alexwood Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 this is gonna be tough to type 1)started dating this girl, she told me she had slept with 9 guys and she was age 19. lost her virginity at age 16. i was like whatever she seemes cool 2)first month everything is great though this guy she use to sleep around with called ehr asking why she was dating me 3)spent the night at her house and had a feeling i needed to see if she was texting that guy. she was. two weeks into our relationship he sent a text saying they should ****. she said "come to town" but he said "his car was broken down"...so then she said dont you have a girlfriend? get at me when your single 4)i got mad and confronted her. she said she didnt cheat on me and for some stupid reason i gave her another chance 5)a month later her brother told me she was sending the same guy nude pics. she said it was alright since we were fighting. i gave her another chance 6)3 months after that she lied to me by saying she was going to sleep when she went and hung out with that same guy. i found out and drove to go beat him up but she met me somehwere. then she sat there and asked if i would have dumped her if she did anything with him.....i gave her another chance\ 7)the next week the guy texted her asking to play call of duty and she said "im not home sexy " 8)the next night she told me shes glad the guy doesnt live in the same town as her 9)some guy was hitting on her on facebook saying to come over and all she said was "maybe some other time" 10) she was always ditching me for her girl friend 11)she was sexting her "sexting buddy" one night and she said she wanted him 12)we broke up but i stayed along, getting played thinking i had a chance. she ****ed a guy and lied to me about it because i saw her driving with someone.... 13)found out and called her a piece of **** 14)tried getting abc with her but she moved on to soe guy 15 years older looking back im ashamed at myself for not leaving her right away i dont blame her for any of this..i mean i do but its all my fault for not taking a stand and respecting myself 2
umirano Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 LOL, funny story. It looks like you can see through it now Sometimes... pretty fncked up girl, huh? And well, that's what you get for not putting your foot down. Was she so hot? I've done pretty dumb things myself with some girls, but I don't see my self getting past your #3... 2
jbelle6 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Personally, #5 skeeved me out. WHY oh WHY did her brother know about those pics? 2
barky2 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 That is what is called a ho fo sho. Get yourself checked. And ya why did her brother know about it?? * cringes * Barky 2
Keenly Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 You stuffed your head pretty far into the sand through the whole thing. Don't ever make that mistake again.
todreaminblue Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 (edited) breaking points vary especially in white knights......white knights are not beta alpha or omega......thats code.......if you join it together its actually god who decided who was what and where.......for all ......god is all those together she didnt need a white knight she didnt need you to help her she was helping herself to cake and eating it too it isnt your fault you tried that gave chances .....however long you stayed is never going to be as long as you are now not with her...... beign a white knight istn fro every guy or every girl......i have often been a white knight...normally when they leave or i leave they change.....fact because i became less a knight nore a pawn in a chess game.....black knightesess trump pawn and its its check please mate....... be a knight stay a knight .......best wishes ...knights rock when they actually do help a woman who needs help ....there are never any guarantees it wont be check mate.... i am looking for a white knight...not to save me ....but to help me help others.......stand beside me.......i am a loyal knight....you need one of those.....smilin.....hope you find her......good luck ...dont give up....if you become a pawn...you say check mate...game over..this isnt the game for me.. going back to my horsey now to youtube....lol....its actually a llama dont tell anyone....he thinks he is a horse...:bunny:..deb Edited June 5, 2014 by todreaminblue
Natsume21 Posted June 5, 2014 Posted June 5, 2014 Your "white knight beta story?" Guys, let me be the FIRST one to say this. STAY...OFF...BODYBUILDING FORUMS. Those guys are complete douches, and most of them don't get HALF as many women as they say they do, and will give you some misleading stories. Let me reiterate...not everyone is going to like you, be loyal to you, or be your friend. That's the trial and error of friendships and relationships. This chick had the clear signs of disloyalty(now don't feel sad, I know a girl in my town exactly like your ex. She got a poor schmuck waiting hand and feet for her while she is banging so many other guys.) from the get go. Not your fault, it's just in her nature. Guys, it's OKAY to be romantic, sweet, and caring, AS LONG AS IN THE PROCESS, you don't look desperate or seem weak to her. But don't be captain save-a ho. Let the wild ones go back into the wild into their STD-infested swamp nests, and live your life. This has been a PSA--Natsume21 2
Author alexwood Posted June 6, 2014 Author Posted June 6, 2014 i look back and i still feel hurt and agry at myself but i now know no second chances
barky2 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 .....pretty sure he was just showing how she did a wink face with the bodybuilding website... Do you even lift bro? Lmfao Barky Your "white knight beta story?" Guys, let me be the FIRST one to say this. STAY...OFF...BODYBUILDING FORUMS. Those guys are complete douches, and most of them don't get HALF as many women as they say they do, and will give you some misleading stories. Let me reiterate...not everyone is going to like you, be loyal to you, or be your friend. That's the trial and error of friendships and relationships. This chick had the clear signs of disloyalty(now don't feel sad, I know a girl in my town exactly like your ex. She got a poor schmuck waiting hand and feet for her while she is banging so many other guys.) from the get go. Not your fault, it's just in her nature. Guys, it's OKAY to be romantic, sweet, and caring, AS LONG AS IN THE PROCESS, you don't look desperate or seem weak to her. But don't be captain save-a ho. Let the wild ones go back into the wild into their STD-infested swamp nests, and live your life. This has been a PSA--Natsume21
Always Pondering Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 4)i got mad and confronted her. she said she didnt cheat on me and for some stupid reason i gave her another chance 5)a month later her brother told me she was sending the same guy nude pics. she said it was alright since we were fighting. i gave her another chance Haha oh man, I started losing it at this. At least you know much better now! As barky said, I'd get myself checked for STDs. Just be glad you didn't end up marrying this girl.
