Gaeta Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Something very unusual is happening and I am not sure how to handle it from here. Last Tuesday bf and I touched base during the day by text as we usually do each day. At 4 pm he told me his day had been very long, he had done dry wall all day and he was tired. I told him to hang in there the day was almost done. There was nothing unusual in our conversation. He usually contacts me each evening but nothing that Tuesday night. I sent him a message around 9 pm. No reply. Wednesday went by and I did not hear from him, I thought he's busy he'll get back to me eventually so I did not contact him. Thursday I don't hear from him at all, now I am getting puzzled. I sent him a message around 9 pm, nothing. Today I still did not hear from him. I sent a message at noon telling him I was getting worried, nothing back from him. I got home tonight and called him. Phone went to voice mail. What would you suggest for my next move?
DArtagnan2 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Isnt it about the 3 week mark where he mentioned things will change after it?
Author Gaeta Posted June 6, 2014 Author Posted June 6, 2014 Isnt it about the 3 week mark where he mentioned things will change after it? His project is due July 1st, so I interpreted these 3 weeks being June. By the way when I said 'not another disappearing act' I did not mean he did that before, he didn't, it's my last boyfriend who disappeared without a word after 6 months.
pteromom Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Go to his house and see what is up? Call his work? If this is very out of character for him, I would be worried about him.
Author Gaeta Posted June 6, 2014 Author Posted June 6, 2014 Go to his house and see what is up? Call his work? If this is very out of character for him, I would be worried about him. Yes it is out of character. I could go to his place but later tonight when city traffic has cleared. We have a Grand Prix this weekend it would take me 1 hour to get there now. Friday 18h40 here, his work is closed.
pteromom Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I could go to his place but later tonight when city traffic has cleared. We have a Grand Prix this weekend it would take me 1 hour to get there now. I'd do it... don't give him a heads up either just to see what is going on. Hopefully all is well, although if it is, I would be pretty mad that he is just ignoring you. 3
irresolute Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 ouch... Or something had happened to him, like a really, really serious thing (accident or whatever) or he's doing the disappearing act. do you have another way to see if he's allright? Twitter? Facebook? online activities? Google his name/username... Or call his mom. This sounds pretty weird....I hope everything is ok...
Leigh 87 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I think that because interest level in your is mild, he has eithe bbeen genuinely busy yet not considerate enough of your feelings to tell you. You should know by now that you are not exactly "that girl " who is on his mind often. 6
HappyLove Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Please, nothing is wrong with him. Did you meet online? Well there ya go. The norm for OLDing! He'll make up some BS story if you ever actually find him. 2
Iguanna Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 When you find him, I think you should consider (again) why you tolerate such a behavior. 6
Phantom888 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Is this the BF with immigration issues? Maybe he got deported? 1
Treasa Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I think your next move should be dating someone else. Of course, I thought that's what your next move should have been every time you've posted about this guy. 6
Bonnie Potter Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Wow, that's strange. Wait a little then try to see if you can contact his friends. Does he have facebook, twitter, youtube, etc?
Snakechammah Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I hope he is alive and well! It's better to be angry at him for being a dick and ignoring you, than to have something tragic happened to him. Please update us. 1
CaliGypsy Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I'd go and check on him. Hopefully he's fine. If he's fine... No excuse for that. He knows you'd be worried if he normally contacts you daily. Inexcusable. 1
Author Gaeta Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 No Facebook activity, the other app we have is whatsapp and last time he was on there was Tuesday early.
Author Gaeta Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 Please, nothing is wrong with him. Did you meet online? Well there ya go. The norm for OLDing! He'll make up some BS story if you ever actually find him. We met 2 years ago, at what point meeting online doesn't matter anymore?
Author Gaeta Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 I had my daughter called with a number he doesn't know. Same thing, went to voice mail.
J21 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I would be really worried too Gaeta. I hope you hear back from him and everything is ok. 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Previous issues aside, his phone being off and him being completely MIA is fairly troubling. Have you done the usual rounds and checked hospitals and jails by now? It's Friday evening, it might be time for that if you haven't yet.
Author Gaeta Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 Holy fack!! He just text me. He said something was wrong with his phone and he just got a new one. I am beside myself !! 1
Potz4prez Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Hehe... called it. Now you just have to sit down with yourself and ask why your first conclusion was that he abandoned you. 1
J21 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Holy fack!! He just text me. He said something was wrong with his phone and he just got a new one. I am beside myself !! Glad he's ok!!
HappyLove Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Holy fack!! He just text me. He said something was wrong with his phone and he just got a new one. I am beside myself !! Well that makes PERFECT sense considering you two have the only phones in your ENTIRE country! Perfect BS excuse. 10
writergal Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 New phone and it takes him 4 days to contact you? Yeah right. I bought a new phone and made calls from it minutes after I left the phone store. If you buy that excuse from him as as the truth, well, I feel bad for you. Holy fack!! He just text me. He said something was wrong with his phone and he just got a new one. I am beside myself !! 3
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