noisy coins except you. You try to analyze her through tiny hints about her thoughts or intentions on FB. I can tell you - I deactivated my FB for a funny reason (a bet), but since then, my life is cleaner and i have some control on the amount of pollution entering my consciousness. Go Full NC (i recommend deactivate FB but i know by that i'm considered as a cave man!)
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