Author alexwood Posted June 6, 2014 Author Posted June 6, 2014 sometimes i still think why did she do this? the fact she would tell me she loved me ugh and i still cnat believe she asked if i would have dumped her if she did anything with him
lauri Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 sometimes i still think why did she do this? the fact she would tell me she loved me ugh and i still cnat believe she asked if i would have dumped her if she did anything with him Don't stress it man. This girl played you - good news is that next time you'll be prepared. She did this because she is a bad person...its simple. This experience can be spun off into a positive, you learned a lot of valuable lessons with her. All I saw with this girl is red flags everywhere. She clearly is lacking self confidence and self respect if she proceeded to be this way. The only person who lost here is her...she can continue to act this way with all these guys but I can guarantee that non of them will respect her. You will find a girl who will respect herself and you. This girl is not worth your time and effort.
johnsonracer Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 dude you can do better.... look at it as a positive. you now know to take a stand against future girls 1
umirano Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 sometimes i still think why did she do this? Some girls do everything to get a little love. So do guys of course, but they do different things. Girls like this throw themselves at everyone more or less. Guys could end up stalking the girl, pleading, writing ridiculous love letters or buying expensive gifts. But both end up looking stupid and a decent human being cannot have respect for them. the fact she would tell me she loved me ugh I think the phrase "I love you" gets thrown around way too much. The whole concept of love is being hollowed out by the sheer number of "I love yous" thrown around. Everybody loves everybody and everyTHING. Example: I love xxx's car! ... xxx's new house! etc. Why can't people say "I like this car, it's spacious." or "I like this house because of the big windows.". If your girl had told you "I like you a lot, you're fun to be with." or "I enjoy taking walks with you." or "Sex is great with you!" instead of the general "I love you" then you'd have known what she means. Because clearly she didn't love you as in never ever wanting to do something that hurts you. Maybe it's a thing in the English language. In my mother tongue we don't "love" so much. Anyway, maybe it'll help you taking it less serious with the next girl. and i still cnat believe she asked if i would have dumped her if she did anything with him Some people are very out of touch with the real world. But you can pat yourself on the shoulder, there's one human being who knows more about the real world now, because you taught her that this behavior will not get her a serious LTR. Isn't that something? I mean, in the long run we're all better off the more people understand how to be decent to one another. You lost a girl, but you contributed to a more sane humanity (if indeed she learns the lesson and adapts her behavior). Greetings Umirano
Author alexwood Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 i know she has some daddy issues.....could that play a part of it? her mom dies when she was 16 and thats when she started sleeping around. she got into fights with her dad and moved out for 2 years
umirano Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Yeah I guess losing a parent doesn't help. Is it the cause? Nope, but maybe she's lost a role model in her mother. Or not. Maybe she compensated the lack of closeness, a feeling of abandonment by sleeping around. Classic case of confusing love with sex. Or seeking love but getting sex. What do you mean by daddy issues? I heard it in the context of a girl being in too close contact with / having feelings for daddy. You said she'd fight with him.
Author alexwood Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 Yeah I guess losing a parent doesn't help. Is it the cause? Nope, but maybe she's lost a role model in her mother. Or not. Maybe she compensated the lack of closeness, a feeling of abandonment by sleeping around. Classic case of confusing love with sex. Or seeking love but getting sex. What do you mean by daddy issues? I heard it in the context of a girl being in too close contact with / having feelings for daddy. You said she'd fight with him. i always thought daddy issues meant having an oldr guy in a girls life..i know shes 20 and has slept with 3 or 4 guys in their 30s
umirano Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 i always thought daddy issues meant having an oldr guy in a girls life..i know shes 20 and has slept with 3 or 4 guys in their 30s I did a little research. Apparently it can mean many things ranging from competing with their mother over the sexual attention of their dad to issues arising from absent fathers to issues arising from abusive, violent or manipulative fathers. In either case it seems she didn't have a 'normal' RS with her father and maybe that resulted in her being desperate for love, or whatever her idea of that is.
Author alexwood Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 all i know is that it has totally ruined my self confidence
umirano Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Cheer up man. She was destructive. Celebrate the fact that you found out now and not, say, after you had something more serious with her. Some people marry girls like that. Imagine how bad that is. We all have to learn this *****. And pain is the only real teacher there is, unfortunately. It was inevitable, don't beat yourself up. It's life. You take a risk, get burned, learn and move on. I totally get that you're down, I really do. But I'm sure you agree with me that there's worse, right? There will be a next time where your risk taking will be rewarded, hang in there. Read some other threads. Others are struggling with the fact that they're still virgin at age xx or that they never even had a GF. And yet others have cancer or lost their child. You're really not so bad off.
umirano Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 If you get a chance, could you explain why you stuck so long with her? Or what do you think made you stay with her for so long. Did you feel like you had to "save" her? 1
umirano Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Umirano, you rock. Just saying. Thanks man, I dig the drift of your posts too.
Author alexwood Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 If you get a chance, could you explain why you stuck so long with her? Or what do you think made you stay with her for so long. Did you feel like you had to "save" her? i'm not sure why i did. i mean of course she did horrible things but i did like her and we would have alot of fun together. i just kept thinking maybe she will stop now also after we broke up, thinking of everything she did to me, i said alot of awful things to her. its like all the hurt and anger was built up in me and i just let it all out. i just feel bad about the things i said to her. i said some low stuff and it made me seem like a smaller person
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