singme2sleep Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Anyone else feel like they are just meant to be alone? It's not even about my ex anymore, I'm lonely. I keep going for the guys who don't want me and it's hard to recover. I could be alright on my own but I just don't think I will ever be truly happy until I have somebody to share my life with. Though it doesn't seem like that's in the cards for me. How do I make peace with this realization?
Snakechammah Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 The first step is to actually believe in yourself. Be your own fan, love yourself and the rest will follow. Take steps to put yourself first. Heal and make a list of your good qualities that you can offer to a relationship. Make another list of what you want in a man. With both these list and your heightened self esteem, go out in search for that man. You'll be amazed at what miracles can happen when you change your own mindset. All the best!
learning_slowly Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Do you have friends that you chat with etc? Could be you need too make more of an effort with them. Most good relationships seem to be with friends of friends as you're on the same wavelength.
TrappedWanderer Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I'm starting to think that myself. Was always ok with being independent, doing things on my own, enjoyed it all....until I thought I had found my true partner. Wow, how enriched life became. Felt so truly alive. Now that that is gone....ouch. I also want someone to share my life with...not be the be-all, end-all...but really SHARE things with. If you figure out how to make peace with the possibility that that might not be in the cards for you, let me know. Could sure use some insight... Hang in there....ironically, you're not alone with feeling alone.
ponchsox Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Have fun. Stop trying so hard to find someone. Book a trip to somewhere new and exotic.
7yearsbroken Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I completely feel the same way. My ex broke up with me a year ago after a 7yr R and I placed her in the center of my world. I really hurt my self esteem and put me into a worsened depression. Things don't look too good, and he last thing I need is a relationship. This is why I'm lonely and feel like I'm gonna be this way forever. I'm a ball of negativity, my ex took me away from my friends and family and I allowed myself to isolate them. Now I have myself to pick up on this lonely road. I can be ok with the loneliness. I'll make myself happy eventually, and things will be ok. We only love once I can care less about opinions and expectations not being met. The worst things have already happened to me. Let's try to rebuild our lives in positivity together. We can do this.
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