very confused Posted February 13, 2005 Posted February 13, 2005 Well my man of 3 yrs just up and left me and our son and unborn child a month ago his excuse was he needed time to think but there was no one else in the picture and that he was staying at a friends house well i finally got the nerve to call his ex and found out he had moved in with her and they were back together after he had been telling me there was still a chance for us. He was calling at all hours of the night and day to see what i was doing and who i was with if anyone and of course no one but his best friend that is old enough to be my dad. Well one night we went to his parents house to sit down and discuss things and he came to the conclusion that he needs to pay more attention to his son cause he would make plans to see him but call up last min with an excuse as to why he couldnt' make it so we sat down and he agreed to spend more time with him and he would come first over this g/f that he was with over 6 yrs ago. When we were finished talking he asked me to stand up and give him a hug and he hugged me back and kissed me and said he is still very much in love with me and cares for me and the kids and he left. In the last two weeks he's been coming over and making love to me telling me he loves me and wants me but then he leaves to go back to her. He's blowing his friends off his son and his parents who have done everything for him and now he's coping an attitude where he'llll be fine one minute the next he tells me he hates me and never wants to come home. I'm so lost i've never been in love with someone so much in my life as i am with him and we just found out i'm pregnant with our second child and the girl he's with wants him to have nothing to do with me or our children so he calls me when she's not around or if we are alone he'll make love to me then leave and call me on his way to her place. Everyone that knows my ex and his girl all say that it's just an attention thing that they are trying to do they all say he will come home and that his girl is just a fling that he's trying to make work but it won't and eveyrone knows it and everyone knows i'm his everything. Is there anyone with advise as to what i can do to make this easier til he does come home cauise i know in my heart he will it's just a matter of time when he will do it.
Nine Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 Hi Very Confused, Oh dear, this is tough for you. I'm sorry that you are having such a rough time. And now you are pregnant...I hope you are taking good care of yourself and your little ones. My honest advice is that I don't think this man will ever come back to you and be the type of husband and father you need. He has serious problems and cannot offer the love you are looking for. I understand that you have strong feelings for him, but at this point you need to also consider your children. Your son is also being hurt by this man's inconsistency and your unborn daughter will be as well if you keep playing this man's game. Protect your spirit and the spirits of your children. Keep them away from abusive people...find a therapist if you need support in doing this. If you continue to subject the kids to this abusive man, they will be messed up for life. There are many caring people in the world who do not act this way...follow the light and surround yourself with these type of people. Please keep posting...I really feel for your situation. Best, Nine
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