lovehurtsme91 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Hi LS, So just a quick background on my relationship. Been with a guy for 4 years. He broke off with me on my birthday out of the blue with no explanation. Next day in church he brought another girl. (Obviously then I knew the reason). They went out the same day and till now. Many things happened in between and basically he cheated. Okay now, it's been 6 weeks today since the whole fiasco. Stayed away from him and have not initiate contact with him for a month. However, I admit I have been cyberstalking him still. Just started really NC this week. My question are: 1) he owes me some money. He owes me $2500 for the 4 years. Don't get me wrong, this is the items of which he promised he will pay back when he started working. Not the gifts I bought as a present for him. His parents said they will pay back but it's been 3 weeks, no sound. The thing is he should have the decency of returning whatever thing I bought for him right? He's using the iPhone I bought (not as a gift) to text his current and that really makes me unhappy cos it's not his. And he isn't even helping his parents with the money saving to pay me back which makes me more unhappy cos that puts a high burden on the parents and I don't like it. 2) Like I've said, I only stopped cyberstalking him a week ago and it's been hard as heck. I've removed and block him off social medias but we have so many mutual friends together that he would comment on Facebook or Instagram and that would tempt me to click anyway before a week ago, I sort of still check his whatsapp page and see if he is online. Not that I wanna talk to him, just wanna see if he's online. And I realize he blocked me on whatsapp. His picture is different from when I click on it. My question would be, he cheated, he broke it off on my birthday... Why is HE the one who blocks me? Shouldn't I be the one? Not like I contacted him every day or something. I haven't for 5 weeks. Don't see the connection. Disappointed of cos I am. After 4 years of everything, suddenly not only he cheated on my birthday, he even blocked me. Like I am some diseases he's trying to get rid off. I haven't been crying a lot. It's like 2 days out of a week then 5 days I feel really great. I don't think I'm at the acceptance stage yet as I'm still asking these questions and also trying to make sense of things. Just would like some pointers if someone could help make sense of it
dclan Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 (edited) By what you are saying, breaking up on your birthday, cheating, owing you money....he doesn't sound like the "best" boyfriend ever. And thats probably the reason why he is the one blocking you: he is a dick... I know you love hm and you are hurt, but, but with time you will slowly realise he is a douchebag. Think back on your 4 year relationship. I know you loved him, but was he actually a good person to you?... Regarding the money,you should probably contact the parents and avoid meeting with him. Edited June 7, 2014 by dclan
bluenote Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) I know those types of heartless people who plain just swindle you after they charismaticaly make you love them. They can pretend for such a long time you are cought and strapped down by their deceipt. They can drop you in an instant they find other prey, so sociopathic. The fact that you are no longer together means you realy don't have rights to demand things unless you have prove you can produce in court. It may also be strings that keep you attached to have to be and remember what he did. Is there somehow you can write off those things and money and live without it. I mean if he did not drop you then most probably you wouldn't even want it back now. The man realy treat you bad very bad, its angering even me how some people are selfish and cold. leave the animal, cut him from your life and forget everything because they will hold you back. He spineless to take money from a woman. I think this man, if he was genuine would have said somthing about his decision to you and talk with you, he would have been subtle in introducing the other woman, but he is busy with you even bother to block you from social media, he feels less and loser because you were the provider between you two, he wants to amke a point. Pgnore him. Edited June 8, 2014 by bluenote forgot to add last paragraph 1
stillafool Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I can certainly understand you want your money. $2500 is a lot of money and he is a crumb for making his parents pay his debt; however get that money back regardless of who has to pay it. I don't think you have a right to get back gifts you gave him as these were gifts and they are his. He is really heartless and doesn't deserve any of your attention so please stop stalking him. He really did you a favor because he will be a horrible husband as he doesn't seem to have any compassion at all. 1
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