LOSTnMT Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I have a friend who has been texting me on and off over the year. Last week we had this back and forth: Me: Hey do you golf? Her: No I dont...wish I did though Me: I want to take you golfing this weekend. Sat afternoon or Sun, you pick Her: I cant this weekend I am moving my son back to town this weekend. Can we do it another time? Me: Of course, Family should always come first! Travel safe Her:Always! Are you in town? Me Driving to (a town near hers) will be there in a few hours Her: Well if you are in town this Monday call me and we will do lunch Me: What time do you go to lunch? Her: I can go whenever Me: I will let you know, I have some work to do in my town Monday but it shouldnt take to long. Would be fun Her:Great Me: Have a great weekend and quit texting me and get some rest Her:You too! So on Monday morning I sent her this text Me: Still want to do lunch? 2 Hours later Her: I just got called into a meeting Me: OK Now I haven't heard from her for 3 days and I am not sure how to proceed, I am not good at texting because there is no flow and I don't know how to read the texts, its awkward What should I do and what happened?
J21 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I don't understand what you mean by "friend". What is your intention? Are you trying to date her in a romantic sense? You could've done without the "quit texting me" part. It sounded unnecessary even if it was in jest, and look what happened, you got exactly what you wanted. She quit texting! 3 days of no reply and the history of "texting me on and off over the year" is a bad sign. To be honest, I don't think she's all that interested. She's probably just bored and dragging you along as a esteem booster or something. Text her one more time, if she doesn't respond or give you a disinterest message move onto the next.
LustAppeal Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 Text reading is harder than mind reading my friend, communication without body language can throw conversations WAYYYY off. It's funny, in most cases a simple smiley face can throw it off. Example: Her: "Ok good night than." You're subconscious: "Is she mad, did I do something wrong, maybe she's just in a bad mood. Wait I'm over reacting, she's just saying goodnight right!" Example 2: Her: "Ok good night than! :rolleyes:" You're subconscious: I'm assuming it's different than above. What I am trying to get at here is that non of us can read this text without more information. How intimate have you two been in the past? How often do you text each other? How busy is she normally? How often are you in town? How often do you see her? What was her body language/attraction towards you last time you met? And so on. All I can tell you from the text above is that your reaction to her being called into a meeting is extremely defensive. It's almost like you're bluntly stating you don't believe her when instead you should have not jumped to conclusions and wish her luck. If you don't trust her and think the meeting is made up, ditch it or be blunt. Otherwise go for round two. I agree with J21. She might be trying to distance herself from you, but keeping you to fill a social gap.
Author LOSTnMT Posted June 6, 2014 Author Posted June 6, 2014 We were just friends, now I guess we are not. I am going to unfriend her on Facebook and go NC because you are right she is just using me to fill a void in life.
starrynightz45 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 (edited) The "quit texting me" was pretty rude. You have to understand she can't see you, your expression, the inflection of your voice, etc. All she can read is the text. Yea, I'm sure you meant it as a joke - but it's a pretty lame joke to begin with. Still, she doesn't seem all too interested. I'd let it go. Edited June 6, 2014 by starrynightz45
Author LOSTnMT Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 The "quit texting me" was pretty rude. You have to understand she can't see you, your expression, the inflection of your voice, etc. All she can read is the text. Yea, I'm sure you meant it as a joke - but it's a pretty lame joke to begin with. Still, she doesn't seem all too interested. I'd let it go. She gets it, it was sarcasm and it's just part of my dry sense of humor that I won't change for anyone it's who I am.
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