Green0Valley Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I met this guy from online dating site a month ago, he is widow 5 years. The dates with him are not like I used to have with the majority, Our first date was supposed to be a coffee but become a half day date, we visited park and then dinner. He asked me for the next day date we another park He always is trying to keep me longer than i was planned... After the 3rd date he invited me at his home as this was on my way back to my home and I met his daughter, about 19yo, for 5 min. After the 4th date, that was long till late night I went to his home, almost to have sex but I changed my mind as i thought it is too early. Now is coming the fits date.He is atypical for me he is patient and always inviting me at his home, but he is not pushy for sex..I am not sure if he is shy, he does not call me, also we both have the online dating profiles up and we still communicate thorough the dating website. He is coming at all the dates with small gifts like candy box etc. Because he is not like others I am confused how to interpret his behavior, his actions? Are there signs of potential relation - which I want? or just casual dating? Thank you!
Gaeta Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 The man treats you right and that confuses you ? I am not sure where you see a problem 1
kane30us Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 (edited) Yea, I agree with Geata. I don't see a problem. Just go with it and have fun. Don't over think it. To many relationships end because people tend to over think everything. If its on your mind there is nothing wrong with communication. Ask if he's looking for a future relationship or just casual dating. How you described him my guess he's a good guy looking for his partner in crime. Do you like him? It sounds to me you're not sure of your feelings toward him and its confusing you. As a man's point of view. I think he really likes you and he's showing it. Chivalry isn't dead! He introduced you to his child. How important is that!! . Edited June 6, 2014 by kane30us 1
Author Green0Valley Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) He is different from all I dated before. he does not talk too much, this makes difficult for me , since i see his actions but I am not sure what he things. His "he is dating only me" is hard for me to believe. Edited June 8, 2014 by Green0Valley
travelbug1996 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 His online profile is still up?? If so, he is keeping his options open. Have you asked him what he wants from you?? What is he looking for in terms of a relationship? Do you even know him well enough to say you want to be in a r with him? Please don't have sex without clarifying where things are going.
Author Green0Valley Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 yes my profile and his profile is online. He gave me his email but I did not want to use and also his phone number. which I also did not use Yesterday he received my phone number and I gave him my email address so now he can contact me in other way that the dating sire.
todreaminblue Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) He is different from all I dated before. he does not talk too much, this makes difficult for me , since i see his actions but I am not sure what he things. His "he is dating only me" is hard for me to believe. I have always seemed to gravitate towards men of simple wants, not clever conversation, so i can just be me.which is a goofy me.Don't get me wrong i adore clever conversation to absorb sponge llike words and thoughts, its a want not a need to be case....if it were my main need i would become learned, which is a passion of mine to know, to understand, and then implement knowledge gained to better someone's life, but i have not even a high school diploma,i am underestimated and disregarded,which actually suits me, because then i work in the background unhindered by expectation,i have just a pretty high iq, its not a need to have clever thoughts, its just a tool i use to help others. They have mainly always been men of few words my lifers which have been few, only two real long term possibilities till now, i know of one, he doesnt know though i believe he is scared to speak to me. my conversations in the past with partners, developed from what we shared together not what is past or known from either side but what is our time together brings wonderful memories of good times shared...I have enough words and enough confidence in my abilities that i share the confidence and our conversations were always fun and refreshing, the only thing that drives me nuts is one word texts.Because its like huh i just wrote a hundred words you wrote one gonna kill ya, i never do kill them but they do end up being able to tell me their dreams their hopes and what they want from me, thats all that matters, i jut enjoy their company face to face time is precious and spending time with someone i care about, doesn't need a whole slew of words the silences are where i learn the most, silence overcomes language barriers and miscommunication so yeah words not so important, i date fairly quiet guys for long term relationships,unfortunately i intimidate guys so i stay in the background anyway,and aggressive persistent guys end up dating me they are short term only,they don't suit me because their motives are normally simp0ly sex,then they don't want to leave, so yes not good,, my head is full of words that can be left unsaid and i can just be a woman getting to know a guy i am fond of if the guy is quieter but not shy,i try to instil confidence in shy guys to speak to me to open up a little so we can at least date each other, a guy who is just reflective, calm with me and firm with what he wants is the guy that will feel comfortable being around me and me around him, an honest guy. silences allow me to read their body language and soothe myself with unspoken happiness i feel from the guy i am with feels happy to be with me, so i never force conversation.Conversations are often in my experience only limited and stilted with what the other person wishes to interpret and hear....and what the speaker is allowing you to know go the quiet guy rock on....best wishes with your quiet guy....deb Edited June 9, 2014 by todreaminblue
todreaminblue Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 His online profile is still up?? If so, he is keeping his options open. Have you asked him what he wants from you?? What is he looking for in terms of a relationship? Do you even know him well enough to say you want to be in a r with him? Please don't have sex without clarifying where things are going. I dotn know the guys motives for having an online profile up but i know mine, i forget what i have joined up to ,and when i do know i don't know the passwords, and i cant be bothered to close them all down.I sort of went global, thinking about logging on makes me want to retreat so i just dont log on and get bombarded.I have been praying to god to shut them down , to release obligations i feel to answer all replies. so i would question the activity and date last logged on? reasons abound while people don't shut down dating profiles, especially a multiples dating profiles over years of not logging on...lol...i am a multiple so yes not going to log on and shut down dont know where to start......i know online dating is a mistake for me personally i am not the types.....lol...ahem..so dating acxtivity and logging on activity i feel is more important....deb
Author Green0Valley Posted June 30, 2014 Author Posted June 30, 2014 I was dating him and all the things were at fast pace due to him, as I was eager to find someone I went at his pace. We were supposed to have a short vacation together for my birthday and before to go with him I asked if we are excursively also what is he interests on me, am i potential LTR? I was interested because doing my birthday with him means something to me, also I can spend my time differently if I do not see him so often. not that i do not like him but most of our "dates" become only when he is available and late in evening night when you can do too much and sleep. I am still confuse for all the long term plans he made for us. Also he never called me lately only emails just before to ask to meet. After I asked him, he become more quite and in next 3 days I got email from him that he does not see potential for LTR. I was confused and sometimes I liked he was different for me, but it seems it was not what i was assuming he is. Now I feel bad about myself after so many dates i still did not learn anythings, how to see what they are really interested before to start seeing them the one. Thank you!
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