Eggplant Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 That is so silly. What type of doctor? What are his/her hours and responsibilities? I started dating an eye surgeon several years ago and we ended up getting married early last year. I was initially turned off on our first date because we went out for sushi and I was surprised he wouldn't have a drink. It turns out that if he is stopped by a traffic cop for any reason and has even a smidgin of alcohol in his system, he could lose his medical license so he is very, very careful about that. But the subsequent relationship has been amazing, actually. My doctor has his own practice so we get to sleep in a little since he doesn't need to be in his office until 9:30. We travel to medical conferences together and while he attends the lectures, I wander galleries and museums and we meet for dinner. Then there was the time we were flying across country for his kids' spring break. A woman nearby started having a seizure and people were gathering around her in a panic. I called out to my husband to that there was an emergency. Watching him jump up and spring forward was like seeing a superhero fly forward and I still have a mental picture of an imaginary cape attached to my husband as he was able to stabilize this stranger until the paramedics could arrive. I feel honored to be a new doctor's wife. And the Jaguar he gave me as a wedding gift was a nice perk too. That's fabulous. For you it sounds wonderful. For me, it would be different. I wouldn't travel to any husband's medical conferences, I'll have my own demanding work schedule. And I don't care about cars or stuff.
guest572 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 There are ways to make up for a lack of a career. Are you intellectually curious? Are you well read? Are you ambitious in other areas such as hobbies? Besides, two careered professionals might not make for a balanced relationship. Perhaps the hypothetical doctor would like being with someone who could compliment him in other ways? The doctor i was with just couldn't seem to accept the fact that my job is just a job, not a passion. He couldn't handle it. I felt pressure from him to turn me into the overworked, ambitious, dedicated person he was. It made me feel as though he thought I was not good enough for him. He couldn't stand it that i like to spend my free time idle or pursing hobbies. He said in medicine if you stop then you fall behind. I found that really insulting. It is my life and I will live it the way I choose. Also there are a lot of arrogant young doctors so be prepared to put up with some snobs at parties with your doctor. No one is better than anyone else. The career they have chosen does not make them superior in any way. Although I admire anyone who can put up with all they go through. I guess I am just venting here. I stand by my initial thoughts that everyone is unique and stereotypes suck.
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 don't know only slept with a few doctors a few times .......he paid me.that was another life and not a pleasant one..maybe they are distrustful looking back on past experiences....i hav emet some leches fo doctors hwoever who play gyno when they shouldnt but i would state everyone is wary of trusting someone when they meet them especially if they have been burnt and discarded and have alimony payments to make or argue about....pre nups are useful...hurtful to me because i dotn want money but useful fro some and necessaary to protect a possible financial loss i guess.....understandable...easily solved too...the issue fo trust on finaces...i like a more sort of non comabative relationship whee the guy knows i dotn want money and trusts that...........deb
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