johnsonracer Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 guy: wanna come hang out? girlfriend: i have to work in the morning, otherwise i would guy: come on, i want to hang out girl:go to bed guy: but i want you to come over (girlfriend never replies back) (even if she says she had no intention of going over there?)
guest572 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 No, because you are pestering her! She said no twice and after your last message she probably went to sleep. If you actually had something important im sure she would be understanding. But not to just "hang out"
Potz4prez Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 No, because you are pestering her! She said no twice and after your last message she probably went to sleep. If you actually had something important im sure she would be understanding. But not to just "hang out" The "guy" is another guy, not OP. And no, OP, I would not dump a girl for clearly turning down another guy's advances. You need to stop being so insecure.
guest572 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Sorry but that was not clear to me. Anyway, same goes for whoever it is.
Rar0 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 She doesn't sound interested in case it isn't evident to you, why are you even showing her the time of day?
rubberman Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 guy: wanna come hang out? girlfriend: i have to work in the morning, otherwise i would guy: come on, i want to hang out girl:go to bed guy: but i want you to come over (girlfriend never replies back) (even if she says she had no intention of going over there?) You are a clingy and needy guy, if i were her i would dump you.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I don't think clingy & needy I think pushy, disrespectful & immature.. Let the lady have a good sleep for her responsibilities tomorrow & u go & find a school girl to play with..
Baller25 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Sounds clingy and immature. It's kind of alright for a girl to be that way but if the guy does it then he just looks like a child. I don't think any dumping should happen over this alone, but that kind of behaviour will definitely lead to a break up eventually.
JahnJahn Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 The guy is not the OP. I presume she was texting some other guy.
Imported Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I think the OP is the "boyfriend" and his "girlfriend" was texting another guy. I'd have serious problems with her if I were you OP. Sounds like a booty text and sounds like they have have intimate knowledge of each and have done it before. Sure, the guy sounds like a little bitch, but seems it just didn't happen because your "girlfirend" actually was tired and had work early in the morning.
HappyLove Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 From what I read this isn't the OP asking his girl to come over. It's another guy asking her to come over! Am I correct? So if she didn't have work she'd be at some other mans house late at night? Well if you look like a gremlin with slim chances to land another chick, I guess I'd over look it.
Smilecharmer Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 (edited) The guy in this scenario is annoying. Not attractive to pester someone when they are trying to relax. What exactly did she do wrong? Some guys chase even when they know you are taken. She said no, so she did the right thing. I would ask why she didn't mention you or why him coming over was even an option. Let her know that in your opinion, that is what she should have said. Edited June 7, 2014 by Smilecharmer
soccerrprp Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 guy: wanna come hang out? girlfriend: i have to work in the morning, otherwise i would guy: come on, i want to hang out girl:go to bed guy: but i want you to come over (girlfriend never replies back) (even if she says she had no intention of going over there?) NO. This "guy" or you should have said good night after her immediate response or let it go. The "guy" sounded whiny and frankly, I probably would have responded as she did. I suspect she knows what kind of 'guy' he is, so responded appropriately.
phineas Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I cringed after the 3rd line in that exchange. I'm embarrassed for the man.
No Limit Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 guy: wanna come hang out? girlfriend: i have to work in the morning, otherwise i would guy: come on, i want to hang out girl:go to bed guy: but i want you to come over (girlfriend never replies back) (even if she says she had no intention of going over there?) Red flag if the guy's not you. Just a bit annoying if it is you. 1
dory Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 yes, dump. plenty of fish in the sea who will be serious enough about you to not even have that guy in her contact list, let alone let him pester her late at night.
isisisweeping Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 "I would if I didn't have work tomorrow" doesn't necessarily mean she would. Women are socialized to let guys down nicely (Actually, to let people down nicely always.) It's trying to be nice... whether that is right or wrong is a different subject but unless you have a lot more than this I wonder how jealous you must be.
ThatMan Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Yes, I would dump her. Many people would dump a girlfriend for this. The guy sounds utterly pathetic and most women won't give him the time of day to begin with. Not to mention that some women are timid and passively reject other people. Even passive women draw very clear lines in the sand when a booty call is brought up by random men. The only time a woman will give anything less than a flat rejection is if they're interested in meeting up. You need to be legitimately concerned that she wasn't able to plainly tell him she's uninterested. I would walk away immediately. Oh yeah, disregard the first page entirely because people didn't read your message correctly. It seems as though everybody believes you're that loser in the posted conversation.
Rar0 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I'd dump the guy in a minute. Pathetic. You cant entirely fault the guy if he's being misled, it's her fault also for giving the thought there might be potential when she isn't feeling that way at all.
veggirl Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I read it as "guy" is an outside 3rd party not the OP. OP can you clarify cause it really changes the way the texts are read. If YOU are guy then uh no I wouldn't dump the girl. I wouldn't dump the guy either but would be annoyed that he kept on about it, begging practically. That's not sexy. If a 3rd party is the guy, I'd be pissed at the "I would if I didn't have to work tomorrow" thing 1
Mrin Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) What a cluster of a thread. If Guy is 3rd party: I would seriously consider dumping her due to her "otherwise I would". This site is full of role reversal stories where women are told to dump BF's for not being straight up with exes or other women they're texting. For flirting. For lying by omission and not saying "I am in a relationship now". The "otherwise i would" is like, damn! If that were a guy who said that, he'd be drawn and quartered by now. That being said, the prevailing attitude here is to dump her so I am not invoking a double standard argument. Just using a role reversal to underscore the point. Edited June 8, 2014 by Mrin
Kitchen Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I'm going to take the contrarion view of many on this thread. If the "guy" is you, then I don't think it's that big of a deal the way you were talking, depending on the context. So it could have been a cutesy/romantic "I want to see you!!" and in that case it would be cute, and she should have lightened up. But it can also be pestering depending on the context of your conversation. Either way, not really reason for dumping. But a reason to get annoyed if I were you, or if i were her (depending on the context). If the "guy" isn't you, I also don't think it's that big of a deal. Sure, she said "if I don't have work", but she was probably letting him down easy. I like that she was condescending to him by saying "go to bed" and ignore his advances. I'd just tell her to be even meaner/ignore next time. No big deal though.
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