Arieswoman Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I am posting because I would be pleased to have folks' opinion on something rather strange that has happened. Brief background ;- I divorced my WH over 17 years ago and he eventually married his AP. We parted acrimoniously. I have not seen him for about 15 years, have had NC with him in all that time and moved to another city. I have since remarried ( I don't know if he is aware of that because I operate a business under my maiden name.) Last week I received a large envelope delivered to my business address marked "private". In it were several old photographs, taken when we were married, of us, the pets and other family members. There was nothing else in the envelope. He is the only person who could have sent these, and I must admit it gave me quite a shock. I have absolutely no intention of contacting him ( I am not even sure he works for the same company) but just wondered what this could be about ? Anyone any ideas? Why would he do this, after all this time?
Author Arieswoman Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 No-one? OK, well I suppose it was a bit of a daft question asking people to speculate on something so vague. All I can think is that he's had a clear out and maybe thought I would like them and sent them on. However, that doesn't explain why he has kept them all these years? I'd better take my own advice and just bin them. 1
Poppyolive Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Woa that's a strange one. How did it feel seeing them? Ahh maybe he discovered them and thought you'd like them I guess? If it was just pictures and no contact info... I'd just leave it. Especially of you have zero interest. He could of had a moment and was reminiscing. Also first thing I thought of is maybe he's really sick and wanted to reach Out to you. I don't mean to alarm you. What's your thoughts?,
Author Arieswoman Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 (edited) TD, I must say they gave me a bit of a funny turn when I saw them. I can't return them as I don't know where he lives now. Poppyolive, I think something has happened to make him do this but I don't know what and I don't want to waste any more time speculating. I'm going to ignore this. I think I might also take note of this quote ;- "Living in the past is like trying to sail your ship with the anchor down". Edited June 11, 2014 by Arieswoman 2
Emilia Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Maybe it's his wife that sent it. perhaps she got fed up with having those items in the house. 2
stillafool Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I have to agree with Emilia it was more than likely his wife that sent them to you. She didn't want them around but also didn't think it was right to throw them away. 1
Art_Critic Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Just accept them, file them and move on. People go through piles they accumulate in life and it was decided to send them to you rather than trash them, what you do with them is up to you at this point. Is he still alive ?, the reason I ask is that we have on the occasion someone in my family that has passed away gone through the piles of pictures and distributed them to who might have an interest in them. Either way it isn't something that requires a response...
iris219 Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 I bet they were cleaning out some stuff around the house and came across these. I think it's nice they were sent to you rather than being thrown away. I broke up with an ex in 2005 and would prefer that he send me photos of us before tossing them. If you don't want them, just throw them away.
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