Author Gaeta Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 He has a new girlfriend. It's Saturday, he does his laundry
irresolute Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Gaeta, honestly, why you're trying to do like nothing happened and you're perfectly ok? the guy rejected you several times, including today when you suggested to be friends and he agreed. You are trying to tell us you felt nothing for the guy, but look at your posts from April and May. I don't really get why are you acting like this. you're even joking his doing his laundry today, when weeks ago you posted here desperate because the guy preferred to do his laundry to meet you on a Saturday night. Oh and I forgot to mention that he has "private things" to do today, and Friday night he was going to celebrate his birthday with friends, and he didn't even invite you! And you assumed all the guilty saying it was your fault because you waited until last time to invite him. Good lord! It was his responsibility to invite you, not the contrary! You know what? I do think you're hurt, but you're trying to mask your feelings. That's not good. Or maybe you think this is not over, and you have hope you two will be back? 1
Omei Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 She can make her own choices. She's an adult. Exactly! which is why I was in confusion that you spent the last 30 mins trying to convince her she should be in some form of anger because its the route you would take so she should take it too? "I wouldn't take this route so you shouldn't also" type thing instead of just accepting her choice. You are very much so not reading into her feelings and getting stuck on the word "friendship" despite her explaining numerous times what that friendship would entail basically the equivalent of talking to a stranger on the street. I just don't understand what you want from her. She was civil about her break up even gone above that to not be the type of womanl that go's "You're a asssshat" just because he wasn't into her. You just don't get it. 1
Omei Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 You know guys it is possible for people to let a 3 month relationship go without going into a ball of mess esp when they haven't fallen in love yet... She does not have to be hiding or masking her feelings unless she says otherwise for a relationship with such a short time length I would take her word for it. Some people are able to just realize its not going to work and turn it off. 2
Author Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 Gaeta, honestly, why you're trying to do like nothing happened and you're perfectly ok? the guy rejected you several times, including today when you suggested to be friends and he agreed. You are trying to tell us you felt nothing for the guy, but look at your posts from April and May. I don't really get why are you acting like this. you're even joking his doing his laundry today, when weeks ago you posted here desperate because the guy preferred to do his laundry to meet you on a Saturday night. Oh and I forgot to mention that he has "private things" to do today, and Friday night he was going to celebrate his birthday with friends, and he didn't even invite you! And you assumed all the guilty saying it was your fault because you waited until last time to invite him. Good lord! It was his responsibility to invite you, not the contrary! You know what? I do think you're hurt, but you're trying to mask your feelings. That's not good. Or maybe you think this is not over, and you have hope you two will be back? There is a difference between feeling nothing and not being in love. I had affection for him, I missed him, and wished for his safety and I wanted to fall in love. I wanted his attention, and I wanted his attention especially on Saturday nights, as someone who's been single for 10 years I could not wait to put a term to those lonely Saturday nights. I am disappointed but I am not experiencing a heart break. I had all kinds of threads about him, I also had one about it being close to 3 months and not being in love yet and wondering if he was a rebound. I have been questioning this relationship for a long time now, it's not a surprise break up, the letting go process had already started. I am also busy with my mom visiting from outside of town, my best friend's birthday, shopping day with kiddo tomorrow, maybe it will hit me later. No I do not hope for him to come back.
beach Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 It's Saturday, he does his laundry Ahahaha, that's funny. I'm glad you ended things considering her didn't consider how it might hurt your feelings to disappear for several days. The only people I know that have phone issues that severe are people that end up in jail for a few days .
aprilisi Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Oh the disappearing act, I hate it. Men, please...we are adults. Its very likely we've had our hearts broken by men bigger than you. Tell us, we can handle it. First the worrying about him kicks in. Is he OK? But he's on facebook, or a friend saw him and he seems fine. So maybe its you? What did you do wrong? You may give in and text him. You may or may not get a message back. If you do and its short, that's it. Then acceptance and anger. I'm in the anger phase myself now. Its been over five weeks.
Author Gaeta Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 So 2 weeks later I got a phone call from him (last night). He said: I miss you big I said it was surprising considering he didn't do anything to hold me back when I broke up. He said it was because his Saturday nights were a big issue for me and there was nothing he could do to fix it now. Then he asked if I had found a man with all his Saturdays free *rolling my eyes* and asked if I was happy about moving forward without him. He called while I was waiting my turn at the optometry clinic. I did not have time to answer his questions.
soccerrprp Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Leave the garbage by the roadside to be picked up by sanitation. Don't look back. Let someone else dig through the trash....
FitChick Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Whoever he was seeing dumped him so he went back to a sure thing. Don't be a sure thing. 5
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