tmthon Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 My ex girlfriend broke up with me three weeks ago. We are both 20 and college students. We started talking during my Christmas break and we both were shocked on our connection. I'd gotten out of a 3 year break up two before that and when me and her started talking it was crazy how we connected. Well, at first we were just talking and it was obvious that she wanted to be loved. I told her I had feelings for her and we jut kept it at that. One day she explained that she wanted a man that's just hers only and I said what I had to say and we started dating. The only problem was that I was transferring to a college that was 6hrs away to play college football. It was a junior college so I was just going to be there for the semester and then I was planning on transferring back to a school closer to home. So I explained that to her and so admitted that it would be hard but she was willing to take the sacrifice and wait until I got home because she had a lot of feeling for me and I also had feelings for her. So we were texting, snapchatting, calling, and all of that and it seemed ok once I came home for Spring break. We spent time together and once again I HAD no choice but to go bc its school and she said she understood. There was one incident where she went to a party with a group of friends and she said that she slept in the bed with one of her guy friends. Now just having the thought of your gf sleeping with another guy just didnt stick to me at all I didnt get pissed and yell I simply told her hey imma go. She text me furious saying what the hell is the matter with you?? I replied you need to chill bc I didnt say anything to you. She replied well if its over what I just told you then you need to fall back from that bc your acting like I was ****ing someother guy bc he's like my brother. Now at the moment I was busy with school and fball so I had no time to be having my mind all messed up with anything like this so I slowly backed off from the situation. Another thing was that she saw her highschool bf at a party and he brought up the fact that she was pregnant but had a miscarriage. Now b4 that she told me she never had unprotected sex and I asked her about that and she said that she didnt know that she was pregnant and she said she forgot about that until he brought that up. I was confused bc what female would forget something like that? I dont think any would ya know? So she text me at like 2 am telling me to get up and that she was sad bc of the situation and I didnt really have much to say honestly bc to me I felt bad but also I wasnt too sure about what was going on. She said that I wasnt being there for her got pissed and started being alil mad at me from that. Now, time goes on and the beginning of April she started to be very distant with me. I asked her what was going on and she wouldnt say much. I on her Instagram and was just looking at some of her photos that I loved and I noticed this guys name n he liked alot of her phots. So, Im thinking ok..and I remembered that before she asked me who the guy was bc she didnt know the dude so Im not curious but didnt wanna seem all crazy so I backed off bc she is a pretty girl and guys are going to do things like that. I get on snapchat and Im basically new to the whole thing prob been on it for 3 months and im looking at everybodies points and bestfriends list and noticed that the guy that she she asked me about was one of her snapchat friends. Now I ask her about the guy and she's like what? and I had a meeting right b4 that so I was like ill talk to you about it later. She says look you need to stop being all insecure and I explained to her look imma cool laid back guy but Im not about to have my gf interacting with other dudes when she is hardly contacting at all and not responding to my snaps (Sounds childish but whatever) and she hardly touched the topic she just said that she only snaps at night and I never snap her at that time n to get off of her back. (We've snaped in day time plenty of times b4) She also kept contacting her ex and wasnt over him from the jump though and said it would take a long time for her to get over him. I said why dont you stop talking to him and she said that whole no contact thing does not work for us and I was like wtf?? There break up was along time b4 we got together. So now its close to coming home and she tells me look im done with this relationship and Im like I have two more weeks left and then I'll be home and she said each day this is not going to get better for me and Im unhappy bc your never here for me and you hurt me by not being here. So a week later she breaks it off with me. I got all pissed bc she knew what was ahead of her from the jump but now I understand alittle more. But, I remember I asked her if we could try when I got home she said we can see but im not promising you anything. She checked up on me and all of that. We planned on meeting up and I asked her hey you still want to meet up she said yes but we arnt getting back together. I said just yesterday you agreed to go on dates and take it slow. She said theres no reason for me to lie to you when I know there isnt a chance. So I left her alone after that. We didnt meet up bc I had to go on a school visit on my way home. So about two weeks go by I let her know hey, im going to be in the city in a week or so would you like to meet up for lunch and talk. (Something small not all about the break up) She agreed and was alot nicer to me. Well the friday before the meet up I asked her again to see if she was still interested in meeting up bc if not I would of just went home. She said yes. So the day came and Im waiting for a text. NOTHING. I text her and said hey whats sup? Nothing. I called. Nothing. Text her and asked hey are you still wanting to meet up or not? Nothing. So I just went home. The next morning I go a text asking hey is this (Said my name) and I replied yes. She said hey its, I had to get a new phone and lost all of my contacts and sense you unfollowed me on twitter and everything I had no way to contact you. She just not a new phone like two months ago so im not too sure if this is true but I do know her current phone was messing up though. So I said ok. I havent text her back or anthing but the only thing is that ik we do have a strong connection and everything but she told me she saw her self with me but just not that far away and then she told me she never seen her self with a guy like me and says she guess she was looking in the wrong areas. So ik this is ATON but it did feel good to let it all out loll Would it be a good idea to let her breath and just try to contact her once school starts?? I'll be in her city playing ball. She did tell me she wanted a man that she can go home to and all of that. Thanks
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