PinkCarnations Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 There was a really cute guy who I met from online dating around last summer. He was always hot & cold and I could never tell whether or not he was genuinely interested in me. The last time we hung out, I thought we hit it off, but then he never talked to me again after the date (see last thread in my profile for details). The only contact he made was adding me on linkedin, which I accepted. I never contacted him again either (since he ignored my last text) except the other month, I messaged him a generic "happy birthday!" on Facebook (he added me back when we were talking). He saw the message but never replied. Anyways, just the other night, I received a text from him that said, "I hope you are doing well" with a smiley face. I replied the next morning, "hey! Thanks, how have u been?" He hasn't replied since. I really hate how much of an effect he has on me. I haven't fully moved on since the last time we hung out which was 7 months ago. I'm super attracted to him, and all the guys I've since encountered on online dating have not measured up. I also hate that I was finally getting over him (deleting his number, old messages, etc) and it's almost like he read my mind, because he had to come tugging at my heart. Why do guys do this? Was he simply mass texting all of his contacts, thinking of me on that particular night, looking for a one night stand? I really need a reality check right now. Also, what happens if he finally replies - should I ignore and call it a lost cause or continue the conversation? Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Sorry that he yanked your chain. Guess what? He's still doing it. Don't respond, just move on. You'll be happier in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
irresolute Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 He's joking around. He probably wants to know if you're still available for him, but guess what? It's just a test. Maybe he was bored. Maybe he was curious to see if you'd reply to him. Who knows. What do we know, is that he's not into you. I'm sorry. Please move on. DELETE< DELETE< DELETE...did I said it right? DELETE HIM! The reason you are not finding other guys attractive is because you're still hoping this jerk would be interested on you. Not gonna happen. I'm really sorry. Please read my threads for more info. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Why do guys do this? Was he simply mass texting all of his contacts, thinking of me on that particular night, looking for a one night stand? I really need a reality check right now. Also, what happens if he finally replies - should I ignore and call it a lost cause or continue the conversation? Move on from this guy. He dropped communication, ignored your text messages -- and there you go trying to throw bait with a happy birthday text to get him to talk to you. He was hot and cold when you were with him and he's still doing it. When do you get the message? He's only sniffing because he's either bored or just needing some ego boosting attention. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Move on from this guy. He dropped communication, ignored your text messages -- and there you go trying to throw bait with a happy birthday text to get him to talk to you. He was hot and cold when you were with him and he's still doing it. When do you get the message? He's only sniffing because he's either bored or just needing some ego boosting attention. This. I've been that hot and cold guy in the past - I'm sorry to admit. When I got "hot" again it was due to boredom, or curiosity, or even a genuine passing interest. It was never due to a change of heart or a sustainable interest. When a man sees something he wants, he goes out and gets it. The fact that he went so dark for so long means all he wants is a causal dating encounter (at best) and at worst wants to see how quickly you pounce just to bolster his ego. Move along. Don't respond. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Are you hung up on him because you had sex, and he had complete emotional control over you? If that's the case, I'm sorry. You gave him that power. I hope that's not the case. Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Please let go of the guy who couldn't be bothered with you for seven months! You're worth more than this. You should DEMAND more than this. You owe yourself better than this. Don't spend your life pining away for some jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 6, 2014 Share Posted June 6, 2014 He is bored. Ignore. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted June 6, 2014 Share Posted June 6, 2014 He is definitely not into you. Under no circumstances do men ignore women for months at a ttime when they are into them. Go no contact and cease having any communication with him. He doesn't like you that much and it won't ever change. The way a guy feels about you doesn't sudden go from him only seeing you as an option for when he's bored (this is how he feels about you), to suddenly m having an epiphany that he is actually really into you and wants to be your boyfriend. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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