Author Lipitor11 Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 Well...I guess it is wrong to have a fwb while going out on a date with another guy, now that I've been thinking about it. If I want to have a relationship with a guy, then I have to end my fwb. Anyway, the guy that I went out on a date with didn't have to get all defensive when I asked if he was just "talking to girls on okcupid." Its just a question, the whole "we're not dating" is just kind of rude. Then after I told him about the fwb, he said, "I saw potential when we first met" then I told him "like you said we're not dating."
preraph Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 He's a tool. He's just one of the majority of guys on dating sites looking to sleep with as many women as possible -- but any woman who would do anything but be faithful is a ho to him. He's a LOSER. Lose him.
Keenly Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 He's a tool. He's just one of the majority of guys on dating sites looking to sleep with as many women as possible -- but any woman who would do anything but be faithful is a ho to him. He's a LOSER. Lose him. What is gje difference between him and the OP in this situation? 1
Tayla Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Going to a gym doesn't make me an athlete. Going to a restaurant doesnt make me a chef. This lady assumed going on a date made him her guy. Rather odd. He is free to date. And she is free to conduct her fwb lifestyle with dating. Neither person is obligated to answer to the other. Gents gander, so what??? Are you that insecure that you cant adjust? Instead you seek to disgrace yourself with the fwb comment? Sorry but his window shopping ( leering at ladies) is not the same as you touching and bedding another guy. Worlds apart. Go apologize . Clean up ur side of the street. Im sure in the long run you would like a decent relationship, this probably wasn't the way to start it. 3
irresolute Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 omg, why on earth you have a fwb??? you totally blow him. There's nothing more humiliating for a guy to know someone else is having sex with their girl. Next time, you need to keep your mouth shut!
veggirl Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Well...I guess it is wrong to have a fwb while going out on a date with another guy, now that I've been thinking about it. If I want to have a relationship with a guy, then I have to end my fwb. Anyway, the guy that I went out on a date with didn't have to get all defensive when I asked if he was just "talking to girls on okcupid." Its just a question, the whole "we're not dating" is just kind of rude. Then after I told him about the fwb, he said, "I saw potential when we first met" then I told him "like you said we're not dating." What's with creating drama with someone you went on ONE DATE with? Good lord. You're not gonna get past many first dates if you do sh*t like this, I can't even imagine what the rest of a relationship would entail, yikes! Can you communicate with people without attacking them and accusing them? You also sound very passive-aggressive. 2
Teraskas Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 (edited) omg, why on earth you have a fwb??? you totally blow him. There's nothing more humiliating for a guy to know someone else is having sex with their girl. Next time, you need to keep your mouth shut! In all honesty, I'd prefer to meet a woman who is honest about her dating intentions and whatever (or better yet whoever) else she's doing on the side. Yet, such 'honesty' seems to be impossible to find, lol. Edited June 7, 2014 by Teraskas 1
Mrin Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 So let's get past the whole FWB thing for a second. The OP's most recent question is should the guy have gotten all defensive when asked why he's still on OLD after the first date. Defensive? Probably not. It isn't called for. But honestly the OP should have never asked or confronted him about it because it is unreasonable to expect him to go off of OLD after just one date. I think there is a whole series of threads devoted to this topic. I think his more appropriate reaction should be incredulity for even being confronted by this question. I actually think my response would have been similar like "hey, we've only been on one date" or maybe "why, we're not dating yet". I probably would have followed it up with some spin like "but would like nothing more than to fall for the right girl and retire that damn dating profile forever" and smile at her. Anyhow, to answer your second question OP: he shouldn't have gotten defensive but then again, you should have never confronted him on that subject.
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